Are you a kind person?

[Imagined_Euphoria]

Not really. I'm a very honest person. Honest above all else I would dare to say. That makes conversations hard. But I can't help it, my autism makes it really hard, normies expect to be constantly lied to and I can't and don't want to.

 

[Ashu]

Sometimes, when it suits me.

 

[Steff1337]

I try to be, but am most probably not.

 

[27ClubSoon]

I'd like to think so. I think it all comes down to intent of actions rather than anything else.

 

[FoxSauce]

People tell me I'm way to kind to the point that gets me into odd situations. I try but failed to put boundaries. Try to go out of my way for others. I think kindness goes a long way but ofc people can take advantage to that. But my own opinion am I a kind person?



No

 

[mrnob0dy]

I'm cruel

 

[remote toothbrush]

I try to be, but sometimes when i'm upset at something I can be mean to others for no reason. It makes me feel really bad.

 

[BoulderSoWhat]

People who know me would probably say that I'm a kind person. But I don't have a strong sense of identity. So I don't think to myself "I'm a kind person" but I don't think "I'm an unkind person" either.

I think increasingly with a lot of things, labels, categories of people, I don't think of myself as "being" anything in particular. I think I'm just a person.

I have capacity for kindness and unkindness, reason and irrationality, determination and giving up. But of course there is a core thought process to my mind, that I think is a consistent part of me over time.

When possible within reason, I try to do good things for myself, others if I can, but without pressure or stressing about what I've done or not done while being alive. And I allow for nuanced flexibility and complexity with what all this even means.

I'm just alive here on this planet until I'm not. :)

 

[sh1ttynerd]

When I think about my past and present, I often wonder why people are so mean. I have only known one person who was good and kind. But she is dead now. To me it seems that many people enjoy saying rude things to others. Often, people will utter hurtful words to others with no motive. Or their motive could be simply to relieve their own pain. Children are bullied at school and adults are bullied at work. People get bullied on the Internet. People are abused both physically and psychologically. Maybe it is best to be alone. It is hard to be kind in a world made up of mean people. We do not even have the right to die to escape this suffering.

Most times, others are mean because of what is occuring in their own life and less often does it have to do with you. Common reasons people are mean include they have a need to gain power, they are jealous, they feel threatened, they struggle to regulate their emotions, they have been bullied in the past, they are experiencing chaos at home, they are prejudiced, they are projecting insecurities, they lack self-awareness, they feel pressured by social dynamics, your habits hurt them or there is a misunderstanding. However, people have different behaviors due to heredity. Futhermore, the one who has everything does not have to be nice and the beggar on the street must be kind to get money.

Reasons why people are mean

Everything underneath this post is very human, i myself am not very kind. I shut off because ive been kind before, only to be disappointed time and time again. Those who instill to be kind are strong, not everyone is capable of such, but one has to understand just being kind isnt a solution to every problem, to you, the original poster, keep your head up. Being kind is objective, being kind is doing the right thing. I wish you well

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

No and it's always sad that people keep thinking I am.

 

[Username1359751]

I mean I'm nicer than most assholes...

 

[Davey40210]

I think I am.

 

[rebelnow111]

When I think about my past and present, I often wonder why people are so mean. I have only known one person who was good and kind. But she is dead now. To me it seems that many people enjoy saying rude things to others. Often, people will utter hurtful words to others with no motive. Or their motive could be simply to relieve their own pain. Children are bullied at school and adults are bullied at work. People get bullied on the Internet. People are abused both physically and psychologically. Maybe it is best to be alone. It is hard to be kind in a world made up of mean people. We do not even have the right to die to escape this suffering.

Most times, others are mean because of what is occuring in their own life and less often does it have to do with you. Common reasons people are mean include they have a need to gain power, they are jealous, they feel threatened, they struggle to regulate their emotions, they have been bullied in the past, they are experiencing chaos at home, they are prejudiced, they are projecting insecurities, they lack self-awareness, they feel pressured by social dynamics, your habits hurt them or there is a misunderstanding. However, people have different behaviors due to heredity. Futhermore, the one who has everything does not have to be nice and the beggar on the street must be kind to get money.

Reasons why people are mean

i am but i get very angry ive been abused alot.

 

[Plentiful_Despair]

I can be kind or mean, depending on the person.

 

[Travis]

I was before the universe beat it out of me. Now I try my best but I'm trapped and blinded by my own misery.

 

[JustAnx]

I try to be, always. But there has been times that i have failed to be.

 

[soledad.virgen]

i try to be, but im also really selfish and ignorant and reactionary at times. i can get flustered and angry really quickly, it's one of my biggest flaws. I've hurt too many people because I've overreacted or got really selfish and self interested. a lot of my friends say im kind, but i feel that when it really matters i don't act kind. it's frustrating, but i try to work on it.

 

[Redacted24]

I keep getting told that my tone can be harsh and hurtful. I don't mean to be either, I just see things as I do and am honest. Seems many people don't like honesty.
My therapist told me recently that I'm too nice and that I need to do better at setting boundaries (whatever that means)
I think I have a lot of empathy for others.
But then it seems that I'm also blind.
It's confusing.

 

[nomoredolor]

I strive to be kind.
I act kind. But my mind is vile at times.

I'm always kind to someone in need, when I have the means.

This is exactly how I feel too.

 

[SilentSadness]

Am I kind?

 

[SweetItalianS]

Yes I am kind, not because of religious beliefs promising me eternal heavenly life, not because I was taught to be, but because I choose to be kind.

Being kind is fulfilling, I'd like to say that kindness is a part of my Purpose.

 

[Hyperion_1884]

No. Honestly I don't think so.

I may have been, or tried to be a while ago when I was trying to be many other things, but nowadays I find that my own internal conflict often gets in the way of me being kind to others.

I'm not trying to excuse myself. I'm not proud of it either. It's just the reality of the thing, I'm not a good human being and I don't think I care enough to change that fact, not in this state anyway, being angry at myself often translates to being angry at the world and everything on it, even if I don't necessarily want to feel that way, my rudeness it's sort of a symptom of that or so I think.

 

[ZeroM24]

No.

 

[maylurker]

im kind to a point if a person pisses me off or disrespects me i almost instantly feel alienated from them

 

[Emptyvoidinmyheart]

I feel like I am sometimes too kind for this world :(
People used it for their own advantage through out my life. The most recent example was online. I met someone in a game who pretended to have leucemia and no family with exorbitant medical debts. We spend alot of time in that game so i trusted the person and tried to help fix her bills and her mentall wellbeing without prioritizing myself while I was in debts and depression myself. Overspending my budget just to help someone who i thought was in more need. Turned out it was a fraud :/ ive found out by asking gpt if the medical bill was fake or not.
Such things happend alot to me. Also in reallife. Gave all my energie and my last money in my pocket to people i knew. Never got any recognition nor a thanks. And after couple days they already forgot about you
I feel stupid..

Beeing polite is also considerd weak by many. It loses your respect. Atleast in the mens world where I grew up at.

But all this wont stop me beeing kind.(or atleast trying to be kind) it is who i am