NSFW Let's be honest about sex boys and girls

[cambrai33]

My bad I should have just said he's pathetic instead

You ok?

 

[Silenos]

I mean i do simp for Timothee Chalamet so... yeah..

I too simp for Timothée Chalamet... and Henry Cavill, and Ewan McGregor...
wait what was this thread about again?

 

[layne2001]

What is your problem? Maybe just don't comment at all then. What's pathetic is feeling the need to insult members and tell them to off themselves, when you could have just scrolled on. Disgusting behaviour.

Damn chill girl

 

[Julgran]

Damn chill girl

We all know that you are feeling down, if you are here for genuine concerns. Feel free to create your own thread and ask us for input about your personal problems, if you wish, but please try to not be so condescending.

 

[goldenvirginia]

Damn chill girl

You told someone to kill them self. You may think that's ok, but nobody else does.

 

[LastLoveLetter]

Damn chill girl

Damn stop suggesting that people kill themselves girl...

If you are struggling, I'm sorry. Genuinely. However, everyone here is struggling. None of us are here because we are having an amazing time in life. Telling people they're pathetic, that they must have an "insufferable personality" (as you stated on another thread) and to kill themselves isn't okay.

 

[cambrai33]

Words here can have fatal consequences

I don't know why you are lashing out right now but please put yourself in the place of others and how comments like that would make you feel, especially when suicidal

 

[Suicidebydeath]

If you only want sex continue to hire sex workers and stop feeling ashamed of it.
You never mentioned a loving relationship, which is much more fulfilling than only two bodies getting together. It makes me sad to think women are only seen as a means to get sexual relief. Sad for you.

See I wasn't going to post in this thread at all. I was felt like omg another sex thread already. But then there are posts like this! :)

Anything sex related in this forum goes crazy. We might as well create a sexion for it.

:D

Also hearting @hotelbeneathground's posts is a thing because finding love with CPTSD is the dream!(for me) and what they're posting is relatable. Like there are definitely things I only want to do or enjoy the most with my partner that is not just sex!! I might turn bi for him even though he's already taken.

Anyway romantic and platonic love also has high value. My two cents.

 

[…juulpod…]

I developed a biting disorder as a kid and nobody did anything about it because nobody cared about my existence and well-being, so i ended up being an ugly adult. I was always pretty sensitive and despite of always being quite interested in sex, i used to think i would eventually find real love and only then have sex. This until i finally realized at 25 that i was really not attractive enough and paying for sex would be the only way for me to get any.

Thing is, ive been looking around and it seems to me that a even a lot of the attractive men pay for sex. And even when there is no money involved it almost seems like there is always something extra in for the women, some ego or status sort of a thing. I mean do women generally even want to have sex with men just for the sex? Is it that.. "meh" for women?

This is a pretty important question for me since i feel self-destructive and it has a bit to do with the fact that i can't get any without paying for it.

To put it bluntly, It would be pretty easy to find someone poorer than me and bring her to my country, where she can have a better life with the downside of having to take my dick every now and then. But i already know that i wont be enjoying any of it if I'm feeling ashamed for it all the time. So i'd rather just ctb.

something I read a while ago that might give some insight into this situation is "women have sex with who they want, men have sex with who they can." Gross overgeneralization obviously but true in some cases.

 

[Suicidebydeath]

Yes you can do all of the above with other people, but all of the above experiences are much richer when you share them with someone you are in love with. Also, it is unlkely you are going to share meals and laughs and other experiences every day with one other person unless it is a person you are in love with.

This!! <- see my custom title. Everything is better when it is with someone you're in love with!

 

[cambrai33]

I decided on suicide back in mid-2019 and paid for a couple overnight stays with an escort months a part. This was how I lost my virginity and I have no regrets although if I weren't set on killing myself I'm sure it never would've came to that but life has been full of surprises for me. Sure, it's not ideal or romantic but I had been set on not dying a virgin at nearly any cost.

Hey

Just checking in with you. I truly don't think the comment was aimed at you personally, it could have been any one of us. Hope you are ok

 

[Silenos]

...Idris Elba, Chris Evans, Chris Hemsworth, Dev Patel, Keanu Reeves, Ryan Reynolds...

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

I have a friend who's not so good looking, and is high on the autism spectrum. He has a couple sex dolls and is extremely happy with his life. If you're looking into exhausting all options, this could be a viable solution for you, since you seem to have a sex addiction and don't seem to care much about the emotional connection

... Just no.

I'm not a silly teen, I'm 40. I am fully aware of everything that can go wrong in a relationship & I'm not afraid because I have nothing left to lose in life except my partner. I choose to be trusting & vulnerable, I refuse to be paranoid & cynical.

Thats nice, good for you

 

[Suicidebydeath]

...Idris Elba, Chris Evans, Chris Hemsworth, Dev Patel, Keanu Reeves, Ryan Reynolds...

is this guys like @hotelbeneathground ? :)

anyway, hot

 

[Wayfaerer]

Hey

Just checking in with you. I truly don't think the comment was aimed at you personally, it could have been any one of us. Hope you are ok

I didn't even know what you were talking about until I looked at the comment below mine lol yeah no prob.

 

[S like suicide]

I developed a biting disorder as a kid and nobody did anything about it because nobody cared about my existence and well-being, so i ended up being an ugly adult. I was always pretty sensitive and despite of always being quite interested in sex, i used to think i would eventually find real love and only then have sex. This until i finally realized at 25 that i was really not attractive enough and paying for sex would be the only way for me to get any.

Thing is, ive been looking around and it seems to me that a even a lot of the attractive men pay for sex. And even when there is no money involved it almost seems like there is always something extra in for the women, some ego or status sort of a thing. I mean do women generally even want to have sex with men just for the sex? Is it that.. "meh" for women?

This is a pretty important question for me since i feel self-destructive and it has a bit to do with the fact that i can't get any without paying for it.

To put it bluntly, It would be pretty easy to find someone poorer than me and bring her to my country, where she can have a better life with the downside of having to take my dick every now and then. But i already know that i wont be enjoying any of it if I'm feeling ashamed for it all the time. So i'd rather just ctb.

You never fallen in love...sex without love is your problem,baby

 

[Suicidebydeath]

I always pay for myself. Never rely on anyone for those things

Exactly!

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

You never fallen in love...sex without love is your problem,baby

Ive experienced infatuation. But surely this is not what you mean with love? You can feel that for a total stranger. In fact, you can only feel that for a stranger.

 

[Rayzieka]

I can see how some of your negative options can be valid but in my opinion and from what I've experienced the people who only want certain things from whichever gender they're attracted to are unusual.
Regardless of what someone looks like love is very possible.
For me it's entirely based on personality and then I begin to want to be closer to that person, sexual or not.

 

[Silenos]

is this guys like @hotelbeneathground ? :)

anyway, hot

Hey now, you didn't have to say that out loud!

 

[lonerclown666]

Not every person will be loved in this world i am those of that persons i will die alone love in this world is superficial

 

[S like suicide]

Ive experienced infatuation. But surely this is not what you mean with love? You can feel that for a total stranger. In fact, you can only feel that for a stranger.

No I meant love ... you have never experienced what it means to be truly in love otherwise you would not have made the discussions you did .... but I wish you so:)

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

I can see how some of your negative options can be valid but in my opinion and from what I've experienced the people who only want certain things from whichever gender they're attracted to are unusual.
Regardless of what someone looks like love is very possible.
For me it's entirely based on personality and then I begin to want to be closer to that person, sexual or not.

If i go to some app like tinder and put my face in there i get likes from 2 types

1) Very overweight women (i'm slim myself) It's a huge turn-off for me. Just no can do.
2) Single mothers. Take care of my kid and maybe ill let you ball me one day types.

In fact, any time any woman who didn't fit in these categories gave me attention, she was just a b*tch who tried to to manipulate me for some attention. HAHA made you flinch. Pathetic. It's really baffling how absolutely pathetic some absolutely gorgeous looking people are.

Question is, where are the ugly women? I would love to just have a girlfriend with a history of biting problem like myself. Maybe they are too ashamed of themselves to use tinder. Maybe we have to create tinder for the ugly.

No I meant love ... you have never experienced what it means to be truly in love otherwise you would not have made the discussions you did .... but I wish you so:)

I don't believe in it's existence. Ive felt all other emotions in my life except this so called love. And i'm a quite empathic. for a man.

 

[PeacefulTonic]

If i go to some app like tinder and put my face in there i get likes from 2 types

1) Very overweight women (i'm slim myself) It's a huge turn-off for me. Just no can do.
2) Single mothers. Take care of my kid and maybe ill let you ball me one day types.

In fact, any time any woman who didn't fit in these categories gave me attention, she was just a b*tch who tried to to manipulate me for some attention. HAHA made you flinch. Pathetic. It's really baffling how absolutely pathetic some absolutely gorgeous looking people are.

Question is, where are the ugly women? I would love to just have a girlfriend with a history of biting problem like myself. Maybe they are too ashamed of themselves to use tinder. Maybe we have to create tinder for the ugly.

I don't believe in it's existence. Ive felt all other emotions in my life except this so called love. And i'm a quite empathic. for a man.

You forgot the rules of tinder:
1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive

It's usually a numbers game for men, as many of them swipe right on everyone without even looking(they even have auto swiper apps for this)

And the women, who are usually much more selective(rightfully so), will pretty much auto-match any guy they swipe right on

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

You forgot the rules of tinder:
1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive

It's usually a numbers game for men, as many of them swipe right on everyone without even looking(they even have auto swiper apps for this)

And the women, who are usually much more selective(rightfully so), will pretty much auto-match any guy they swipe right on

I think that even ugly women can get as much sex as they want, because of the different libidos between different sexes. But we have to remember that getting sex is a one thing and getting good sex is another. Obviously it's harder for women to get good sex (sex that leads to orgasms for them). so these things are not nearly as "unfair" as many men seem to think.

A relationship with a good looking man, as an ugly woman? It can be a bit harder but it it still happens.

 

[Kotochan]

it makes sense it's a lot harder for a guy. I like to think there are hookups you can find right? Like I have lots of guy friends who hook up

I was using reddit tbh so far meeting people that way has been really really nice, looking for fwb situations and stuff everyone has been really cool. but that's obviously from my perspective as a woman. Better than tinder and hinge so far i think XD

my close friend right now is actually dating a guy who's 10 years older than her and who doesn't have a job she's a cool lady tho - I'm really not trying to say that it's easy but it's possible it seems to just happen when people are in each others vicinity

I like to think i don't have pretty privilege but it's always been pretty easy for me

 

[motel rooms]

is this guys like @hotelbeneathground ? :)

...Idris Elba, Chris Evans, Chris Hemsworth, Dev Patel, Keanu Reeves, Ryan Reynolds...

I look like none of those guys, sorry. I look very Sicilian, but I'm tall & my nose isn't big. If Raymond's brother Robert, this dude & the guy in my profile pic had a threesome & one of them gave birth to a baby & that baby had a square jaw, was very hairy & 40, but it looked 33 because that's how old the Savior was when he was resurrected from the dead, it would look exactly like me.

I just hope that God exists and is a beautiful woman

No. Just no. He looks like Zeus (the Christian God the Father is just a cheap, clothed knock-off of gorgeous naked Zeus). I know it because I keep seeing Him in my daily, ahem, "visions".

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I dunno, sex is a currency like any other really. It doesn't make sense to say men are one way and women another. Plenty of men are emotional sex-havers and plenty of women are voraciously physical.

As you get older you realize it's often abused or used for the wrong reasons. It's really not about how someone looks. There's a lot involved.

In general, I would say if you're not having any sex then you should put yourself in situations that are conducive to it, like going out drinking and whatnot. There's really no substitute for in-person chemistry and sex won't just fall into your lap. You have to make it happen. Or at least look for ways to increase your chances.

 

[motel rooms]

something I read a while ago that might give some insight into this situation is "women have sex with who they want, men have sex with who they can." Gross overgeneralization obviously but true in some cases.

Too bad gross overgeneralizations are the opposite of insights. Thanks for unblocking me, btw. It's a completely undeserved early Xmas miracle!
"Women have sex with who they want." Please...

 

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