Discussion Horrible relationship with father?

[tomz323]

I was wondering if any others have advice on father son relations? I assume allot of young men (I'm 22) don't get along with their father, I just know that I wish I had a good male roll model to show me how to be a man...

 

[Dead beat dad]

I was wondering if any others have advice on father son relations? I assume allot of young men (I'm 22) don't get along with their father, I just know that I wish I had a good male roll model to show me how to be a man...

Hey brother, I'm sorry for the state of your relationship with your poppa.
I have the same problem and being a poppa too tears me apart daily; I don't want to become my father, don't want my child to become me.
Remember your dad was a person before you came along and maybe had a different life and dreams which he sacrificed (or not as the case may be).
Talk to your dad (I know this requires a lot of courage), ask him maybe who his role are/were, ask yourself, what qualities do I want in myself, maybe ask your dad to help you achieve them.
Good luck brother.
DBD

 

[Broken]

Me and my dad haven't gotten on for years. For along time I felt at fault as I've caused many problems for my family through drug taking and poor desicion making. recentlyevery part of my life fell apart. I've leant my dad is a liar and a cheat and he's spent 15 years telling me to sort my life out when he's living with secrets and lies. The fact that I'm like my dad absolutely disgusts me.