Discussion Did a narcissist/sociopath ruined your life?

[mini_weeny]

A narcissist harmed me physically very badly (long story) and is the main reason I'm here. Did a narcissist harm you so bad your life is ruined forever???? Did you know you were with a narcissist/sociopath at the moment? Were you too naive? My life is FUBARd forever, I dream of killing this person, of stabbing her in the face, of stabbing her in her eyes. I think I have ptsd from this experience. And you????

 

[Deleted member 26067]

Which one? The world is 99.99% composed of those types.

 

[Symbiote]

Hah, I'm married to one! She can ruin my life if I let her, I'm trying very hard not to let that happen, by forming an escape plan and getting out. If I don't get this job position in a state far away from this one, then I'll fighting against my mental reserves and time. If you see a narcissist, run for the hills and hide.

 

[EmbraceOfTheVoid]

Yeah, my mom is abusive narcissist that never takes responsibility for her behavior.

 

[WornOutLife]

There used to be a narcissist guy, I mean, myself, who ruined many things, especially relationships in which I could've been happy forever and ever.
Now, I got over "him". I'm actually the opposite. I tend to hate myself haha.

 

[mini_weeny]

Hah, I'm married to one! She can ruin my life if I let her, I'm trying very hard not to let that happen, by forming an escape plan and getting out. If I don't get this job position in a state far away from this one, then I'll fighting against my mental reserves and time. If you see a narcissist, run for the hills and hide.

Many ppl seem to agree absolutely no good can come from being with ppl like this and that they will destroy you physically or/and mentally.

There used to be a narcissist guy, I mean, myself, who ruined many things, especially relationships in which I could've been happy forever and ever.
Now, I got over "him". I'm actually the opposite. I tend to hate myself haha.

If that's, true do narcissists feel love or a bit of empathy or is it all just pretending and fakery???? I've seen these ppl cry but why if they don't feel empathy?

 

[Moviement]

My dad.

 

[uglyface]

my family, mother, father, 4 brothers. I am a black sheep.

 

[Hyperbunny]

Which one? The world is 99.99% composed of those types.

Are u sure. I didnt think this

 

[WornOutLife]

Many ppl seem to agree absolutely no good can come from being with ppl like this and that they will destroy you physically or/and mentally.

If that's, true do narcissists feel love or a bit of empathy or is it all just pretending and fakery???? I've seen these ppl cry but why if they don't feel empathy?

I think most of them don't feel empathy or simply can't.
My ex gave me EVERYTHING but I was a narcissist fool who screwed everything up. Myself was more important than her. So yeah, there was a lack of empathy but they can change. I've changed! (for the better, although still suicidal)

 

[Hyperbunny]

A narcissist harmed me physically very badly (long story) and is the main reason I'm here. Did a narcissist harm you so bad your life is ruined forever???? Did you know you were with a narcissist/sociopath at the moment? Were you too naive? My life is FUBARd forever, I dream of killing this person, of stabbing her in the face, of stabbing her in her eyes. I think I have ptsd from this experience. And you????

My family esp parents
It sucks when both ur parents are narcs

 

[x~Sophia~x]

Which one? The world is 99.99% composed of those types.

Then that would surely include yourself in that 99.99%. Which are you, or are you a mix of both?

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

Then that would surely include yourself in that 99.99%. Which are you, or are you a mix of both?

 

[Deleted member 26067]

Then that would surely include yourself in that 99.99%. Which are you, or are you a mix of both?

I try very hard not to be.

I can see however, you don't try very hard. Is there a reason why you follow and antagonize me? I'd really rather not have to interact with you, if you don't mind.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

I can see however, you don't try very hard. Is there a reason why you follow and antagonize me? I'd really rather not have to interact with you, if you don't mind.

I'm certainly not following you, but I've noticed that a lot of your posts seem to be antagonistic and you sound VERY angry. Just my opinion though...

 

[Deleted member 26067]

I'm certainly not following you, but I've noticed that a lot of your posts seem to be antagonistic and you sound VERY angry. Just my opinion though...

You are perceptive. I am a cauldron of hate. But that's beside the point. At least I don't follow and insult people for fun.

You know, hanging around a suicide forum and tormenting/laughing at people who have lost all hope and reason to continue it's kind of a low thing to do. Were there no puppies for you to kick or crippled children for you to mock and point at near you?

 

[BornofDust]

Seems like my mom fits the covert narcissist type, she would be kind, sweet, and compassionate to everyone else including my cousin, but would be merciless, brutal, condescending mean, harsh and sometimes outright sadistically behind the scenes towards me. And only me it seems. I've also had one as a head supervisor, who also put up this front, while also being the same(she once mad one of my co-worker's nearly burst into tears for things that wasn't even that bad) and repeatedly looked down on most people not on the " in-group"(even looking down on her own guest)which while she did "helped' me a lot, the especially since I made the mistake of falling for her mask at my most vulnerable, I also, too be quite honest, not a person I'm interested in seeing ever again. Since there's clearly strings attached.

 

[Rockman]

Yes. Family full of personality disorders mostly narcissists and their caregivers. So full that specialists are confused and told me that i have many mixed personality disorders and their consequences. Just a cocktail. My personality is fragmented.
Im in exctruciating pain most of my life.
Sick from childhood through sick family dynamics. Mutilated by my first aggressive partner with borderline and bipolar disorder which led to me being a wreck and ptsd. It was a repetition of the relationship with the parent.
I have all the risk factors for suicide.

 

[makingsure4]

The Female ex-parent is a sadist who only knows how to "nurture" plants. Or somehow she kept over 100 of them in the house green. To this day I won't have a plant in my house. I love them outdoors though but to be abused constantly and then see her fawn over her plants. Too much. Too much. But I do have a favorite tree outside my window.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

You are perceptive. I am a cauldron of hate. But that's beside the point. At least I don't follow and insult people for fun.

You know, hanging around a suicide forum and tormenting/laughing at people who have lost all hope and reason to continue it's kind of a low thing to do. Were there no puppies for you to kick or crippled children for you to mock and point at near you?

I'm sorry but you're mixing me up with yourself. I've seen you suggesting that another member's psychiatrist should kill himself, suggesting that we're all narcissists or sociopaths, and a few other antagonistic posts where I can only suspect that you're wanting an argument again tonight. Just put me on ignore, as you have done with @Scotty and his mate, because I can't help but get the feeling that you will always blame someone else for your shitty responses to other members' posts.

 

[BornofDust]

Many ppl seem to agree absolutely no good can come from being with ppl like this and that they will destroy you physically or/and mentally.

If that's, true do narcissists feel love or a bit of empathy or is it all just pretending and fakery???? I've seen these ppl cry but why if they don't feel empathy?

From what I've researched and observed of these people, they have what is called " cold empathy" but just not ' hot empathy.', which means that narcissist are able to understand people's emotions from observation( meaning if you are in pain physically or emotionally, they can immediately see that from your body language and facial expression's), through cognitive empathy, but they simply can't(or have a limited compacity to) feel what the other peso n is feeling and being able to emotionally put themselves in other's shoe's. So while they understand people's emotions really well, they don't(or can't) have the capacity to feel send care for people's emotions. They're use of cognitive empathy or " cold empathy' is what able to be manipulative in the first place. This is the same for sociopaths/psychopaths.

So yes, they are ' faking it" . No they can not feel love, at least not emotionally, this is based on their inability to have " hot empathy. " They are really good at pretending they do though if they have something to gain. Again same with sociopath's/psychopaths( also its a bit different and complicated )

I've also seen them cry. They are usually either fake crying if around others or in a horrifying event, or if they are genuinely crying, its usually for themselves, especially if they've been criticized, since almost all narcissist are really sensitive to criticism.

 

[Deleted member 26067]

I'm sorry but you're mixing me up with yourself. I've seen you suggesting that another member's psychiatrist should kill himself, suggesting that we're all narcissists or sociopaths, and a few other antagonistic posts where I can only suspect that you're wanting an argument again tonight. Just put me on ignore, as you have done with @Scotty and his mate, because I can't help but get the feeling that you will always blame someone else for your shitty responses to other members' posts.

I already did.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

I already did.

AMEN.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm the narcissist and sociopath who ruined my own life.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

I already did.

AMEN.

 

[makingsure4]

I'm the narcissist and sociopath who ruined my own life.

Somehow laughing at that felt wrong in a certain sense but Lol I did. :) You must have a good sense of humor. If you can now laugh at yourself I'd say you are on the road to "recovery".

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Somehow laughing at that felt wrong in a certain sense but Lol I did. :) You must have a good sense of humor. If you can now laugh at yourself I'd say you are on the road to "recovery".

I can definitely laugh at myself all the time but that's more because of just how much I hate myself. I don't know about recovery, feels more like I'm stuck on it...

Anyways, glad you found it funny. I didn't intend it that way but I can see how it's funny because it's true.

 

[AnniesHideaway]

Never blame anyone in your life:

• Good people give you happiness.
• Bad people give you experience.
• The worst people give you a lesson.
• And the best people give you memories.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

There is no greater act of narcissism than procreation. You are putting yourself (literally, half of the kid is you) before the environment, the economy, everyone else and last but not least your own child. All of this just because you wanted to nut and serve the DNA.

 

[violetsaturn]

Sadly, yes. And of course, I had to date this person at a young age (and they were older). So I am absolutely scarred and ruined. I think what makes it worse is the fact that I'm tormented by everything that he did and said to me, and yet, he goes on about his life thinking he is a great person. And so does his family. It sucks that sociopaths and narcissists can have the ability to charm the fuck out of anyone who doesn't choose to look beneath the surface.