Venting Asked out another asian girl today. Got rejected.

[zomboid]

The stereo-typing here,,, uncomfy

 

[sevenkarmas]

No man. That's pathetic. You should only ask out women if they show interest in you, like giving you a sign..

What's more pathetic - being alone because you're afraid to ask, or asking until you get a yes? There are people that have built their entire wealth on the latter (sales people). I'm of the former type, but I understand the concept. To each their own.

 

[rest in peace]

Why is it weird ? There are many potential reasons for that. Why are women allowed to have weird high standards like this height, makes 6 figures, not fat, thus and that or some go for black only.

But if a male just said, I just want a girl with a very slight preference it's misogynistic or fat phobic or this or that.

Western women are sometimes, for real, a pain in the ass with these super exclusive standards that western society is brainwashing into them. The west is not the pinnacle or center of the earth, in the most cultures its the complete opposite and they get together and don't "find the absolute perfect love" every 2 months in a underdeveloped skinny kid that vapes or some rich dude that treats her like garbage.

im not from the west and youre actually delusional if you think being shallow is a western woman's thing only.

 

[melodrama]

Everytime I see incel posts on this forum, a little bit of me dies inside.

 

[snailboy]

what do you want him to do. why do you think hes here
everyone has issues

not fetishize a race and not use misogynistic language. struggling mentally doesn't excuse that

What?

its odd to generalize asian girls and single them out, and words like chad are common incel terminology

 

[touhoufan]

Stop hating yourself to get over your fetish and go for Indian girls bhai. They're waiting for you. Blackpill is exaggerated try not to get caught up in it.


If he's young (<21) they are


Doesn't apply when you're Indian, short or balding. Said "ugly" men still usually are white, tall, successful, or social butterflies, any combination of which suffices to overshadow unfortunate facial proportions

1. younger women still have low standards. speaking from experience it doesnt take much to wow a girl as long as youre nice and interesting. the girls in my life are constantly defending their crushes/boyfriends/etc for being "ugly"

2. thats just straight up wrong. if that was true, indian/short/balding men wouldnt have any children. you just thinking that way is hindering your luck with romance. clearly you havent seen what some women out there are willing to date

 

[purella]

1. younger women still have low standards. speaking from experience it doesnt take much to wow a girl as long as youre nice and interesting. the girls in my life are constantly defending their crushes/boyfriends/etc for being "ugly"

2. thats just straight up wrong. if that was true, indian/short/balding men wouldnt have any children. you just thinking that way is hindering your luck with romance. clearly you havent seen what some women out there are willing to date

Online dating and social media have changed things. I'm chronically fatigued so I'm not going to pull up the stats but they're out there. Men are in crisis.

 

[Disaster]

Everytime I see incel posts on this forum, a little bit of me dies inside.

If dying from cringe was possible, I'd be already very, very much dead Unfortunately reading "this cruel world owes me a girlfriend to fix my life, I'm entitled to having a girlfriend because I'm such a nice guy, but FEMALES dare to have their own minds and have other things to do rather than dating me and making me sandwiches" sort of posts doesn't kill at all, the only thing it kills is the reasonable readers will to live.

 

[Georg]

If dying from cringe was possible, I'd be already very, very much dead Unfortunately reading "this cruel world owes me a girlfriend to fix my life, I'm entitled to having a girlfriend because I'm such a nice guy, but FEMALES dare to have their own minds and have other things to do rather than dating me and making me sandwiches" sort of posts doesn't kill at all, the only thing it kills is the reasonable readers will to live.

Pls post link where a user posted that he is entitled to a gf. Thank you.

Also, making fun of lonely men is so cheap.

 

[borderline-feline]

What's more pathetic - being alone because you're afraid to ask, or asking until you get a yes? There are people that have built their entire wealth on the latter (sales people). I'm of the former type, but I understand the concept. To each their own.

The former is understandable fear; the latter is harassment. The latter is the pathetic one.

Rejection can be scary, but people need to be able to take "no" for an answer.

In terms of OP's situation, trying to enter a relationship to deal with your mental health will just result in an unhealthy relationship. OP doesn't need a girlfriend; he needs to stop associating his value with his relationship status.

 

[themisbelow]

OP, just keep trying your luck with people until you find folks who you like. Not everyone you put your eyes on is going to immediately fall for you like an angel out of heaven, let alone the fact that like... do you even know if you guys were compatible? Do you share similar interests? Life philosophies? What did you like about her beyond that she was... asian? lol.

Dating isn't so simple as "I'm ugly". If it was, then the human race would've died out centuries ago. I'm a pretty unattractive non-binary person. I struggle with shaving facial hair due to issues with mood swings and I wish I was more attentive to my looks and fashion, but I'm just... not, again, due to mood swings. I still have managed to be in two long term relationships for multiple years. The people I dated didn't like me because I was a chad, or that I stunned them with their looks-- I literally met both of them online. We shared a lot of common interests, and loved each others company. Remember that life isn't just a bunch of numbers and transactions, but you're speaking to other people-- real, breathing humans. Not everyone will like you, hell most people won't even look at you, it's not a you thing, it's a human thing. Find your crowds, I promise you things will get better.

 

[Octavia]

If dying from cringe was possible, I'd be already very, very much dead Unfortunately reading "this cruel world owes me a girlfriend to fix my life, I'm entitled to having a girlfriend because I'm such a nice guy, but FEMALES dare to have their own minds and have other things to do rather than dating me and making me sandwiches" sort of posts doesn't kill at all, the only thing it kills is the reasonable readers will to live.

Seriously. I wish that I could die from cringe.

 

[The Abyss]

When ppl come here expressing their wish to die for a multitude of different reasons it's understood but when it's an "incel" situation something changes; funny that.

 

[kazewoatsumete]

Why is it weird ? There are many potential reasons for that. Why are women allowed to have weird high standards like this height, makes 6 figures, not fat, thus and that or some go for black only.

But if a male just said, I just want a girl with a very slight preference it's misogynistic or fat phobic or this or that.

Western women are sometimes, for real, a pain in the ass with these super exclusive standards that western society is brainwashing into them. The west is not the pinnacle or center of the earth, in the most cultures its the complete opposite and they get together and don't "find the absolute perfect love" every 2 months in a underdeveloped skinny kid that vapes or some rich dude that treats her like garbage.

bro stop watching so much anime what the hell? have you ever met an asian person before? do you think asian people don't have standards? you are too far gone if you really think you can get an asian girlfriend because they don't understand the concepts of attraction or compatibility or love according to you

 

[sincerelysad]

this is so weird oh my god

please just find a girl who likes you. asking out random women just because they're asian and saying you're only capable of living a happy life with an asian woman is absolutely so delusional.

you are setting yourself up for failure.

 

[sevenkarmas]

The former is understandable fear; the latter is harassment. The latter is the pathetic one.

Rejection can be scary, but people need to be able to take "no" for an answer.

In terms of OP's situation, trying to enter a relationship to deal with your mental health will just result in an unhealthy relationship. OP doesn't need a girlfriend; he needs to stop associating his value with his relationship status.

How is asking different girls harassment? I never stated asking the same girl out until she says yes. I'm not sure where you feel necessary to hop in, as all of your assumptions are incorrect. This was advice to the OP.

Edit: I noticed you were responding to my response to an earlier post, so that may have caused some of the confusion.

 

[RichardFirst]

When it comes to asking women out; it's not complicated. If she is interested in you, getting her attention will be like pushing an open door. If she isn't, then it will be very clear. In this case, she is not interested. It sucks, but there's little that you can do. Sorry, man :(

 

[etherealgoddess]

I have known her and her friend for a few months now. She usually hangs out with her friend. I have never seen either of them alone. I ran into them at the bus stop today and she realized she lost one of her pins and went back to retrace her steps. I went with her to help. We couldn't find the pin. On our way back I asked her if she wanted to hang out and was a bit surprised, said "me?" and then she said she's busy with assignments, lectures and part time work.

I later hinted to her friend that I like her (the asian girl) and she (the friend) said we should have a talk about that. And we did, and she said her friend isn't interested in dating rn and is focused on her studies.

I mean she probably is, but I feel like she would've liked me if I were a chad. I have been denied so many things in my life because of my looks. And I can't take it anymore. The strange thing is, I wasn't even hurt. I had 0 expectations. At this point I'm just asking out asian girls because I want to have a chance at happiness, and having an asian girlfriend is the only way I can be happy.

But it looks like I will never have it because of my face.

sucks to be me. Day by day I am convinced that suicide is the right choice for me.

Develop confidence. Male attractiveness is through your body language and tone of voice because 90% of communication is through body language and tone of voice. If you just take care of your basic hygiene and have relatively nice clothes, you just need to have good posture, know how to use hand gestures, use facial expressions, use strong and slightly slower-than-average talking to appear confident, etc. There is this guy in my high school who is like this. He is clearly a 5/10 in appearance if he were frozen, but oof... the thing that makes the girls in the school love him is the way he acts. He acts very confidently, but through his tone of voice, he is very kind. Having that mix of respect/confidence/intimidation and warmth/head nodding/smile is so important. Find out how to have good body language and also work on your appearance based on what you can easily control like few quality clothes and cologne or smth.

 

[borderline-feline]

How is asking different girls harassment? I never stated asking the same girl out until she says yes. I'm not sure where you feel necessary to hop in, as all of your assumptions are incorrect. This was advice to the OP.

Edit: I noticed you were responding to my response to an earlier post, so that may have caused some of the confusion.

The way you phrased it made it sound (to me at least) like you meant asking the same girl until she says yes. Asking different girls isn't pathetic as long as it's done respectfully.

I stand by what I said about OP not needing a girlfriend though.

Sorry for the misunderstanding.

 

[cristaleyez]

Relationships will only work if both parties are confident. If not, it leads to toxic, abusive, power dynamics, or simply incompatible relationships. Take it from someone who's been in several relationships like that, and is now in a relationship with much higher (than I used to) confidence.
If you aren't happy with yourself first, it'll all just go downhill.

 

[tootired4life]

hey man i hate to break it to you but i think its kinda a pussy move to be like "things are denied to me coz im ugly :(" instead of taking responsibility for ur shit yk. a lotta girls i know who date guys who are conventionally ugly but nice and smart - if she doesnt wanna date you its probably just because youre not her type or something. you'll find a nice girl who loves you eventually, i promise

 

[soontobedone]

this post is weird

My instinct is to laugh but this may be someone's actual reason for wanting to ctb.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

When ppl come here expressing their wish to die for a multitude of different reasons it's understood but when it's an "incel" situation something changes; funny that.

They have a bad rep. I'm totally willing to learn about them though if you'd like to have a discussion about it and change my mind. I once had a convo with one of them (not on here) and he literally said I'm not listening to anything you say because you're a woman. Didn't make me more sympathetic to him. I'm sure they're not all like that but some of the stuff they say about women and what women find attractive (as if they know) is so far removed from reality. And they literally don't listen at all when you try and give them advice or tell them women are actually not all the same. Not every man who is single has to call himself an "incel" there's nothing wrong with being single and/or lonely but calling yourself that term rather implies you believe in a certain ideology that most people find a bit concerning.

 

[Disaster]

They have a bad rep. I'm totally willing to learn about them though if you'd like to have a discussion about it and change my mind. I once had a convo with one of them (not on here) and he literally said I'm not listening to anything you say because you're a woman. Didn't make me more sympathetic to him. I'm sure they're not all like that but some of the stuff they say about women and what women find attractive (as if they know) is so far removed from reality. And they literally don't listen at all when you try and give them advice or tell them women are actually not all the same. Not every man who is single has to call himself an "incel" there's nothing wrong with being single and/or lonely but calling yourself that term rather implies you believe in a certain ideology that most people find a bit concerning.

Yeah, not shaming the life situation, but the internet subculture of incels

 

[TakeMeBack07]

Now imagine being neurodivergent and Pakistani in the west. That's me. I feel disgusted just typing that , I can't imagine how uncomfortable I make people feel. It sucks having garbage genetics.
I tried coping with religion by telling myself that God designed me this way with love. haha

 

[Disaster]

Now imagine being neurodivergent and Pakistani in the west. That's me. I feel disgusted just typing that , I can't imagine how uncomfortable I make people feel. It sucks having garbage genetics.
I tried coping with religion by telling myself that God designed me this way with love. haha

How is that supposed to be about the genetics though?

 

[Kariope]

Why is it weird ? There are many potential reasons for that. Why are women allowed to have weird high standards like this height, makes 6 figures, not fat, thus and that or some go for black only.

But if a male just said, I just want a girl with a very slight preference it's misogynistic or fat phobic or this or that.

Western women are sometimes, for real, a pain in the ass with these super exclusive standards that western society is brainwashing into them. The west is not the pinnacle or center of the earth, in the most cultures its the complete opposite and they get together and don't "find the absolute perfect love" every 2 months in a underdeveloped skinny kid that vapes or some rich dude that treats her like garbage.

It actually is weird for women to be like that, too.

This post reeks of fetishism in my opinion...

 

[BloomingRose]

hey man i hate to break it to you but i think its kinda a pussy move to be like "things are denied to me coz im ugly :(" instead of taking responsibility for ur shit yk. a lotta girls i know who date guys who are conventionally ugly but nice and smart - if she doesnt wanna date you its probably just because youre not her type or something. you'll find a nice girl who loves you eventually, i promise

I don't think it's right to promise something like that since finding love has a lot to do with luck. It isn't certain if someone actually finds it.

 

[Anhedoniac]

Really? Do you think a girlfriend is the solution to all your problems? And not only do you need a girlfriend but she also has to be Asian? Give me a break. People express here all kinds of discontent and very real issues that affects their quality of lives and pushes them to CTB, not having a girlfriend of a specific race is not one of them.

At this point I'm just asking out asian girls because I want to have a chance at happiness, and having an asian girlfriend is the only way I can be happy.

How are you so sure of that? LMFAO

 

[Temporal_Anchorite]

Weirdest post I've read all day lmao