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Jorms_McGander

Arcanist
Oct 17, 2023
478
Aw man. I'm sorry to hear.

For me I'm able to get a job most of the time but the older I get the harder that is. It's keeping the job which is hard for me. Social situations make things incredibly hard for me and eventually I have gone into a breakdown, over, and over, and over.

Similarly, the difficulties prevented me from elevating myself beyond the position of sous-chef. And I don't have any love for culinary. It's just a bit of the economy where people are willing to hire people who might not last, because business comes in seasons. Anthony Bourdain wrote about it... before he killed himself.

It's hard, like you pointed out, work becomes closely tied to our identities and society does nothing but reinforce that. I could be homeless next year if shit doesn't work out for me... that's about the lowest value you can have in society. It's really hard to have to construct your own value as a person and then defend that value day in and day out from the assertions of a predatory society.

Sorry <3
 
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Alexei_Kirillov

Waiting for my next window of opportunity
Mar 9, 2024
1,039
I can't work anymore either. I can't participate in the outside world at all, even to go volunteering or whatever. And most of all, I can't tolerate being around other people.

I've been very frugal my entire life and have worked since I was a teenager, so I have enough savings to last for a while like this, but obviously they're going to run out eventually, and I don't know what I'm going to do then. The plan was to CTB in March...then April...now it's almost May. Something's gotta give, I either have to CTB or find a way to return to the external world.
 
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BlazingBob

BlazingBob

I'm still here b/c of my dogs
Oct 28, 2021
602
Have you applied for disability?
I haven't. I'd get less than 900 a month. I probably should have but given how sick and exhausted I feel every single day of my life even if it were $10,000 a month I'd still rather be dead. I'm lucky to have the energy to leave the house once or twice a week and even then it's just small trips to the store because that's all I can do without sending myself into a massive crash. I'm too sick to even go to Drs appointments. This isn't living.
Chronic fatigue, migraines, anxiety and depression... I'm just so tired even the very thought of working makes me exhausted.
I don't feel safe enough with my mental health professionals to let them know how bad it is for me so they think I should be able to get a job.
I'm not and it's really fxing terrifying to be honest.
The chronic fatigue is the absolute worst and nobody gets it unless they've experienced it. Sleep does absolutely nothing and in fact makes me more tired. Just making a phone call is exhausting. I'm just not getting any restorative sleep or any sleep at all. Damn this sucks. Just lying in bed looking at my phone is exhausting. I used to be so active and in really good shape only to be reduced to this. I'm a member of a me/cfs group on Facebook and know I'm not alone. There's people who's exhaustion is so bad they need feeding tubes.
 
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maxoffline

maxoffline

dancing in my room with my kitty
Sep 25, 2023
26
I got fired from my last job 5 years ago and haven't had a proper job since. I was a teacher and my career was a big part of my identity and gave me much needed purpose, structure and social interaction, not to mention a paycheck. I'd love to be working again and being productive but I'm just too damn sick. Sometimes I feel like a big pile of crap especially when I start comparing myself to others.

Losing my career is a huge reason for planning my suicide. I'd rather be dead than sitting around watching life go by while I rot and also having to depend on the charity of others, which is what I'll have to do once my money runs out which is right around the corner.
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, losing a job can be really tough.

I can't work either. I'm disabled in a way that holding a job is simply unmanageable. A lot of people view homelessness or being broke as the end of the line, but thats simply not the case!

You could always pick up little side gigs, like unofficial tutoring, dog walking, anything to get an extra bit of cash!
 
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Ironborn

Ironborn

Specialist
Jan 29, 2024
396
I work minimum wage jobs. I've also tried to get some other experience volunteering but I never get anything except labor, which is what I'm already doing. Society only wants me for physical labor which has had a major impact on my self esteem.
Trust me it takes a special mindset to do physical labour, be proud of that.
I've seen people from all walks of life attempt it and fold faster than superman on laundry day.
People always focus on the peak of the mountain and forget the foundation supporting millions of tonnes of rock.
 
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thenamingofcats

annihilation anxiety
Apr 19, 2024
453
Trust me it takes a special mindset to do physical labour, be proud of that.
I've seen people from all walks of life attempt it and fold faster than superman on laundry day.
People always focus on the peak of the mountain and forget the foundation supporting millions of tonnes of rock.
I appreciate this so much. All through my 20s I was tremendously strong from it. Now in my 30s(female) it's not so easy but I still have the mentality of being a work horse. Depression is my most limiting factor and has made it harder to work physically.
 
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BlazingBob

BlazingBob

I'm still here b/c of my dogs
Oct 28, 2021
602
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, losing a job can be really tough.

I can't work either. I'm disabled in a way that holding a job is simply unmanageable. A lot of people view homelessness or being broke as the end of the line, but thats simply not the case!

You could always pick up little side gigs, like unofficial tutoring, dog walking, anything to get an extra bit of cash!
Thank you. Unfortunately I'm just too sick for any of that. Imagine being so sick and so exhausted that even taking a dump can be a challenge. I'm mostly bedridden. My savings will last a little while longer but once that's gone so am I. The life I have is simply not worth living and I don't subscribe to the notion of staying alive no matter how shitty things get, especially given the fact I'm totally alone. No family, holidays and birthdays alone. I've been to over 50 Drs and have spent 10s of thousands on medical care with zilch to show for it. I'm just done. I'm getting dizzy and faint. Time to lie down again 😭
 
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dggtscccvfd

Mage
Jun 1, 2023
563
Thank you. Unfortunately I'm just too sick for any of that. Imagine being so sick and so exhausted that even taking a dump can be a challenge. I'm mostly bedridden. My savings will last a little while longer but once that's gone so am I. The life I have is simply not worth living and I don't subscribe to the notion of staying alive no matter how shitty things get, especially given the fact I'm totally alone. No family, holidays and birthdays alone. I've been to over 50 Drs and have spent 10s of thousands on medical care with zilch to show for it. I'm just done. I'm getting dizzy and faint. Time to lie down again 😭
What medical condition do you have? Chronic fatigue?
 
KillingPain267

KillingPain267

Enlightened
Apr 15, 2024
1,425
It's no different under communism: people still have to work in North Korea and Cuba. There's no escaping the work treadmill unless you die.
Those countries are in a stage of socialism (or as Marx would call it: lower communism). Once higher communism is achieved, work will be fulfilling and enjoyable again, at least that is according to the marxist view of the future. Even though I'm not a marxist, in some sense they are right; machinery has made a lot easier yet work hours haven't gone down for 100 years. Lots of the jobs today are meaningless. Read the book Bullshit Jobs by the late David Graeber.
 
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Throwawayacc3

Throwawayacc3

Freedom
Mar 4, 2024
1,387
I'm on disability and live off a lawsuit
Working sucks but not being able to work sucks even more . You just lay around all day feeling sorry for yourself

Working gives people a sense of purpose if they like their job
Do you not do anything? I play with my dog in the garden, feed the birds, try and get a platinum trophy on PS4 and have these bursts of when I do art pieces.
 
Anhedonico

Anhedonico

Member
Feb 16, 2024
14
I found a new job in January this year and I thought it could be a good therapy for me, but I only lasted for 2 and a half months. I'm on a sick leave since the end of March and I think this sick leave will last for months or years, till they get rid of mine since I can do nothing in this state of depression.

Before my depression, I worked many years with good results, I got a degree on Math with Hons and a PhD on theoretical Physics. But now I'm totally screwed to work at anything... I just can do nothing properly :aw:
 
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divinemistress36

divinemistress36

Illuminated
Jan 1, 2024
3,276
Do you not do anything? I play with my dog in the garden, feed the birds, try and get a platinum trophy on PS4 and have these bursts of when I do art pieces.
I've lost interest in doing anything
 
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Throwawayacc3

Throwawayacc3

Freedom
Mar 4, 2024
1,387
I've lost interest in doing anything
Yeah that's messed up. I do these things but I actively know they are hardcore copes to pass the time (apart from my dog and the birds).
 
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Unknown21

Unknown21

The past never dies.
Apr 25, 2023
1,005
I cannot work or hold down a job because I am autistic and crippled by social anxiety. I'm really suffering because of this.
 
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MrOptions

MrOptions

Let it go. This to shall pass.
Jan 6, 2020
178
On SSDI since last year. Lost my job early 2023, after 12 years for same company due to cut backs. Currently getting immune therapy for cancer. Have some savings living off of. Do a little stock trading to make the bills.

But the more time that slips by just more depressed and anxiety. Only look forward to sleeping if I can at night. At least I don't have to be conscious then. That's if the sleeping meds work.
 
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BlazingBob

BlazingBob

I'm still here b/c of my dogs
Oct 28, 2021
602
What medical condition do you have? Chronic fatigue?
Early onset Parkinson's disease, peripheral neuropathy, extreme restless body syndrome, and likely ME/CFS which was likely set in motion by the aforementioned and stored up trauma. All that cortisol and being stuck in fight or flight mode really does a number on the body. Then there's the treatment resistant depression and anxiety which I've been dealing with since I was 16, which was 35 years ago 😮
 
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crystal_meth97

crystal_meth97

Nie mam zamiaru się poddać
May 1, 2024
155
My ability to work is limited. The circumstances under which I can work are limited, too. I can only work remotely, as I can't deal with other people at all. I need to be left alone to do my job if they want me to produce high-quality content - I'm a content writer. Due to my mental health issues, I can't work for a long time and I need frequent breaks. I have days when I just can't work, I feel too tired of everything. I hate the idea that you have to EARN A LIVING, as if we owe something to this fucked up world. I just can't stand the concept, but I have to EARN some money to be able to live comfortably. The good thing is that I can make a decent amount of money with what I do, with minimum effort and a very flexible schedule. But at the end of the day, I just want out. Even if I can live comfortably, even if I'm lucky to be able to earn money easily... It just isn't worth it.
 
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Praestat_Mori

Mori praestat, quam haec pati!
May 21, 2023
11,540
Losing my career is a huge reason for planning my suicide. I'd rather be dead than sitting around watching life go by while I rot and also having to depend on the charity of others, which is what I'll have to do once my money runs out which is right around the corner.
I can relate to this though our situations are a bit different but the results are the same. I suffer from a big failure in life a few years ago and there's no recovery possible for me. That's the reason why I'm suicidal. Life goes by, I have nothing to do and the only thing I can do is to rot at home.
 
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ForgottenAgain

ForgottenAgain

On the rollercoaster of sadness
Oct 17, 2023
994
I got fired from my last job 5 years ago and haven't had a proper job since. I was a teacher and my career was a big part of my identity and gave me much needed purpose, structure and social interaction, not to mention a paycheck. I'd love to be working again and being productive but I'm just too damn sick. Sometimes I feel like a big pile of crap especially when I start comparing myself to others.

Losing my career is a huge reason for planning my suicide. I'd rather be dead than sitting around watching life go by while I rot and also having to depend on the charity of others, which is what I'll have to do once my money runs out which is right around the corner.
I am back to work after being off sick for 5 months. The other day I spent hours looking at the screen, mind blank, couldn't form a thought, just wishing my task would resolve itself.

Yesterday night saw that the build I made of the project failed with errors, just wanted to cry. 3 hours to make a build for it to fail, now doing it again and praying it works. Need to write more code for another task but I've just been crying while looking at the screen.

Feel so useless and dumb
 
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DeletedAccount0864

Student
Dec 17, 2023
199
I am back to work after being off sick for 5 months. The other day I spent hours looking at the screen, mind blank, couldn't form a thought, just wishing my task would resolve itself.
I have that experience all the time (not in your field, though). These days, I can barely do the simplest of tasks. Even right now I'm trying to respond to a co-worker but can't think of jack. It's just all too much now. I'm just staring into the abyss.
 
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ForgottenAgain

ForgottenAgain

On the rollercoaster of sadness
Oct 17, 2023
994
I have that experience all the time (not in your field, though). These days, I can barely do the simplest of tasks. Even right now I'm trying to respond to a co-worker but can't think of jack. It's just all too much now. I'm just staring into the abyss.
I'm so sorry you're also feeling this way, it's so aggravating isn't it? Everything is too much to bear
 
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DeletedAccount0864

Student
Dec 17, 2023
199
I'm so sorry you're also feeling this way, it's so aggravating isn't it? Everything is too much to bear
Yes, and there's nothing I can do. Others would say "see a therapist" or some shit, but I'm sure (maybe) that you know the reality of that. I will quit my job soon and it feels strange thinking about that. I've never been so close to my death, despite impulsive attempts in the past. Strange feeling.
 
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sserafim

sserafim

brighter than the sun, that’s just me
Sep 13, 2023
9,013
My ability to work is limited. The circumstances under which I can work are limited, too. I can only work remotely, as I can't deal with other people at all. I need to be left alone to do my job if they want me to produce high-quality content - I'm a content writer. Due to my mental health issues, I can't work for a long time and I need frequent breaks. I have days when I just can't work, I feel too tired of everything. I hate the idea that you have to EARN A LIVING, as if we owe something to this fucked up world. I just can't stand the concept, but I have to EARN some money to be able to live comfortably. The good thing is that I can make a decent amount of money with what I do, with minimum effort and a very flexible schedule. But at the end of the day, I just want out. Even if I can live comfortably, even if I'm lucky to be able to earn money easily... It just isn't worth it.
I hate this too! I hate the fact that we will eventually all have to work for a living in order to pay to exist. No one chose to be born, so why must a living be earned? It's absurd. I also hate how people think that we owe the world something. I don't owe the world anything. I also hate how people expect us to contribute to society. I don't give a fuck about society and I don't owe it a single thing. I'm not obligated to contribute just because I'm a human. I didn't even choose to be alive
 
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silence ends

Student
Jan 10, 2023
121
I cant get job/education becouse of social abnormalities, anxiety etc. No education after comprehensive school. 1 year is longest time i've had job and that was low wage entry lvl job. Couldnt keep even that for longer time.
35 years of this hell.
Still doctors think i dont meet requirements for disability pension(retirement). Diagnosed severe depression, anxiety disorder, ADHD, avoidant personality disorder.
Gonna be homeless within months becouse of money problems and debts but i will avoid that by ctb before things get too far.
 
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FadingDawn

FadingDawn

Experienced
Jul 18, 2023
262
It's no different under communism: people still have to work in North Korea and Cuba. There's no escaping the work treadmill unless you die.
Those are still countries under a capitalist system of production LMFAO. You think just because china calls it's a "democratic republic", it's actually a democracy
 
ForgottenAgain

ForgottenAgain

On the rollercoaster of sadness
Oct 17, 2023
994
Yes, and there's nothing I can do. Others would say "see a therapist" or some shit, but I'm sure (maybe) that you know the reality of that. I will quit my job soon and it feels strange thinking about that. I've never been so close to my death, despite impulsive attempts in the past. Strange feeling.
Yeah I do, I am seeing a therapist currently and I've been in therapy for 16 years. Don't even know how much it helps, I'm questioning everything at this point.

What is your plan after quitting your job? It is quite a change when that happens, I hope you can feel some relief
 
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Socrates Respecter

Member
Apr 23, 2023
50
Before my depression, I worked many years with good results, I got a degree on Math with Hons and a PhD on theoretical Physics. But now I'm totally screwed to work at anything... I just can do nothing properly
They say that A mind is a terrible thing to waste! I'm admiring your credentials. Is your work connected with any type of research? Do you find it meaningful and if so does it not help you with depression and lack of motivation?
 
landmine

landmine

地雷女
Mar 12, 2023
81
i never worked before .. but i want to eventually
right now i'm on disability for anxiety and depression. i've been a hikineet since a teenager and still don't know much .. ; ;
 
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Anhedonico

Anhedonico

Member
Feb 16, 2024
14
They say that A mind is a terrible thing to waste! I'm admiring your credentials. Is your work connected with any type of research? Do you find it meaningful and if so does it not help you with depression and lack of motivation?
My work at Physics was finished many years ago and I don't remember it that well, I've forgotten much of Physics and I'm not prepared to come back or get any motivation from it, sadly. Thanks for your interest, buddy.
 
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88124540

Member
Jun 7, 2021
14
I do not work, and live with my parents because of that. I try to do other things to get some form of very small income but I'm worried I'll never get out.
 
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