Discussion Is a broken relationship a legitimate reason to kill yourself?

[ARW3N]

One of the many reasons which prompts people to kill themselves is a broken relationship and one which I have the least sympathy for. Someone asking a euthanasia clinic to terminate their life because of a broken relationship would be given short shrift.

 

[esse_est_percipi]

I think it depends on the psychological effect it has on a person, although I recognize that with time things may improve for some people.

 

[Deleted member 22650]

I guess it depends on the lenght of the relationship, if she cheated on you after lets say 15years of mariage, id consider that painful enough

 

[Astronomer]

Whilst i'm not on this website due to a relationship breakdown it is due to my mental health but I find you're post insulting, to say you have the least sympathy for that reason will upset many on this website, and again many whom are on here through a relationship breakdown of some sort.

May be keep the shitty opinions to yourself, hey?

 

[iDieUDie80]

Whilst i'm not on this website due to a relationship breakdown it is due to my mental health but I find you're post insulting, to say you have the least sympathy for that reason will upset many on this website, and again many whom are on here through a relationship breakdown of some sort.

May be keep the shitty opinions to yourself, hey?

Please don't be aggressive unless you're trying to get this thread locked.

To answer OP's question, it all depends on perspective. Someone from a clinical or therapeutic standpoint is never going to tell you, unless you have a terminal illness, that suicide is a viable option. Truth be told, there are therapies designed exactly to confront grief and to practice radical acceptance for undesirable life circumstances. I would say it is worth at least applying these skills and trying to get better, and you may well find that it was worth it.

 

[JustKillBen22]

Any reason is good enough, if you want out you should be able to get the fuck out. You are forced into this life by no choice of your own, you owe this life absolutely nothing.

 

[Ghost2211]

Every reason is valid if it makes the person's personal reality hell.

I spent 11 years with this person. We built a family. I stayed by his side while he built his career. When my mental health didn't allow for his sex life anymore he cheated, left me for her, and took away the future of security of comfort and safety we had built. This was my best friend... it was someone I loved. It destroyed my self worth, and left a whole that physically hurt it made me so sad. It shattered reality beyond what I could cope with.... love was supposed to be forever, and now I watched him give what we had to a new woman like I meant nothing, like it was trash. I don't even feel like I'm worth being loved anymore.

I hope you are strong enough to not feel the crushing pain of a broken heart, but not everyone is.

 

[Deleted member 22650]

Every reason is valid if it makes the person's personal reality hell.

I spent 11 years with this person. We built a family. I stayed by his side while he built his career. When my mental health didn't allow for his sex life anymore he cheated, left me for her, and took away the future of security of comfort and safety we had built. This was my best friend... it was someone I loved. It destroyed my self worth, and left a whole that physically hurt it made me so sad. It shattered reality beyond what I could cope with.... love was supposed to be forever, and now I watched him give what we had to a new woman like I meant nothing, like it was trash. I don't even feel like I'm worth being loved anymore.

I hope you are strong enough to not feel the crushing pain of a broken heart, but not everyone can.

Same here, im sorry you went through that, it's been a year now and i'm still not over it probably will never be, being betrayed like that is the worst feeling in the world, I still don't understand how someone would stay for years with someone if they didn't love the person that much.

Your words made me shed a tear, I relate.

 

[Astronomer]

Please don't be aggressive unless you're trying to get this thread locked.

To answer OP's question, it all depends on perspective. Someone from a clinical or therapeutic standpoint is never going to tell you, unless you have a terminal illness, that suicide is a viable option. Truth be told, there are therapies designed exactly to confront grief and to practice radical acceptance for undesirable life circumstances. I would say it is worth at least applying these skills and trying to get better, and you may well find that it was worth it.

Aggressive?

Where you live, disney land?

 

[TheSomebody]

Every reason is valid if it makes the person's personal reality hell.

I spent 11 years with this person. We built a family. I stayed by his side while he built his career. When my mental health didn't allow for his sex life anymore he cheated, left me for her, and took away the future of security of comfort and safety we had built. This was my best friend... it was someone I loved. It destroyed my self worth, and left a whole that physically hurt it made me so sad. It shattered reality beyond what I could cope with.... love was supposed to be forever, and now I watched him give what we had to a new woman like I meant nothing, like it was trash. I don't even feel like I'm worth being loved anymore.

I hope you are strong enough to not feel the crushing pain of a broken heart, but not everyone is.

Hahaha, not even our parents would love us forever. People love our sucess, not us. The moment you become unpleasant for them you will be dumped. Its not worth being stressed and suicial over someone, because they dont give a fuck about us. Its a waste of mind.
That's one of the reasons I will be gone, because i dont want to live in such world where im measured between worthy and worthless by everyone. Fuck this world.
.

 

[Deleted member 22650]

Hahaha, not even our parents would love us forever. People love our sucess, not us. The moment you become unpleasant for them you will be dumped. Its not worth being stressed and suicial over someone, its a waste of mind.
That's one of the reasons I will be gone, because i dont want to live in such world where im measured between worthy or worthless by everyone. Fuck this world.
.

I relate to what you say, I'm not depressed, I just don't want to live a world that is ran by such values, none cares about your personality, they care based on what you bring to them, if you somehow have trouble bringing that they find it elsewhere, anyone can be replaced by anyone at any moment for any reasons, none care about eachother

 

[lost guy]

I think it's a valid reason. I'm in that situation, so I can empathize.

Everyone is different. I know for sure I will never overcome it. I know for sure I will never truly be happy again.

 

[Ghost2211]

Hahaha, not even our parents would love us forever. People love our sucess, not us. The moment you become unpleasant for them you will be dumped. Its not worth being stressed and suicial over someone, because they dont give a fuck about us. Its a waste of mind.
That's one of the reasons I will be gone, because i dont want to live in such world where im measured between worthy and worthless by everyone. Fuck this world.
.

I see that now. I just can't make the hurt stop no matter how much I want it to.

 

[iDieUDie80]

I think it's a valid reason. I'm in that situation, so I can empathize.

Everyone is different. I know for sure I will never overcome it. I know for sure I will never truly be happy again.

Not to minimize your situation, but there is nothing in life that we know for certain. That's the beauty/tragedy of it all. Everything is uncertain.

 

[Deleted member 22650]

Not to minimize your situation, but there is nothing in life that we know for certain. That's the beauty/tragedy of it all. Everything is uncertain.

What I know for sure is that physical appearance is everything, actually not only physical, but appereance in all areas

 

[Marauder]

Definitely, Im here for the same reason

 

[TheSomebody]

I see that now. I just can't make the hurt stop no matter how much I want it to.

The worst part is that even though I know that most people will hurt me, I still keep running after them, because I also can't stand being alone.
So it seems that any choice I make will always end up badly: Either I stay with someone and then that person leaves me, or I decide not to fall in love with anyone and live alone, but I will also suffer because the loneliness is also horrible.
Everything seems so doomed.

 

[Rn110bg101]

I might be biased because this is one of the major reasons I'm here but honestly…

Any reason is good enough, if you want out you should be able to get the fuck out. You are forced into this life by no choice of your own, you owe this life absolutely nothing.

This.

 

[Squiddy]

Any reason that hurts you enough is reason to ctb if you want

 

[Mr2005]

I hope not or my girlfriends going to have one

 

[Ghost2211]

The worst part is that even though I know that most people will hurt me, I still keep running after them, because I also can't stand being alone.
So it seems that any choice I make will always end up badly: Either I stay with someone and then that person leaves me, or I decide not to fall in love with anyone and live alone, but I will also suffer because the loneliness is also horrible.
Everything seems so doomed.

I'm in the same boat my fiend. Even with heartbreak hard lessons I can tell I can fall in love again by how I interact with people. I would still prefer to not be alone forever. I guess in the end humans never learn lol.

 

[k75]

Every reason is valid if it makes the person's personal reality hell.

I agree, for the most part. I think the relationship issue is tough, because breakups can feel like the end of the world, but for a lot of people that pain does heal. So I think it's important to give it some time first and make sure you can't recover from the loss.

This is onIy one small reason for me, but I lost a 15 year relationship and the entire future I wanted and planned for. And it was my fault, and I haven't been able to move on or forgive myself. And I've realized maybe I don't really want to. I don't want a new normal, a new future, a new partner. I want what I lost. I want nothing to have changed. I really don't deal well with change.

 

[lost guy]

I agree, for the most part. I think the relationship issue is tough, because breakups can feel like the end of the world, but for a lot of people that pain does heal. So I think it's important to give it some time first and make sure you can't recover from the loss.

This is onIy one small reason for me, but I lost a 15 year relationship and the entire future I wanted and planned for. And it was my fault, and I haven't been able to move on or forgive myself. And I've realized maybe I don't really want to. I don't want a new normal, a new future, a new partner. I want what I lost. I want nothing to have changed. I really don't deal well with change.

You said it perfect.

 

[AJ95]

It's hard to say and obviously depends on the relationship but I think in general if the main reason you're ctb is because of a relationship then you should probably try a little bit harder to live a happy life.

Like I can understand if it was your partner of 20 years or something cheating on you, but even then I really feel like you should give life a bit more of a chance.

But if it's just the thing that pushes you over the edge and you were suicidal anyway, that's different imo

 

[nitroautnz]

One of the many reasons which prompts people to kill themselves is a broken relationship and one which I have the least sympathy for. Someone asking a euthanasia clinic to terminate their life because of a broken relationship would be given short shrift.

But if it's just the thing that pushes you over the edge and you were suicidal anyway, that's different imo

My situation, im not going to ctb because of that, but it was more a wake up call. Of course, it depend the relationship, toxic one can be enough to push people that never been suicidal to kill themself.
Personally, my relationship allows me to leave happy for few years, now that its over, i realise im still the same sad, depressed and broken person that before.
Has much as i try to change and be happy its obviously didnt work, so here i am.

But i disagree with OP, we shouldnt judge people reason for ctb, because we are not them, we dont know the pain and hardship they going throu.

 

[Mr2005]

I agree, for the most part. I think the relationship issue is tough, because breakups can feel like the end of the world, but for a lot of people that pain does heal. So I think it's important to give it some time first and make sure you can't recover from the loss.

This is onIy one small reason for me, but I lost a 15 year relationship and the entire future I wanted and planned for. And it was my fault, and I haven't been able to move on or forgive myself. And I've realized maybe I don't really want to. I don't want a new normal, a new future, a new partner. I want what I lost. I want nothing to have changed. I really don't deal well with change.

I'm so glad you wrote that and I read it

 

[lonewolf22]

One of the many reasons which prompts people to kill themselves is a broken relationship and one which I have the least sympathy for. Someone asking a euthanasia clinic to terminate their life because of a broken relationship would be given short shrift.

Used to think like you..... Until it Happened to me..

 

[262653]

It surely sounds like a high-quality suifuel, getting severed from the steady supply of feel-good hormones. Especially if it was the main supply. Of course different people in different circumstances will react differently.

Are we here entertaining the hypothetical scenarios where we get to judge if people who want to die because of a broken relationship deserve the right for a peaceful exit?

 

[Sherri]

I did tried to ctb because of a broken heart, so many times. Was he worth it? ....

 

[Chupacabra 44]

Never in my opinion. But, with relationships I'm incredibly resilient. I see others might not be. I try not to judge, but believe time heals all wounds.