Help anyone have any idea why my fp does this??

[lovelulu]

im like 99% sure that she doesn't really "love" me. Sure, maybe she did before, but now she just spends all of her time with this one girl playing roblox with her all day. We barley even talk anymore because she leaves me on delivered for hours. Her excuse is "she gets distracted playing." Anyway, I've told her multiple times to just block and leave me if shes going to give up on our relationship. She insists that shes not giving up. Then, she proceeds to play all day and just act so...annoyed and uninterested when talking to me. Im really confused on why she keeps me in her life when she barley even talks to me and doesn't even seem like she enjoys my presence. Im starting to think its just out of pity at this point. It hurts so much. I'd rather her leave then just keep me in her life for no reason. Does she want something from me or something??

 

[violetforever]

im basically in the same situation. im apparently "loved" but im ignored for weeks while hes off talking to other people everyday who enable his addictions. all i know is our best days are behind us and they most likely arent coming back. its probably my desperation that holds onto the belief that deep down i still mean something special enough to him or else he wouldnt keep me around.

i literally think we are kept as backups or something for when/if their main focus fails. she probably senses your dependency and knows youll never really leave her for good so she figures she can do whatever because she has that hold over you. im guessing she does want something from you but only when the time comes and its convenient for her. people can just be cruel and love to know they have someone obsessing and worrying over them.

 

[babyblueeyes]

im in this too dude idek what to do bc who else do I have that will deal with me aside from my fp right? i ask him to leave me and he says hes busy but he does the similar things to ur fp, only giving me bread crumbs of attention when im trying to build in my head thatd itd be better for me to just kill myself instead of bothering the people around me. especially him.

this dynamic isn't healthy tho. im talking for myself here but this might be helpful to you? i think its time for me to move on from this person because the pain that their actions put me through, which lead me to being a less than ideal partner myself. i know logically we would be better off not talking but idk it isnt as easy with bpd and my dbt hardly works smh its a skill issue.

idk dude if i make sense its super late and im kinda sad but i think the best thing for me to do is leave this person or at least distance him in my head bc we deserve someone who actually values us and not just some back up for when they want validation from a dog or smth.

this was lowk a long rant but i think they are ignoring you bc ppl get comfortable treating you like crap when you show how devoted you are to them and the only way to resolve this isnt to make yourself better person for them. its to leave them and realize youre worth more than you think.

im saying this despite being in the same situation hahahaha in my experience being abandoned is way worse than leaving someone so i need to build up the courage to love myself again, and i hope you do too. whoever you are youre worth loving so try loving urself and make u the fp! idk i sound fake as hell but it srsly hard for me to talk good to myself bc i suck but you dont so you gotta take these words to heart! if you want