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toxicjester

toxicjester

I’m just a baby seal 💜🦭
Dec 11, 2023
207
For those of you who use dating websites, what do you use and what do you use it for?

Like for example, I use Grindr and Tinder and I use it to find hookups and like potential friends w/benefits!

So I'm curious what other things there could be

Also be nice! If you think hookups are weird it's okay! Just don't be mean about it 💜🦭

((Also put the nsfw tag in case even mentioning dating websites is like nsfw worth but maybe this way we could talk about experiences a little more?))
 
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Skallagrim

Skallagrim

Member
Apr 14, 2022
74
I've not been on one for ages.

I might have go though. I'm just gonna put "I hope you need sex really bad, because really bad sex is my specialty.", and then await the rush.
 
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Grog

Grog

Be good to yourself.
Jun 3, 2025
281
I've tried dating websites, but I'm not personally a fan of them. It's like the two people who matched up with each other are forcing a connection. I like when I just meet people and a connection naturally occurs.
 
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Sayoki

Sayoki

New Member
May 11, 2024
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Never tried to, i met most people who ever loves from games.
 
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DivineSpark

DivineSpark

Elementalist
Feb 9, 2025
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I've tried dating websites, but I'm not personally a fan of them. It's like the two people who matched up with each other are forcing a connection. I like when I just meet people and a connection naturally occurs.
Yeah, I like meeting people face to face. So I can figure out quickly if we match up or not.
 
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Actovania

Actovania

the same
Mar 30, 2023
83
ive never used a dating app or dated someone in my life
 
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Dejected 55

Dejected 55

Wizard
May 7, 2025
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In the early 2000s dating sites were still passable. By which I mean there were actual women on them who wanted to actually meet men. Aside from one fix-up from someone at work, the only dates I ever had were from matchmaking websites in the late 1995 and early 2000s. Dates didn't go well, sometimes I knew why sometimes I didn't... but at least the women showed up.

Anytime I've tried since then, I either get no matches at all... or I match with people running some kind of scam, usually bitcoin or gold. It's crazy, Like a while back I was on Tinder just to see what I could see... and I lost count of the number of "women" who matched and had the exact same story. They were from another country, had come here by way of an uncle or grandfather to start their own "beauty business" and were also into bitcoin and gold and wanted to discuss investments. Just for fun I completely short-circuited one because they mentioned the "beauty business" so I immediately went into a spiel about my investments and "she" lit up like a Christmas tree. I then started copy/pasting from another match who was trying to sell me on something and let them talk to each other basically until I got bored and they had no idea I was doing it.
 
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toxicjester

toxicjester

I’m just a baby seal 💜🦭
Dec 11, 2023
207
I've not been on one for ages.

I might have go though. I'm just gonna put "I hope you need sex really bad, because really bad sex is my specialty.", and then await the rush.
That's p much how I fess I hadn't gone in a long time anf started using them again

Tbf you don't need to be saying that you're down to fuck half the time because it's so full of people(usually cis dudes) that are ready to ask you if you're down lol, at least that's been my expeirence

But also some groups get more fetishized attention than others. My ex would get so many more chasers flocking to her because she's a trans women

You just kinda make do with whatever website you use I guess, you'll find something cool
I've tried dating websites, but I'm not personally a fan of them. It's like the two people who matched up with each other are forcing a connection. I like when I just meet people and a connection naturally occurs.
This is real! I just don't go to events like that to really meet people face to face. I've been so tired of being cooped up and only going out when I work and also tired of not being able to have intimacy so dating apps have been okay for me like that, I don't use them to actually find something long term in terms of relationships tho
Never tried to, i met most people who ever loves from games.
This is kinda similar to what I said above except it's just that I don't really play games much, I wish I could meet peeps like that tho!
ive never used a dating app or dated someone in my life
Im sorry :(
It's not something you need to have if you're not wanting one but I don't think you're in a position to be out of the ring permanently! Although I know I don't know anything about your stuff and I'm sorry if it's intruding :(
I send you best wishes and kindess 💜🦭
In the early 2000s dating sites were still passable. By which I mean there were actual women on them who wanted to actually meet men. Aside from one fix-up from someone at work, the only dates I ever had were from matchmaking websites in the late 1995 and early 2000s. Dates didn't go well, sometimes I knew why sometimes I didn't... but at least the women showed up.

Anytime I've tried since then, I either get no matches at all... or I match with people running some kind of scam, usually bitcoin or gold. It's crazy, Like a while back I was on Tinder just to see what I could see... and I lost count of the number of "women" who matched and had the exact same story. They were from another country, had come here by way of an uncle or grandfather to start their own "beauty business" and were also into bitcoin and gold and wanted to discuss investments. Just for fun I completely short-circuited one because they mentioned the "beauty business" so I immediately went into a spiel about my investments and "she" lit up like a Christmas tree. I then started copy/pasting from another match who was trying to sell me on something and let them talk to each other basically until I got bored and they had no idea I was doing it.
That is super crazy fr. I haven't had any encounters like that but then, I'm a transmasc 24 year old who has their job listed as fast food so, prolly not an ideal target for a scam like that
I am sorry that's been your experience tho, I think just some websites are hit or misses. Grindr had been a major miss for me up until a couple days ago when I met someone cute and cool and compatible for hookup stuff. It just depends I guess. As with anything
 
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enduringwinter

enduringwinter

flower, water
Jun 20, 2024
366
I used Tinder twice 10+ years ago which was fine everyone I met was cool and we vibed, sometimes we were rlly into each other as a treat.

Now I just want aliens to brainwash my parents to accept me (maybe conveniently wire me some cash while theyre at it) and for God to drop a wife into my lap. Or maybe aliens can brainwash me to like men I'm tired lol
 
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toxicjester

toxicjester

I’m just a baby seal 💜🦭
Dec 11, 2023
207
I used Tinder twice 10+ years ago which was fine everyone I met was cool and we vibed, sometimes we were rlly into each other as a treat.

Now I just want aliens to brainwash my parents to accept me (maybe conveniently wire me some cash while theyre at it) and for God to drop a wife into my lap. Or maybe aliens can brainwash me to like men I'm tired lol
I wonder if it was any different 10 years ago? I wouldn't have been able to use it at that ooint

I'm glad you had good experiences with it in the past!

The aliens need to start helping us fr ANXJKAZN also me with god except it'd be like "my life would be so much easier if you had made me a boy" and then years later I'm transmasc lol
 
spoonfed

spoonfed

General people hater! 😁
Aug 8, 2024
20
For those of you who use dating websites, what do you use and what do you use it for?

Like for example, I use Grindr and Tinder and I use it to find hookups and like potential friends w/benefits!

So I'm curious what other things there could be

Also be nice! If you think hookups are weird it's okay! Just don't be mean about it 💜🦭

((Also put the nsfw tag in case even mentioning dating websites is like nsfw worth but maybe this way we could talk about experiences a little more?))
Not me but my daughter, she hooked up at my son, her brother's funeral that was a bit strange and now they're married and to add to the madness her wedding venue was where my son died, it was a weird day that one . 😭😭😭💔🥰🥰🥰 Full of strange emotions.
 
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enduringwinter

enduringwinter

flower, water
Jun 20, 2024
366
I wonder if it was any different 10 years ago? I wouldn't have been able to use it at that ooint

I'm glad you had good experiences with it in the past!

The aliens need to start helping us fr ANXJKAZN also me with god except it'd be like "my life would be so much easier if you had made me a boy" and then years later I'm transmasc lol
I wonder too, I don't know what its like now so I cant compare. My younger friends seem to have mixed experiences.
You're doing God's work literally 🫡
 
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toxicjester

toxicjester

I’m just a baby seal 💜🦭
Dec 11, 2023
207
Not me but my daughter, she hooked up at my son, her brother's funeral that was a bit strange and now they're married and to add to the madness her wedding venue was where my son died, it was a weird day that one . 😭😭😭💔🥰🥰🥰 Full of strange emotions.
The emotions you must I've been going through sound overwhelming I'm so sorry 😭

Maybe it was her way of connecting with him? For the wedding at the least 💜🦭
I wonder too, I don't know what its like now so I cant compare. My younger friends seem to have mixed experiences.
You're doing God's work literally 🫡
ANNSNSND appreciate the compliment! :)

Yea for me tinder was cool once because I met a girl there and we hooked up but aside from that it's so blugh, but like for different reasons that Grindr is blugh
 
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usernamesarehard

usernamesarehard

Life sucks and then you die
Dec 22, 2021
217
I tried a lot of the dating apps: tinder, pof, e harmony, coffee meets bagel, hinge, bumpy, bumble. I use them to hopefully get a long term relationship. I've quit the apps though. I mainly used tinder, but after I got nothing, I decided I'm just going to go to group things to be around people and ctb next year. I've always been undesirable and that's not going to change with time.
 
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psp3000

psp3000

Enlightened
May 20, 2023
1,644
I was only on a dating site once out of curiosity and boredom during a summer break if I remember correctly and I had no business being there since I was underaged/ not 18+

I had unsupervised internet access and I saw a anime/vocaloid YouTuber I can't remember the name of do a video about it once at the time

it no longer exists and it was an April Fool's joke

fakku.dating (NSFW WARNING if anyone decides to look into it or search it up)

thankfully nothing bad happened but now that I am an adult I wish they would bring it back because I think its both a good and funny concept and a lot of people are still wishing and waiting for it to come back to this day and some people actually found relationships/partners on it
 
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star.trip

star.trip

Experienced
Oct 6, 2024
205
I have used those sites but in the end I realized that it's just for sex and that I wouldn't find anyone. Plus it's pretty shallow. It's like going to the supermarket choose, get chosen and if I saw you I don't remember anything.

Also, I felt bad and used by the other person.
Maybe the concept I have is different from the one others have. Or I don't know how to love. I don't know
I realized that these apps are not for me.
 
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