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mehdone

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I'm a mortician, and I figure I might as well be a resource while I'm here.

So, here's your chance to ask anything you like.

Things like:
-Can I have an open casket if I…?
-What happens to my body after the fact?
-What happens to my body between when I'm found and buried/cremated/etc?
-What can I do to make things easier on my loved one's as far as funeral arrangements and paperwork, etc?
And any other questions that I might be able to answer.

Ask away.
 
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ClownWorld2023

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How long can my body stay in my room after dying, before noticeably decomposing?
 
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Done_Surviving

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Sep 17, 2023
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What kind of drugs do you check for during autopsies? Are there any easy access drugs that can go seemingly undetected so that the death can be ruled as of natural causes?
What can I do to make things easier on my loved one's as far as funeral arrangements and paperwork, etc? Is it the same all around the world, or different if I live outside the US?
 
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Tbh i don't really care about what my body will become after my death. But i was wandering, isn't it depressing to work on those kind of jobs ?
 
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Done_Surviving

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Tbh i don't really care about what my body will become after my death. But i was wandering, isn't it depressing to work on those kind of jobs ?
Yeah, I always wondered, how does one become a mortician? Do you have to go to med school? tbh, I was very interested in the job for a while but ended up deciding that it wasn't worth it because I was too sensitive and too mentally messed up already.
 
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Are there any easy access drugs that can go seemingly undetected so that the death can be ruled as of natural causes?
Succinylcholine chloride. Not easy to get though, unless you bang an anesthesiologist.
 
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mehdone

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How long can my body stay in my room after dying, before noticeably decomposing?
Decomposition starts at death, but the rate of it depends highly on temperature, and environment.

There are ways to delay or slow down decomposition- primarily by reducing temperature. If you have an air conditioning unit you can put on blast- you'll be fine if you're not found for 48+ hours. You shouldn't start bloating or anything, assuming this is done indoors. You still won't be pleasant to see when found.

Outside is a completely different story- we introduce things like animals, uncontrollable temperatures, bacteria.

The colder the better, and the colder you are, the longer you can go without visibly decomposing. To give you a better understanding of this- morgue and mortuary body coolers are kept at or below 48 degrees F, 8.88 degrees C. At that temperature, a body can continue to look okay for a couple weeks- beyond that, it may not show signs of decomposition, but it will start to get a serious funky smell.

Water deaths are a completely different story.
 
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FRUSTRATED MIND

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Oct 2, 2023
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What happens to my body after take some poison and then hanging myself (consequently I'm likely to be dead)?
 
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mehdone

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Oct 10, 2023
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What kind of drugs do you check for during autopsies? Are there any easy access drugs that can go seemingly undetected so that the death can be ruled as of natural causes?
What can I do to make things easier on my loved one's as far as funeral arrangements and paperwork, etc? Is it the same all around the world, or different if I live outside the US?
I'm not a coroner, so I don't do autopsies- but I am quite familiar with them. I'm the one that fills out the death certificate after the coroner has done the autopsy, as well as the one that handles your body after, and takes care of your final disposition.

There are some drugs that cause a heart attack that may be overlooked. I believe those are covered in the PPeH.

As far as methods that are most likely to not be ruled as suicide:

-"Accidental" overdose. Person thought they were buying straight coke, but someone mixed fentanyl in it, or someone thought they were buying Percocet/Oxy/Whatever, but it was fentanyl. Keep in mind that if the source of your drugs can be found (via phone records, surveillance cams outside of businesses, etc.), depending on where you live, you are likely to cause that dealer to receive a homicide charge.

-Car/Motorcycle accident. Keep in mind that there are some signs that will cause suspicion. For example, your brakes were working but there was no sign of braking prior to you slamming into that pole/bridge support/etc. this can be written off if you're under the influence, however, you really shouldn't be under the influence and drive, because then you're risking *other* people's lives who didn't choose to ctb.

-"Slipping" off a steep cliff on a hiking trail. This can be complicated by witnesses, or time of day- it will be suspicious if you were hiking at night when you weren't known to do that. Maybe pose for an awesome selfie right before you "slip", just in case anyone can see.

As far as making things easier on your loved ones- Set up a prepaid "pre-need". Go to the funeral home of your choice, and tell them that you want to make sure that your funeral arrangements are taken care of, so that you can take that burden off of your family.

This is a common thing for people of all ages to do- it's not suspicious. It just means you're thinking ahead, and that if the worst were to happen, you want to help take the burden off of your family. It's no more suspicious than taking out a life insurance policy- you're doing your best to make sure the people you love are taken care of.

While making this pre-need, you get to spell out exactly what you want to happen- cremation, burial, etc. You get to pick if you want a service or not- and pick your coffin/casket, or urn, or if you want to be scattered and where, how. Hell, there are even services that can launch part of your cremated remains into space.

You sign all of your paperwork, so that loved ones don't have to. Most funeral homes also offer travel insurance, so that if you die away from home, your body will be transported back.

Pre-arrangements will vary from country to country, but your local funeral home will be happy to set you up with one and let you know its limitations.

In most parts of the world, pre-paid prearrangements are legally binding, and they can't be varied from. So if, for example, you don't want a service, but you want your loved ones to be able to purchase a funeral service to grieve you if they want? You need to state that you are okay with that.

Other important paperwork- a will and a living will. Especially the living will. Some places call that an Advanced Medical Directive or Advanced Directive. This is a legal document that spells out your wishes for medical care if you're unable to speak for yourself, for example, if you're in a coma.

It spells out what should be done and when, so that your loved one isn't left making the decision to pull the plug if you fail.

To those whose questions I haven't answered yet- I'll get to you later tonight.
Tbh i don't really care about what my body will become after my death. But i was wandering, isn't it depressing to work on those kind of jobs ?
Yes. It's soul crushing.

Most folks get into this line of work for one of two reasons:

-family business
Or,
-they have experienced a lot of loss in their life, and feel they can use that experience to help others

Most cases may not affect you, but some will absolutely hit you in the feels or hit too close to home.
Yeah, I always wondered, how does one become a mortician? Do you have to go to med school? tbh, I was very interested in the job for a while but ended up deciding that it wasn't worth it because I was too sensitive and too mentally messed up already.
It depends on where you live. Some countries it's an apprenticeship l, where you basically work under someone until you're experienced enough to do it on your own.

Some countries require a college degree in mortuary or funeral science.

Some countries require a combination of both.

Honestly, I think most of us in this profession are mentally ill to some degree- and that can be a good thing, or a bad thing, depending on the circumstances.
 
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Oct 8, 2023
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can i ask, is it really true that men have a harder time getting hired for mortician jobs because of necrophilia?
 
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Can you elaborate on the car "accident" method? Anything will help, thank you!
 
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mehdone

Mortician
Oct 10, 2023
294
What happens to my body after take some poison and then hanging myself (consequently I'm likely to be dead)?
Hanging deaths visually are not good. Poison deaths depend on the poison.

Visually, there will be swelling of the head. Depending on the poison used and whether or not it had time to take effect, there may be discoloration from that as well.

As far as what actually happens to your body- you will evacuate your bowels and bladder. Once you are found, a coroner will come to the scene and take photographs and document everything. After they've completed their initial investigation, your body will be transported to the coroner's office, usually by a contracted funeral home- but in some places the coroner transports you themselves. You'll be placed into refrigeration until it's time for your autopsy- most anyone who wasn't on hospice care gets an autopsy. During the autopsy, your chest will be cut open in a Y incision. Your cranium will be cut open. Samples of organs and blood will be taken. Photographs and documentation. Once the autopsy is over, they will treat your body cavity with formalin. They'll put your viscera into a biohazard bag and put it back in your chest cavity. Then they'll do a typically poor job of stitching your chest and head back together, and you'll be released to a funeral home.

What happens to your body after that is up to your pre-need plan or your family. Embalming? No embalming? Viewing? Burial? Cremation? Service?
can i ask, is it really true that men have a harder time getting hired for mortician jobs because of necrophilia?
No. This industry has been primarily male dominated for a long time. Females are actually starting to become more common- but that wasn't the case for a very long time.

A mortician is no more likely to be a necrophiliac than a school teacher is likely to be a pedophile.

There ain't nothing sexy about a dead body.
 
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february in alaska

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Sep 13, 2023
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This is more of a personal opinion rather than an objective question, but do you think open caskets help the grieving process in any way? Particularly for parents who have lost their kids. Have you personally worked on (for lack of a better term) kids? Is it emotionally taxing, or are you detached at this point?

Sorry, that's actually three questions. I find your field of work really fascinating, even if I could never do it myself.
 
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mehdone

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Can you elaborate on the car "accident" method? Anything will help, thank you!
Sure.

It's pretty common for folks to not wear a seatbelt, so that wouldn't be considered suspicious.

If there is any kind of mechanical problem with the vehicle, that is much more likely to be written off as accidental. Most people don't check their brake fluid level or brake pad wear prior to each drive.

Lots of people speed.

And sometimes, people swerve sharply to avoid an animal running across the road.

What's suspicious is when someone drives straight into something, with no sign of reaction. Car accident scenes are documented heavily, and a sharp swerve or braking will leave rubber on the road.

If I was going to go this method- I'd probably wear my brake pads down to an inch of their life- like when they start squealing. I'd drive fast- I'm known to speed. Real shortly before hitting something, I'd hit the brakes to leave some skid marks- because that shows it wasn't intentional, and was truly an accident. Maybe I was fiddling with my phone or otherwise distracted prior to suddenly realizing that I was about to hit the thing.
This is more of a personal opinion rather than an objective question, but do you think open caskets help the grieving process in any way? Particularly for parents who have lost their kids. Have you personally worked on (for lack of a better term) kids? Is it emotionally taxing, or are you detached at this point?

Sorry, that's actually three questions. I find your field of work really fascinating, even if I could never do it myself.
For any traumatic or unexpected death, open caskets can help a lot, depending on the person.

It can help make it real. If your loved one was alive and healthy one day, and then suddenly died? Yeah, seeing their body can help finalize it, and it can help the grieving process to be a more healthy one.

For others, it's not helpful. No matter how peacefully that body is displayed, sometimes it's better to not have that in your mind as your last image of them.

For parents who have lost kids- yes, they need that closure.when possible. The picture someone forms in their mind of how their loved ones body looks after death is often far worse than the truth. This isn't the case in drowning deaths where they weren't found for a while, or burn victims- no parent should see that.

A properly skilled mortician can do some magic with restorative art. We can rebuild your entire face, or make you look younger than you did at your age of death.

We can remove those signs of illness.

I've worked on people of all ages. The younger ones are the worst- especially teenagers and early twenties, where they were just getting started in life and had so much potential. It's incredibly emotionally taxing, and all deaths prior to their time- ie, prior to old age- they stick with you. They drain away bits of yourself. You remember their faces. You remember their names. You remember their family's grief, and you share in it silently.
 
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Former mortician here, I just want to thank your hard work. I know how sad it can be sometimes. It's quite isolating too. It's usually you & the body in a cold lab, it messes you up a lil bit
 
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mehdone

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Former mortician here, I just want to thank your hard work. I know how sad it can be sometimes. It's quite isolating too. It's usually you & the body in a cold lab, it messes you up a lil bit
Thanks. Yeah, most of the time it's a thankless job that just drains the hell out of you.

Sometimes you can make a difference in a good way, and sometimes families recognize that.

Kudos to you as well for doing this line of work. It sure as hell isn't easy.
 
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letmejoindeath

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Oct 15, 2023
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I'm not a coroner, so I don't do autopsies- but I am quite familiar with them. I'm the one that fills out the death certificate after the coroner has done the autopsy, as well as the one that handles your body after, and takes care of your final disposition.

There are some drugs that cause a heart attack that may be overlooked. I believe those are covered in the PPeH.

As far as methods that are most likely to not be ruled as suicide:

-"Accidental" overdose. Person thought they were buying straight coke, but someone mixed fentanyl in it, or someone thought they were buying Percocet/Oxy/Whatever, but it was fentanyl. Keep in mind that if the source of your drugs can be found (via phone records, surveillance cams outside of businesses, etc.), depending on where you live, you are likely to cause that dealer to receive a homicide charge.

-Car/Motorcycle accident. Keep in mind that there are some signs that will cause suspicion. For example, your brakes were working but there was no sign of braking prior to you slamming into that pole/bridge support/etc. this can be written off if you're under the influence, however, you really shouldn't be under the influence and drive, because then you're risking *other* people's lives who didn't choose to ctb.

-"Slipping" off a steep cliff on a hiking trail. This can be complicated by witnesses, or time of day- it will be suspicious if you were hiking at night when you weren't known to do that. Maybe pose for an awesome selfie right before you "slip", just in case anyone can see.

As far as making things easier on your loved ones- Set up a prepaid "pre-need". Go to the funeral home of your choice, and tell them that you want to make sure that your funeral arrangements are taken care of, so that you can take that burden off of your family.

This is a common thing for people of all ages to do- it's not suspicious. It just means you're thinking ahead, and that if the worst were to happen, you want to help take the burden off of your family. It's no more suspicious than taking out a life insurance policy- you're doing your best to make sure the people you love are taken care of.

While making this pre-need, you get to spell out exactly what you want to happen- cremation, burial, etc. You get to pick if you want a service or not- and pick your coffin/casket, or urn, or if you want to be scattered and where, how. Hell, there are even services that can launch part of your cremated remains into space.

You sign all of your paperwork, so that loved ones don't have to. Most funeral homes also offer travel insurance, so that if you die away from home, your body will be transported back.

Pre-arrangements will vary from country to country, but your local funeral home will be happy to set you up with one and let you know its limitations.

In most parts of the world, pre-paid prearrangements are legally binding, and they can't be varied from. So if, for example, you don't want a service, but you want your loved ones to be able to purchase a funeral service to grieve you if they want? You need to state that you are okay with that.

Other important paperwork- a will and a living will. Especially the living will. Some places call that an Advanced Medical Directive or Advanced Directive. This is a legal document that spells out your wishes for medical care if you're unable to speak for yourself, for example, if you're in a coma.

It spells out what should be done and when, so that your loved one isn't left making the decision to pull the plug if you fail.

To those whose questions I haven't answered yet- I'll get to you later tonight.

Yes. It's soul crushing.

Most folks get into this line of work for one of two reasons:

-family business
Or,
-they have experienced a lot of loss in their life, and feel they can use that experience to help others

Most cases may not affect you, but some will absolutely hit you in the feels or hit too close to home.

It depends on where you live. Some countries it's an apprenticeship l, where you basically work under someone until you're experienced enough to do it on your own.

Some countries require a college degree in mortuary or funeral science.

Some countries require a combination of both.

Honestly, I think most of us in this profession are mentally ill to some degree- and that can be a good thing, or a bad thing, depending on the circumstances.
What if I just want them to cremate me then dump me in the trash?
 
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mehdone

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What if I just want them to cremate me then dump me in the trash?
Dumping you in the trash isn't an option. I get the feeling, but it's not an option, even in your pre-need. You can choose to be scattered somewhere if you like.

If you're unclaimed, you'll be cremated and put into a mass grave.

You won't go in the trash.

I guess maybe, depending on where you live, you could state that you want to be scattered over the dump. That's about the best you're going to do.
 
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brokeandbroken

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What kind of drugs do you check for during autopsies? Are there any easy access drugs that can go seemingly undetected so that the death can be ruled as of natural causes?
What can I do to make things easier on my loved one's as far as funeral arrangements and paperwork, etc? Is it the same all around the world, or different if I live outside the US?
Not easy to access but someone posted about insulin.... That would be relatively undetectable especially if you are diabetic.
Dumping you in the trash isn't an option. I get the feeling, but it's not an option, even in your pre-need. You can choose to be scattered somewhere if you like.

If you're unclaimed, you'll be cremated and put into a mass grave.

You won't go in the trash.

I guess maybe, depending on where you live, you could state that you want to be scattered over the dump. That's about the best you're going to do.
What happens if you have no family who cares or friends. No one to claim your body? I assume you are cremated as it is cheaper. What happens with the ashes?

Edit: Family is alive they just don't care. To be honest.... I'd prefer to just labeled indigent honestly... Them claiming it makes it seems like they possess me when they have ran from any responsibility in doing so. Not that the state has done any better. But... Those are the two options...
 
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Thank you for inviting questions about this topic - I really appreciate it because I've been scouring the web to no avail to answer one burning question.

Typically, can one be cremated with a personal object? I've heard it's an option, but I have no confirmation that it is in my specific country (Australia). I'm considering to be cremated with a stuffed animal that's special to me; it should pose no hazard to cremate and it's just as flammable as I am so I'm hoping it's possible.
 
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What would happen to an unidentified and unclaimed body that just has a note (non-legally binding) that describes what should be done to it? How likely would a pathologist/funeral director/etc. be to not sew and/or cremate/bury the head and the body (decapitated) together if it's requested?
 
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mehdone

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Not easy to access but someone posted about insulin.... That would be relatively undetectable especially if you are diabetic.

What happens if you have no family who cares or friends. No one to claim your body? I assume you are cremated as it is cheaper. What happens with the ashes?

Edit: Family is alive they just don't care. To be honest.... I'd prefer to just labeled indigent honestly... Them claiming it makes it seems like they possess me when they have ran from any responsibility in doing so. Not that the state has done any better. But... Those are the two options...
If you're unclaimed, depending on your location- you will be kept in a cooler for 30 days while the coroner or funeral home does their best to find anyone related to you, typically a simple background search followed by calling any phone number that results. After that, you're likely to be cremated. Most locations have a once a year "funeral" where they inter all unclaimed cremated remains in a mass grave. Some locations will keep you separate, and bury multiple individual urns/temporary containers/bags/boxes in the same grave- which means that if, down the road, someone claims you- they can retrieve you.

Coroners typically have a contract with one or more local funeral home for "discount" cremations, which helps keep the cost down for the taxpayers who pay for your disposition if you're unclaimed.
Thank you for inviting questions about this topic - I really appreciate it because I've been scouring the web to no avail to answer one burning question.

Typically, can one be cremated with a personal object? I've heard it's an option, but I have no confirmation that it is in my specific country (Australia). I'm considering to be cremated with a stuffed animal that's special to me; it should pose no hazard to cremate and it's just as flammable as I am so I'm hoping it's possible.
You can absolutely be cremated with a personal object. If you want to make sure this happens, make sure to spell it out in your pre-need and make sure that object can be easily found.

There are some exceptions- no batteries can be cremated, as it causes an explosion hazard. This is why any pacemakers, etc. will be removed prior to cremation. You cannot be cremated with your pet. Technically, you can't even be buried with your pet in most locations- but a good funeral director will tell you that if your loved one wants to place an object in the foot of your casket, it's not their business what it is- as long as it's not obviously an issue. Unmarked box, etc. is perfect. I've had folks bring in a jacket for their loved one to be buried in that was suspiciously heavy- while I do need to check the pockets, I don't need to cut open those sewn in compartments. There's a lot of clothing out there, and some have padding in weird places.

After you've been cremated, if a few more ounces of cremated remains get added to your cremated remains prior to burial? No one weighs the cremated remains.

It's completely appropriate to ask the funeral director for some time alone with the remains of your loved one.

I'm not sure if I answered or over answered your question, so please feel free to ask for clarification- that goes for all of ya'll.
What would happen to an unidentified and unclaimed body that just has a note (non-legally binding) that describes what should be done to it? How likely would a pathologist/funeral director/etc. be to not sew and/or cremate/bury the head and the body (decapitated) together if it's requested?
Unidentified and unclaimed bodies typically get cremated. See one of my above replies for more details on that. Some locations have a "potter's field", where your body will be buried whole, unembalmed and uncremated. This is rare. I think New York in the US has this, but I'm not aware of any other locations.

A non-legally binding note has no effect other than to potentially guide your loved ones on their decisions of what to do with your remains.

All parts of your body that are able to be found will be buried or cremated together. Every location that I'm aware of requires this.

A coroner is likely to at least poorly stitch your head back on before releasing you to a funeral home. It'd be similar to a basic autopsy completion- and if you were decapitated, you'll definitely be getting an autopsy. After you've been released to a funeral home, it's up to your pre-need or family to decide if there should be more restorative art for a viewing, or if you should just be cremated or buried as-is.

How we would go about properly reattaching that head for a viewing is a whole different story.
 
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Someone in the death sentence industry also joined earlier this month @cartdog . They haven't been on in a bit and might not even come back but I'm tagging them anyway because they said they felt isolated and drained by the nature of their work for similar reasons as you and maybe this thread will help.

Some various questions jf you want to answer them. How long have you worked in this job?Were you suicidal when you started? How does it feel to be suicidal while having this job? How has it affected how you view death? What approximate percentage of the bodies you deal with are suicides? Are all of your colleagues and peers respectful and professional?
 
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mehdone

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Someone in the death sentence industry also joined earlier this month @cartdog . They haven't been on in a bit and might not even come back but I'm tagging them anyway because they said they felt isolated and drained by the nature of their work for similar reasons as you and maybe this thread will help.

Some various questions jf you want to answer them. How long have you worked in this job?Were you suicidal when you started? How does it feel to be suicidal while having this job? How has it affected how you view death? What approximate percentage of the bodies you deal with are suicides? Are all of your colleagues and peers respectful and professional?
I've been doing this for over a decade.
I've wanted to ctb pretty much constantly for over 2.5 decades.
Honestly, it helps a bit to not give into the want to die when you constantly see the effect death has on others.

My view on death is… well, it's damn final, and it hurts like hell for those left behind. That's not really shocking information. I can't say I'm numb to it now, but there does have to be some detachment in this profession.

The vast majority of colleagues and peers are respectful and professional. We do have a real dark sense of humor- it's part of how we deal with death every day. There are some of us who are burnt out and shouldn't be in the industry anymore. This is a profession that costs you personally. You don't make enough money to make up for the emotional, mental, physical, or life tolls.

This profession also takes you away from your family- because when someone dies, you need to be available. It doesn't matter if it's a birthday, anniversary, etc.

It's a real bitch, and I don't recommend it.

Suicides are a pretty low percentage of cases. I'd say well under 5%.
 
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SmollMushroom

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What's the worst case you've ever seen?
I know corpses left in the water for too long do not look good, right?
 
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Hanging deaths visually are not good. Poison deaths depend on the poison.

Visually, there will be swelling of the head. Depending on the poison used and whether or not it had time to take effect, there may be discoloration from that as well.

As far as what actually happens to your body- you will evacuate your bowels and bladder. Once you are found, a coroner will come to the scene and take photographs and document everything. After they've completed their initial investigation, your body will be transported to the coroner's office, usually by a contracted funeral home- but in some places the coroner transports you themselves. You'll be placed into refrigeration until it's time for your autopsy- most anyone who wasn't on hospice care gets an autopsy. During the autopsy, your chest will be cut open in a Y incision. Your cranium will be cut open. Samples of organs and blood will be taken. Photographs and documentation. Once the autopsy is over, they will treat your body cavity with formalin. They'll put your viscera into a biohazard bag and put it back in your chest cavity. Then they'll do a typically poor job of stitching your chest and head back together, and you'll be released to a funeral home.

What happens to your body after that is up to your pre-need plan or your family. Embalming? No embalming? Viewing? Burial? Cremation? Service?

No. This industry has been primarily male dominated for a long time. Females are actually starting to become more common- but that wasn't the case for a very long time.

A mortician is no more likely to be a necrophiliac than a school teacher is likely to be a pedophile.

There ain't nothing sexy about a dead body.
Thanks a lot for clarifying my question 🙏🏼
 
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mehdone

Mortician
Oct 10, 2023
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What's the worst case you've ever seen?
I know corpses left in the water for too long do not look good, right?
The worst case I've seen was someone who was swept downstream in a river in the height of summer, and their body wasn't recovered for about two weeks. Water causes severe bloating and discoloration, as well as bites from fish and whatnot.

There was also one where a person was inside, and wasn't found for a couple months. That one was highly unpleasant as well.
 
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emptymiku

emptymiku

bokura wa inochi ni kirawarete iru
Mar 27, 2023
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I'm a mortician, and I figure I might as well be a resource while I'm here.

So, here's your chance to ask anything you like.

Things like:
-Can I have an open casket if I…?
-What happens to my body after the fact?
-What happens to my body between when I'm found and buried/cremated/etc?
-What can I do to make things easier on my loved one's as far as funeral arrangements and paperwork, etc?
And any other questions that I might be able to answer.

Ask away.
If someone were to hang themself and break their neck by falling a few feet, how mangled would the body look upon discovery? Would there be blood?
 
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mehdone

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If someone were to hang themself and break their neck by falling a few feet, how mangled would the body look upon discovery? Would there be blood?
A fall of only a few feet is unlikely to break the neck. You'll die of suffocation, and it's likely that SI will kick in and you may claw at your neck to try to get the rope off and breathe- and that could cause bleeding.

The body itself, when found- evacuation of bowels and bladder. Facial swelling and tongue swelling. Petechial hemorrhaging, particularly in and around the eyes. Cyanosis- (turning blue, most prominent in lips and fingernails).
 
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Don't you dare go hollow...
Nov 25, 2019
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Yes, I have a question please. How hard, really, do you think it is to die? I mean, we all think about it a lot, maybe even to the point of overthinking it and expecting to go in a grand way, perhaps with complications, and yet, I could imagine, when that day comes on average most people probably didn't think they'd die that day, right? Depending on where you're practicing you must've seen all manner of accidental/sudden deaths. Thank you.
 
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