Venting I keep fighting with my parents and it is actually hurting me so much.

[psychosis]

It feels like whenever I talk to my parents about anything (school or things I need from them usually), it morphs into a fight where they don't want to help me and would rather me handle it on my own and me wanting them to help me with something that will have no negative impact on their life at all but doesn't happen to follow the path they want me to follow for my life. When its not a fight and I'm trying to tell them something that is happening to me, they make assumptions and will not entertain a conversation if they cannot fix it or see a way to fix it. Its gotten to a point where I never talk about problems to them if I just want them to hear it and not try and fix it, making our relationship very transactional. Me and my Dad were just fighting about how he doesn't think I understand how school works just because I don't put 100% of my energy into demonstrating it to him. I understand a significant part of me is in the wrong for not understanding there side but I guess I feel like I should be able to ask for help sometimes and not get shot down every time. This is so stupid that I'm complaining about this but it is really hurting me and our relationship. Is there anything you guys would recommend me to do? Should I just shut the fuck up and try and handle it our do I need to actually express how I feel about this. It feels like so much is going wrong in my life and there's just nothing to do about it.

 

[Ethel]

Check out the theraminTree channel on yt

There's some videos that could help you since he grew up with complicated parents too...

While reading your story,the whole part about not being able to express yourself, you might be experiencing emotional neglect, idk...

This is a video I recommend

And this one

stay well friend S2

 

[psychosis]

Check out the theraminTree channel on yt

There's some videos that could help you since he grew up with complicated parents too...

While reading your story,the whole part about not being able to express yourself, you might be experiencing emotional neglect, idk...

This is a video I recommend

And this one

stay well friend S2

Tysm I really appreciate it

 

[looking4partner]

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It feels like whenever I talk to my parents about anything (school or things I need from them usually), it morphs into a fight where they don't want to help me and would rather me handle it on my own and me wanting them to help me with something that will have no negative impact on their life at all but doesn't happen to follow the path they want me to follow for my life. When its not a fight and I'm trying to tell them something that is happening to me, they make assumptions and will not entertain a conversation if they cannot fix it or see a way to fix it. Its gotten to a point where I never talk about problems to them if I just want them to hear it and not try and fix it, making our relationship very transactional. Me and my Dad were just fighting about how he doesn't think I understand how school works just because I don't put 100% of my energy into demonstrating it to him. I understand a significant part of me is in the wrong for not understanding there side but I guess I feel like I should be able to ask for help sometimes and not get shot down every time. This is so stupid that I'm complaining about this but it is really hurting me and our relationship. Is there anything you guys would recommend me to do? Should I just shut the fuck up and try and handle it our do I need to actually express how I feel about this. It feels like so much is going wrong in my life and there's just nothing to do about it.

I cannot really give you any advice because I have the exact same problem and developed an extremely scary condition and have basically never needed help from my family more in my entire life, but they act like everything is still normal and complain about my severe struggles and are planning to basically abandon me even though other people's families did everything they could to try & help their kid with this condition no matter what their age was specifically because of how rare and complex it is. And I just need people to listen to me and someone to help support me, but for some reason they are incapable of doing that. And many of them have absolutely no understanding of mental health even though they have diagnoses themselves and just tell me to do whatever helped them even though we are different people and I am not them and those things don't help me and what would actually help me is someone listening to what I'm saying and helping with what I am asking instead of telling me what to do and controlling me and trying to convince me to do what their ideas are. And also being reliable and following through on the things they said that they would help me with instead of continuously leaving at the exact moments when I need help after saying that they will help and telling me that I am capable of doing things myself instead of helping me with them like supportive families do.