Discussion Is a broken relationship a legitimate reason to kill yourself?

[Sherri]

Never in my opinion. But, with relationships I'm incredibly resilient. I see others might not be. I try not to judge, but believe time heals all wounds.

Yes very true, time def healed it.

 

[Quinlor]

One thing that I dont understand, how the Other can lives knowing that you are suffering to the point to ctb

 

[Sprite_Geist]

If a person loves someone else a lot it can create a strong connection between the two, and if that connection is severed like in the case of a break-up then it can be incredible painful; especially if their partner was with them for a long time and they had build a foundation together - family, bought a house, etc. The destruction of all that can create traumatic memories which cannot always be recovered from. For some it can be the emotional equivalent of losing a limb.

To answer the question: Yes any reason is a legitimate reason. Only you can know if it is worth bearing the pain to continue living or not. There should not be an arbitrary scale where a person is judged on whether or not they are "worthy" to Catch The Bus.

 

[Lordsudbury]

Every reason is valid if it makes the person's personal reality hell.

I spent 11 years with this person. We built a family. I stayed by his side while he built his career. When my mental health didn't allow for his sex life anymore he cheated, left me for her, and took away the future of security of comfort and safety we had built. This was my best friend... it was someone I loved. It destroyed my self worth, and left a whole that physically hurt it made me so sad. It shattered reality beyond what I could cope with.... love was supposed to be forever, and now I watched him give what we had to a new woman like I meant nothing, like it was trash. I don't even feel like I'm worth being loved anymore.

I hope you are strong enough to not feel the crushing pain of a broken heart, but not everyone is.

Oh my God I am so sorry to hear this
I'm here because of a ruined relationship. Sometimes it's not just the depression post relationship, it's the shame in how you acted, the consequent feeling of nothingness you're left with, the possibility that it collapses all your other friendships, and sometimes you don't even know where you place in society or workplace anymore after it. There's so much collateral damage it's unbelievable. And unbearable. You completely lose yourself, the trauma never goes away.

 

[lost guy]

After going through this, I know I'll never truly be happy again.

 

[Symbiote]

It could very well be the broken relationship that puts you over the edge on top of all the other shit you've been through in life. Try not to judge what others are going through and invalidate their choices or feelings.

 

[MiseryLovesMyCompany]

One thing that I dont understand, how the Other can lives knowing that you are suffering to the point to ctb

Very happily apparently

 

[ForbiddenSiren]

I find it a bit weird you can't feel sympathy for a situation like that. As some people have said a relationship is what keeps someone going... It may not be healthy (I can relate) but it can make life in this shit world easier to deal with and losing that person can be devastating.

Please be more careful with what you say on here. The reason a lot of people ctb is because of judgement like this.

Take care.

 

[TripleA]

Nope

 

[Meditation guide]

One of the many reasons which prompts people to kill themselves is a broken relationship and one which I have the least sympathy for. Someone asking a euthanasia clinic to terminate their life because of a broken relationship would be given short shrift.

It's not for anyone else to decide.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

IMO, best post ever on this subject:

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/ctb-because-of-loneliness-or-breakups.43068/

@ARW3N, I used to not think it was a good reason, though I didn't refuse sympathy, but the linked thread changed my mind. Whether your mind is changed or not, I was troubled by your condemnatory stance. Part of me wants to show you empathy and respect, offer you the eloquent alternative point of view I'm sharing, and part of me has a knee-jerk and wants to say, "Who tf cares if you have sympathy for them? What highly exalted position are you coming from?" So then I wonder if provoking knee-jerk reactions is the point, or if you actually want to explore the idea in the title question. The link I shared is my response to the title question.

 

[Superdeterminist]

Any reason is good enough, if you want out you should be able to get the fuck out. You are forced into this life by no choice of your own, you owe this life absolutely nothing.

Amen.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

People are suicidal for all sorts of reasons. I do not understand this dismissive gatekeeping attitude towards people who are so brokenhearted they desire ctb. People grieve differently everyone processes things differently. What one person can snap back from can destroy another. Why be rude about it? We should be showing compassion and support to each other. I see more and more of theses dismissive insensitive gatekeeping type comments than I have in my entire time on this website and it saddens me.

 

[Lucifer'sRight]

Whilst i'm not on this website due to a relationship breakdown it is due to my mental health but I find you're post insulting, to say you have the least sympathy for that reason will upset many on this website, and again many whom are on here through a relationship breakdown of some sort.

May be keep the shitty opinions to yourself, hey?

The OP has the right to have more or less sympathy for anything. There's a difference between expressing opinions and judgement. "I have less sympathy for.." is an opinion. "Your shitty opinions..." is a judgement.

 

[Astronomer]

The OP has the right to have more or less sympathy for anything. There's a difference between expressing opinions and judgement. "I have less sympathy for.." is an opinion. ''Your shitty opinions..." is a judgement.

It is not a judgement.

''May be keep the shitty opinions to yourself, hey?''

It is merely a polite request to keep his shitty opinions to himself.

 

[Lucifer'sRight]

It is not a judgement.

''May be keep the shitty opinions to yourself, hey?''

It is merely a polite request to keep his shitty opinions to himself.

That's a low standart sarcasm right there. This forum is precisely for expressing opinions. No one's going to censor themselves because you think their opinions ard "shitty". Trust me, you don't need everyone to agree with you, you'll do just fine in a diverse thought atmosphere.

 

[Astronomer]

That's a low standart sarcasm right there. This forum is precisely for expressing opinions. No one's going to censor themselves because you think their opinions ard "shitty". Trust me, you don't need everyone to agree with you, you'll do just fine in a diverse thought atmosphere.

Here have one of these on me,

 

[BridgeJumper]

Imo its not our right to judge what drives someone to suicide.
Ive heard about people killing themselves because of cancer / abuse / poverty
Ive heard about people killing themselves over break up or just doing a cry for help and dying in the process.
Everyone is affected by things differently.
I had a nervous breakdown when I lost my sketchbook hile my father doesnt care if he looses anything. Its the same with serious emotions I guess, different degrees of investment, different mind states even.
Shaming will only make things worse.

 

[Emily_Numb]

Pain, hurt, depression, despair, trauma and so on is a totally unique experience to every individual. There is not a one size fits all to what drives people to CTB.

I'm saddened to hear you have created a some sort of bizarre grading system of what you feel is a worthwhile reason for a person to take their own life.

Despite this extremely bizarre and triggering post, I sincerely hope you never have the misfortune of such a traumatic heartbreak that it causes you to wish to CTB in a way you have they least sympathy' for.

 

[Deathbydemo]

While I'm not here solely for the reason stated; it plays a massive part in my decision to ctb. I truly wish I was one of those people who dealt well with break ups but unfortunately, I wasn't built that way. My ex left me in July and the emotional turmoil I've been dealing with since has been hell on earth. Consistently shutting me out his life has been one of the hardest things I've ever dealt with.

Heartbreak is truly one of the worst things a human can face in their life. Personally, I'd rather be dead that live every day knowing he chooses to be without me.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I think it can be a legit reason, but I may be biased considering it's my primary reason.

I understand that even my own heartbreak isn't as bad as it can be for some people. I also occasionally succumb to whataboutism. Why SHOULD I feel suicdal over the amount of heartbreak I've suffered when I've yet to even get as far as some people have? It's not like I was cheated on, abused, or had anyone die. All that happened was there were multiple times that proved where I became close to getting into a relationship and yet the latest one broke my heart all the time. I think maybe I was just born overly sensitive and with thin skin but I just can't get through it. Well, maybe I can but it's more like I don't want to. Being heartbroken is such a miserable feeling that it's made me want to give up on life in order to ensure it can never happen again...

...That said, I'll still stay around and hope for a miracle for at least a couple of months, but I can't expect everyone who feels the same to have the same desire to punish themselves in such a way.

 

[vacant_n]

It's why I am where I am, though its really about more than just losing a partner. If I could just go somewhere new, be financially stable and have my own space that I'm comfortable in I'd probably be able to get over the breakup eventually. The problem is that all of that goes out the window along with the relationship.

I didn't even realize how much this relationship did for me. Almost all of my mental health issues disappeared while we were together, and we were together long enough that I even forgot what it felt like to be this way. I was content for the first time in my life. I may as well have been a different person.

To have all of that torn away from me so suddenly was devastating in a way I'll never be able to express. So now I'm left with the worst anxiety and depression I've ever experienced, all the stability I worked to achieve is crumbling beneath me, and my main source of emotional support is gone. I don't see any way through this that doesn't leave me fundamentally broken. I don't care about convincing anyone else, because it's my choice, but it seems like a perfectly rational decision to me.

 

[goodbyebunny]

Nobody needs to justify their reasoning to anyone, for wanting to die, or taking their own life. We all experience differing reactions to pain, and no two experiences of a similar type of trauma are the same. If it's enough for you, then you deserve to have your decisions respected. Just my opinion.

 

[Lucifer'sRight]

I find you're post insulting, to say you have the least sympathy for that reason will upset many on this website, and again many whom are on here through a relationship breakdown of some sort.

May be keep the shitty opinions to yourself, hey?

I'm not the one who needs a chill pill, clearly. And i'm not going to be rude af because you are, i thought you'd have something more susbstantial to say then a meme, but ok. You win, you send a a funny meme. You don't need to agree with someone to respect them.. am i right? Or do i just need a chill pill?

 

[fearmenot]

That's where I am now, at the end of a mentally exhausting relationship. I feel so defeated and betrayed and like every part of me is wrong. I'm so tired of living in a world where the only ppl that get ahead in life are the ones who lie and cheat and use people. No, I wouldn't be CTB just because of her but she is a catalyst that helps me to lose faith in humanity entirely

 

[ixkitty]

Hahaha, not even our parents would love us forever. People love our sucess, not us. The moment you become unpleasant for them you will be dumped. Its not worth being stressed and suicial over someone, because they dont give a fuck about us. Its a waste of mind.
That's one of the reasons I will be gone, because i dont want to live in such world where im measured between worthy and worthless by everyone. Fuck this world.
.

Preach. Literally how I feel. I give and give and no one even considers how I'm feeling. As long as I have money, they're fine. When I don't, they dont give a shit! I. Get. You!

 

[woxihuanni]

Depends on what you invested in that relationship, what it cost you, if it is replacable, if you have been so abused that no third party's crappy pep talk can help when the abuser won't take responsibility for he has done. Some people think relationship means dick/cunt-surfing. No big deal, eh?

Also as pointed out, nobody chose to come so nobody has the obligation to stay.

 

[greebo6]

Echo what Squiddy said.

 

[itachi of death]

In my opinion and experience of every relationship I've ever been in was terrible and it definitely adds on to the darkness inside,it fuels my hatred of myself,i failed at ctb last year,had my ex slapped me as hard as she could and told me to untie myself and left the room,so it depends on the bonds that were made and broken I suppose

 

[woxihuanni]

In my opinion and experience of every relationship I've ever been in was terrible and it definitely adds on to the darkness inside,it fuels my hatred of myself,i failed at ctb last year,had my ex slapped me as hard as she could and told me to untie myself and left the room,so it depends on the bonds that were made and broken I suppose

If you don't mind, I hope that lowlife dies precisely in the way he had no empathy for.