Help how did you accept that you failed in life?

[curiousbeing]

i mean, how did you make peace with it? That you are failed and going to leave some people you care about behind?

 

[Aren]

i mean, how did you make peace with it? That you are failed and going to leave some people you care about behind?

I say to myself that i tried all i could, as long as i could, with all the luck i could have in this life but it is not enought. I think i have not the obligation to handle such pain and i don't deserve it as human who just wanted to be happy in life. If life and choices made me go the wrong way i can't do anything more. For my situation for exemple i fought during 10 years to reach a life, and 4 month later someone destroyed this life. I failed my life and i accept it because i tried everything as long as i could. After that it's up to you to choose if you want restart another life or not but it's another and deep question.

 

[dragonofenvy]

i mean, how did you make peace with it? That you are failed and going to leave some people you care about behind?

I tell myself that I put in my best effort, and did everything that others have, and what others have told me. Some people are able to capitalize on the opportunities they were granted. I was granted many opportunities, and pursued them, but sometimes the trees you plant will not bear fruit. That's life, unfortunately. Sometimes you try and try but nothing works, while others make it look easy. Life simply isn't made for everyone and you shouldn't have to spend your existence in what is, for you, a prison just because everyone else thinks it's a playground.

 

[Aren]

I tell myself that I put in my best effort, and did everything that others have, and what others have told me. Some people are able to capitalize on the opportunities they were granted. I was granted many opportunities, and pursued them, but sometimes the trees you plant will not bear fruit. That's life, unfortunately. Sometimes you try and try but nothing works, while others make it look easy. Life simply isn't made for everyone and you shouldn't have to spend your existence in what is, for you, a prison just because everyone else thinks it's a playground.

It's so true.

 

[Forveleth]

I have not "failed" in life. I simply am no longer interested in continued existence.

 

[peacebenow]

I didn't fail at life. I have more courage and strength in me than should be humanly possible.

 

[The Eternal One]

The process was painful, due to my perfectionism in general - I wanted to do everything and to do it perfect.
I think acceptance came along with deep exhaustion accumulated over every single try at life. At the very last attempt I recognized things won't be good, no matter what I do. The slow decline of my body and cognitive abilities has already begun due to older years. Each year will only speed up the process, like a boulder rolling down a hill.
I guess failing one last time showed me I was doomed from the very start. Tiredness became the ultimate acceptance tool, no coping skills needed. It just clicked in my head all of a sudden, reality laid bare before me - I accepted myself as an objective failure on all fronts possible, and it made me relax, accept, move on.

In ultimate play of life there can be only a few main heroes, a huge load of extras and few who gets to play an inanimate corpse others step over on their adventures. I was always meant to be the latter.

 

[Aren]

I also think a lot about Icarus from Greek mythology, who burned his wings and fell after flying too close to the sun. For me, my sun was my wife and a happy life. I tried to fly as high as I could to reach that, but life clipped my wings a little more each time. Now, I am forced to admit that I no longer have enough wings left to reach any other sun. Accepting the fall brings me a sense of relief as if I am finally allowed to let go. For this, i don't consider it like a fail but a world who don't want to accept me, and there is not justice for a lot of us.

 

[starboy2k]

I didnt fail life.
I failed the everlasting rigged game of society's creation.
A game that was invented way too long before I was even thought of…….

The moment I take someone's autonomy away, violate someone's humanity, or take someone's life…..THAT is when I failed at life.

Im just annoyed by who and what I observe on the daily, whether that be on the internet or real life. I simply have no more patience for it and I want to die.

 

[xXiloveyouXx]

It was my worst fear so the only way I could accept it is by beginning to identify with it, really embracing being a loser. I guess I needed to reform my ego into one that is less confrontational toward the idea of failing in life? The facts didn't change so I had to change.