Discussion What needs to change in your life to stop making you suicidal ?

[hermestrimegistus]

I get to know ugly people all the time and sometimes the outside doesn't match the

You may be initially treated better but it doesn't somehow give you some magical powers- if it's superficial scenarios you desire like casual sex and surface level relationships then yes- by all means- envy this. It's normal but it's not everything. It's only one part of the puzzle.

Being attractive can get you a friend, a relationship, a job. Etc. Theres no downside to be attractive. Theres only a downside to being unattractive

 

[violetdevil]

Nothing. I think I'd want to die even if I was happy

 

[moondazed]

Being attractive can get you a friend, a relationship, a job. Etc. Theres no downside to be attractive. Theres only a downside to being unattractive

Attractiveness can be really, really subjective though. I won't deny that pretty privilege exists. It absolutely does

 

[Goldy]

I wish I could just look good and be happy with myself, have good friends who support me and like me without having to try and appeal to them. To be noticed, and have my presence wanted and enjoyed. To be really loved by family and for everything to be less problematic. To be able to be academic and stop worrying about stupid work in school.

 

[dumbgirlonline]

shit ton of money probably. Shop my heart out and take care of the people around me. Money is power after all.

 

[hermestrimegistus]

Attractiveness can be really, really subjective though. I won't deny that pretty privilege exists. It absolutely does

Lets be real. Attractiveness is only slightly subjective. Most of it is just objective beauty standards of the current moment. I unrealistically want that. Pretty privilege is underrated. The people who have it don't understand how good they have it. I would give a limb to experience that. Or my voice/soul like some Little Mermaid bullshit. Attractive people don't understand how easy they have it

 

[itsraining]

I think the core of my unhappiness is myself, I've made the worst mistakes known to man and continue to show my selfishness every day. I'd need to be born as a different person

 

[MeltingBrain]

Nothing. I think I'd want to die even if I was happy

Why is that ?

 

[qsocdu]

I've been bullied and taken advantage of my whole life, and in the end everybody abandons me. If I had a healthy social life and someone who trully loved me I would be ok I guess. But I trust no one nowadays, I don't wanna get messed up again

 

[NeedAnEscape]

I don't know. Even when good things happen to me, I cannot escape the despair that fogs my mind.

 

[glitterypearls]

someone who loves me and want to build a family with me. the older I get the more this is slipping away from me. men don't want girls with heavy mental illness issues who have no friends or family. I don't blame them, I'd not want me either.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Enough money so I can live a happy life until I die naturally. Well that applies rn but if I had to deal with weak health and other problems later on in this life I'd still consider CTB and probably do it then if circumstances require it.

 

[princexhhn]

js want things to go back to normal LOL. my life feels so strange rn, its like i landed myself in an alternate reality T-T

 

[stellaburner]

everyone is arguing about whether being attractive matters and i thought i would add:
while it may be debatable the degree to which attractiveness (in regards to social beauty standards) is important to overall "life success"
you can't debate how being conventionally unattractive makes someone feel shitty about themselves. like sure,
i may be able to have friends, a boyfriend, etc. but i still feel utter disappointment and dread and anger every time i look in the mirror. i hide my appearance from others (wearing a mask), but this isn't because i think they'll judge me and leave me: it's because i hate existing in my body. it doesn't feel like me, im uncomfortable existing like this so i avoid confronting it at all costs. i could give two shits what other people think about me, it's a thing between me and myself not anyone else. getting a partner or friends or whatever doesn't make me feel any happier. i truly just hate hating myself.

everyone is arguing about whether being attractive matters and i thought i would add:
while it may be debatable the degree to which attractiveness (in regards to social beauty standards) is important to overall "life success"
you can't debate how being conventionally unattractive makes someone feel shitty about themselves. like sure,
i may be able to have friends, a boyfriend, etc. but i still feel utter disappointment and dread and anger every time i look in the mirror. i hide my appearance from others (wearing a mask), but this isn't because i think they'll judge me and leave me: it's because i hate existing in my body. it doesn't feel like me, im uncomfortable existing like this so i avoid confronting it at all costs. i could give two shits what other people think about me, it's a thing between me and myself not anyone else. getting a partner or friends or whatever doesn't make me feel any happier. i truly just hate hating myself.

so yeah, if i were conventionally attractive and able to love myself, i wouldn't want to kill myself

someone who loves me and want to build a family with me. the older I get the more this is slipping away from me. men don't want girls with heavy mental illness issues who have no friends or family. I don't blame them, I'd not want me either.

i relate to that mentally ill part. if i found someone im 100% sure you will too. my bf knows about most of the crazy mentally ill shit i've done (and continue to do) and yet he loves me like we've been married for 70 years. you just gotta find the right person

 

[Glandular]

A cure for my chronic disease and I'd never consider suicide.

 

[Christo]

At this point, I would have to lose my memory and all the life experiences I have gone through.

It's too damn hard if not impossible to fix childhood drama that lasted for many years.

 

[Iamtired]

Being attractive can get you a friend, a relationship, a job. Etc. Theres no downside to be attractive. Theres only a downside to being unattractive

Yep, I can see why no one wants to date you.

 

[MeltingBrain]

A cure for my chronic disease and I'd never consider suicide.

Same here x2

 

[KiraX]

Having a permanent place to live.
Being able to cure my pain so that I can work

 

[Loserparasite]

A lot of things, mainly-
-Money
-Mental stability
-Love
I think these things boil it down pretty well.

 

[colorlesshue]

getting a time machine to prevent my rape, being able to actually love my body and maybe even if it's selfish get older and have a baby with my girlfriend. the thought of being pregnant with a child that i'll love and be able to nuture is a oddly comforting thought to me.

 

[water bunny]

I wish to be prettier so my partner can love me for my looks. It makes me jealous when someone can call their lover the prettiest woman they've ever laid their eyes upon.

if not that it would also be nice if i could be smarter. Or my family accepting me for what i want to be and not place my entire worth on my grades

 

[hermestrimegistus]

Yep, I can see why no one wants to date you.

Haha well that's very nice of you. Totally constructive. Anyone that disagrees with you is undateable lol

 

[maka]

Genuine love and my location probably.

I have never been genuinely loved in my life and I see everyone else with it and I know it's selfish but I always ask what I did wrong to suffer a loveless life. I've done everything right, have been kind and went out of my way for everyone, did my best to behave and be perfect like my parents wanted, but still no one loves me. Idk if it's because I'm autistic and weird or bc I just don't deserve it.

Also the US work week and economic struggles and how everyone here is just so subhuman and mean makes me want to die even more because why live in a world where everyone is miserable and cruel?

 

[beachlifeindeath]

for my family to accept me and support me. i know theyre trying right now, but it doesnt feel genuine. i wish they could straight up tell me that they support me instead of ignoring the problem entirely.