Would you kill yourself over a girl?

[WasGehtnAb?]

They do. I already call them to hang out and stuff but they always say no so I gave up.

Wow. They prefer to spend every second awake with their girlfriends instead of meeting other men?
Hm maybe those guys exist but I would go crazy.

But they are your friends, tell them that it's hard for you right now and you need an evening with them to become clear again. That's not "weak", that's basically what friends are good for. And that would not be my prefered way but how about female friends? For some sitations or problems they are better because they are females. It's a matter of taste but a female point of view is sometimes more usefull.

 

[Steamm]

Wow. They prefer to spend every second awake with their girlfriends instead of meeting other men?
Hm maybe those guys exist but I would go crazy.

But they are your friends, tell them that it's hard for you right now and you need an evening with them to become clear again. That's not "weak", that's basically what friends are good for. And that would not be my prefered way but how about female friends? For some sitations or problems they are better because they are females. It's a matter of taste but a female point of view is sometimes more usefull.

I have one female friend, but she lives far away from me, I only get in touch with her thru whatsapp.

 

[WasGehtnAb?]

I have one female friend, but she lives far away from me, I only get in touch with her thru whatsapp.

You don't need 3249^23 female friends, good ones are enough.

She is your friend so why don't ask via whatsApp if she has time to talk in the evening. (not Christmas of course)
Then call her.

It's a matter of taste but I also asked female friends for emotional help. Not forbidden and sometimes they are much better than males.
Your choice but friends are some kind of your ressources. Then use them. Having gold barrens in your room doesn't make you rich if you don't buy anything.

 

[Alias Pluto]

Yes although I think it is more complicated than just killing yourself because of a girl. It is about who you feel like and your identity in this world and how the world values you. Let's say you fall in love with a beautiful Queen or something and she doesn't like you back. Maybe none of the queens like you. Maybe nobody really likes you. This is because in their eyes you are inferior in some way. Maybe you spent years exercising and trying to make money and etc or do whatever to improve your self. But nobody likes you. Or the only girl that likes you is an ugly homeless girl. Many people will say that the ugly homeless girl is who you're meant to be with. The way I see it, that would make me feel inferior in a big way. It's not 100 percent about the Queen I fell in love with. It's that I'm such a piece of crap in this world no matter what. People will say just accept it, and ok, yes, that is basically what surviving in this world is.

 

[Worwyn]

For me yes, but because what came with the loss was the loss of all my friends too. Just guilt of what I did to a 10 year old friend. I don't want any chance to do that again or worse.

 

[WasGehtnAb?]

Yes although I think it is more complicated than just killing yourself because of a girl. It is about who you feel like and your identity in this world and how the world values you. Let's say you fall in love with a beautiful Queen or something and she doesn't like you back. Maybe none of the queens like you. Maybe nobody really likes you. This is because in their eyes you are inferior in some way. Maybe you spent years exercising and trying to make money and etc or do whatever to improve your self. But nobody likes you. Or the only girl that likes you is an ugly homeless girl. Many people will say that the ugly homeless girl is who you're meant to be with. The way I see it, that would make me feel inferior in a big way. It's not 100 percent about the Queen I fell in love with. It's that I'm such a piece of crap in this world no matter what. People will say just accept it, and ok, yes, that is basically what surviving in this world is.

Why do you call women "Queens"?

And the opposite is homeless girl?


About 90% of all women are just normal.... women?

 

[Alias Pluto]

Why do you call women "Queens"?

And the opposite is homeless girl?


About 90% of all women are just normal.... women?

Because I was just telling a story to make a point. I'm sorry if it offended you personally. I should have included more characters in my stupid story.

 

[Superdeterminist]

Yes although I think it is more complicated than just killing yourself because of a girl. It is about who you feel like and your identity in this world and how the world values you. Let's say you fall in love with a beautiful Queen or something and she doesn't like you back. Maybe none of the queens like you. Maybe nobody really likes you. This is because in their eyes you are inferior in some way. Maybe you spent years exercising and trying to make money and etc or do whatever to improve your self. But nobody likes you. Or the only girl that likes you is an ugly homeless girl. Many people will say that the ugly homeless girl is who you're meant to be with. The way I see it, that would make me feel inferior in a big way. It's not 100 percent about the Queen I fell in love with. It's that I'm such a piece of crap in this world no matter what. People will say just accept it, and ok, yes, that is basically what surviving in this world is.

I resonate with that a lot. I think the "ugly homeless girl" thing is so cruel but it's not wrong, there are unattractive people in the world, and it's not their fault but it's how it is. And people aren't objectively ugly, but there is a certain objectivity to ugliness I think, that I find many people aren't honest about. There's typically that "ugly duckling" who is universally deemed as ugly, and it's so cruel but it's real. I think what hurts so much for me is that there's a hierarchy at all, that there's a continuum of attractiveness, and some poor souls have to suffer being at the lower end of it. And we all want to be that kind individual who sees past appearances, but in practice it seldom works out that way, because we're so compelled by our cold and heartless biology.

 

[Ricky1@@]

I think it depends how hot the girl is

 

[Spitfire]

I think it depends how hot the girl is

I personally do not think it really makes a significant difference honestly

 

[Ricky1@@]

I personally do not think it really makes a significant difference honestly

I personally thinks it's my opinion honestly

 

[Spitfire]

I personally thinks it's my opinion honestly

Good for you

 

[Starseedchip]

No in fact spite is the only thing keeping me alive.

 

[death137]

Big way of topic...you aren't a girl?

Yeah I'm not a girl

 

[Steamm]

I think it depends how hot the girl is

She was not that hot, she was average, I've seen many girls better than her but still I miss her so much.

 

[bornfree]

It's been 6 months since she left me to date another guy but I can't still accept, it hurts so much everytime I remember her.

yes. Pain.

 

[Symbiote]

I'm fighting the urge not to kill myself over my wife, but that's only because she has devalued and worn down my self-worth and self-esteem over the years that I sometimes don't have the energy to continue living anymore. Plus she could have an undiagnosed BPD because on some days she's nice, pulls me back in, and then pushes me back out violently. After the divorce I'm sure I'll have some more PTSD to filter through on top of the other PTSD from my childhood.

 

[torimandy]

A loss is a loss and could bring forth those feelings, but you need to determine if your ideation is an attempt to end your suffering or and attempt to punish her.Until you can work that out, I would put it on hold as far as CBT goes as a way to punish those who have done you wrong is not a good reason. It is rarely the case that it works as they can rationalize that it's a good thing they got away from you. Good luck in finding the answer and with whatever you decide to do.

 

[Steamm]

A loss is a loss and could bring forth those feelings, but you need to determine if your ideation is an attempt to end your suffering or and attempt to punish her.Until you can work that out, I would put it on hold as far as CBT goes as a way to punish those who have done you wrong is not a good reason. It is rarely the case that it works as they can rationalize that it's a good thing they got away from you. Good luck in finding the answer and with whatever you decide to do.

It's definitely an attempt to end my suffering. Even if I would like to punish her by killing myself, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't even get the news so it's pointless.

 

[Ricky1@@]

She was not that hot, she was average, I've seen many girls better than her but still I miss her so much.

You will get over her with time eventually you won't miss her it just takes time then later you will be interested in someone else

 

[bov]

not to be a giant dork but maybe let's say "woman" instead of "girl" since "girl" and also maybe don't kill yourself over one but ALSO don't be like "oh I would NEVER kill myself over something as trivial as a GIRL!!"

 

[Steamm]

You will get over her with time eventually you won't miss her it just takes time then later you will be interested in someone else

That's the problem. Every girl I'm attracted to, when I go deeper in searches I found out she has a bf. My last try was a girl from work I thought she was interessed in me because in my crazy mind she was looking at me but turns out she has a bf.

 

[Readytoenditall]

It's been 6 months since she left me to date another guy but I can't still accept, it hurts so much everytime I remember her.

If you gonna kill yourself do it bc you genuinely want to die. Don't go killing yourself because of someone else.

 

[Superdeterminist]

If you gonna kill yourself do it bc you genuinely want to die. Don't go killing yourself because of someone else.

The thing is that someone might genuinely want to die because of someone else. Humans can become possessed with each other like that.

 

[Nexuno]

I've been almost there a couple of times. I'm glad I didn't. I realized it's the only case where it's not worth at all, at least in my personal experience.

 

[UterEntonaur]

It's been 6 months since she left me to date another guy but I can't still accept, it hurts so much everytime I remember her.

I hear you friend.... I think a lot of us have been in that situation, but when you miss the memories more than the actual person, that's when you know it was for the best

 

[nothingchanges]

i would kill myself over the fact that i'm so unattractive that no girl (or person in general) will ever like or even respect me

 

[UiopQwerty]

Yes I would.
I have had many. But I Ive loved them all.
I simply loooooooove girls.

 

[Deformationalplagio]

Yes

 

[Lightyagami]

NO, Never