Discussion Take your pet with you?

[Jezzibell]

I've been wondering what to do about my cat. I live alone, don't know anyone in the area. Cats protection rspca are all overburdened and older cats don't generally get rehomed. It may be weeks before she is found and how will she cope.

Has anyone considered taking their pet with them? I don't want her to suffer in a cramped cage/kennel and not be loved.

 

[Justnotme]

I also have heavy thoughts about this...
and let people judge me, call me cruel, but I want to take my 5 cats with me.

I don't want cruel human beings to find them on the street and beat them, tear off their paws, mock them. There are many stories when pets from the shelter find a new home, and then it turns out that the people who took the animals to themselves actually beat them and kill them.

This world is terrible for animals.
No one will take care of my cats.
And I'm afraid to give them to anyone (the reasons I wrote about above)

This is a very difficult decision.... But now I see that this is the only solution. I want to take them with me....

 

[nosoul]

I also have heavy thoughts about this...
and let people judge me, call me cruel, but I want to take my 5 cats with me.

I don't want cruel human beings to find them on the street and beat them, tear off their paws, mock them. There are many stories when pets from the shelter find a new home, and then it turns out that the people who took the animals to themselves actually beat them and kill them.

This world is terrible for animals.
No one will take care of my cats.
And I'm afraid to give them to anyone (the reasons I wrote about above)

This is a very difficult decision.... But now I see that this is the only solution. I want to take them with me....

How are u planning on doing it though?

 

[Disaster]

Maybe I have a brainwashed pro-life attitude here, but I absolutely disagree with this idea. Scheduled email to RSPCA would be a way to handle it responsibly.
Also, if you'd consider putting the animal down (if putting down a healthy animal is a thing at your country), I think it should be an euthanasia by the vet, nothing less peaceful is absolutely not acceptable in my book. I know that rehoming a pet beforehand and not raising red flags could be goddamn tricky or simply impossible. I get it. I hope you will find an option actually good for yourself and your cat.

 

[Minipute]

Do you have familly? Maybe they can take ur baby? When a familly member die we have took her dog and it help me grief. I dont judge you that a good point but im a foster cat mom and i like to think i take great care of him ( hes my reason to live lol). Maybe check shelter in ur erea? I really hope both of u the best

 

[Jezzibell]

I also have heavy thoughts about this...
and let people judge me, call me cruel, but I want to take my 5 cats with me.

I don't want cruel human beings to find them on the street and beat them, tear off their paws, mock them. There are many stories when pets from the shelter find a new home, and then it turns out that the people who took the animals to themselves actually beat them and kill them.

This world is terrible for animals.
No one will take care of my cats.
And I'm afraid to give them to anyone (the reasons I wrote about above)

This is a very difficult decision.... But now I see that this is the only solution. I want to take them with me....

Thank you for this. You cannot know how much it means for someone to understand that this is about kindness and not cruelty.

Do you have familly? Maybe they can take ur baby? When a familly member die we have took her dog and it help me grief. I dont judge you that a good point but im a foster cat mom and i like to think i take great care of him ( hes my reason to live lol). Maybe check shelter in ur erea? I really hope both of u the best

No family. Not really. Noone will love her like I do.

Maybe I have a brainwashed pro-life attitude here, but I absolutely disagree with this idea. Scheduled email to RSPCA would be a way to handle it responsibly.
Also, if you'd consider putting the animal down (if putting down a healthy animal is a thing at your country), I think it should be an euthanasia by the vet, nothing less peaceful is absolutely not acceptable in my book. I know that rehoming a pet beforehand and not raising red flags could be goddamn tricky or simply impossible. I get it. I hope you will find an option actually good for yourself and your cat.

I would always do it at a vet. I've noone to raise red flags for. Throughout the last 30 years I've taken in 25 strays. They've all passed on except my cat. She is a love. Her sister- rather runt if the litter - got cancer. A huge tumour in her stomach. But I was never able to rehome a cat. My beautiful white boy with one green-eyed and one blue sat on the rehoming register for 3 years.

How are u planning on doing it though?

Vet
But, on the lighter side people

 

[Fl4u]

I've been wondering what to do about my cat. I live alone, don't know anyone in the area. Cats protection rspca are all overburdened and older cats don't generally get rehomed. It may be weeks before she is found and how will she cope.

Has anyone considered taking their pet with them? I don't want her to suffer in a cramped cage/kennel and not be loved.

I also have heavy thoughts about this...
and let people judge me, call me cruel, but I want to take my 5 cats with me.

I don't want cruel human beings to find them on the street and beat them, tear off their paws, mock them. There are many stories when pets from the shelter find a new home, and then it turns out that the people who took the animals to themselves actually beat them and kill them.

This world is terrible for animals.
No one will take care of my cats.
And I'm afraid to give them to anyone (the reasons I wrote about above)

This is a very difficult decision.... But now I see that this is the only solution. I want to take them with me....

Sorry, but I strongly disagree. It's not your choice to make either. With "taking them with me" you mean killing them, which I find rather selfish and egoistic. I can understand the despair you must feel that there seemingly is no one to take care of them, but murder is not the way. Find someone that can love them as much as you do.

 

[Valky]

Maybe I have a brainwashed pro-life attitude here, but I absolutely disagree with this idea. Scheduled email to RSPCA would be a way to handle it responsibly.
Also, if you'd consider putting the animal down (if putting down a healthy animal is a thing at your country), I think it should be an euthanasia by the vet, nothing less peaceful is absolutely not acceptable in my book. I know that rehoming a pet beforehand and not raising red flags could be goddamn tricky or simply impossible. I get it. I hope you will find an option actually good for yourself and your cat.

Both sounds horrible to me. Those poor babies will never understand, no matter what happens.

 

[JJMaynard97]

My best Buddy Ollie the German Shepard past away in October. He was my best friend. Hopefully I'll join and reunite with him again

 

[Minipute]

Idk where you are i would love to help you! If u need you can DM me anytime

 

[JJMaynard97]

My best Buddy Ollie the German Shepard past away in October. He was my best friend. Hopefully I'll join and reunite with him again

Loosing him.and my girlfriend the last couple of months has left me so lost and empty

Idk where you are i would love to help you! If u need you can DM me anytime

, Means alot. Minipute. , That would be awesome.

 

[Disaster]

I also have heavy thoughts about this...
and let people judge me, call me cruel, but I want to take my 5 cats with me.

I don't want cruel human beings to find them on the street and beat them, tear off their paws, mock them. There are many stories when pets from the shelter find a new home, and then it turns out that the people who took the animals to themselves actually beat them and kill them.

This world is terrible for animals.
No one will take care of my cats.
And I'm afraid to give them to anyone (the reasons I wrote about above)

This is a very difficult decision.... But now I see that this is the only solution. I want to take them with me....

That's basically why people kill their kids, and however this site can be a dumpster fire, I'm pretty sure that it's agains killing kids. This is a site for "adults of a sound mind". Adults of a sound mind, I'm pretty sure, when considering the future of the ones dependent on them consider the best outcome for the dependents, not their own fears, stories from the media and whom they want to take with themselves. Of course it would be better for a human or animal to never get born, but here we are.
I think an adult of a sound mind has to decide what is more important to them: minimizing the pets suffering, or minimizing the person suffering caused by lack of 100% control over the pets future. I could relate to this anxiety, because my most unrealistic wish and fantasy is to receive, after I die, some sort of notifications if the person I care about will be alright, if said person will cope. I know that it sounds funny and I know that it is unrealistic. But of course killing the mentioned person is not on the table because it's not a pro-murder site, it's a pro-choice one, for Gods sake!

 

[Justnotme]

How are u planning on doing it though?

I have a medicine created by veterinarians for euthanasia of animals.
In my country, for some reason, it can be ordered without questions from veterinarians. Probably, this was done so that people who want to get rid of annoying pets would do it at least peacefully, and not leave it on the roadway.... Although, to be honest, I do not know if such an idea helps to cause less harm to animals than before. The drug for euthanasia consists of propofol and lidocaine. Thus, the animal plunges into a deep sleep without pain. After the animal falls into an anesthetic sleep, an additional large dose of lidocaine is injected to stop the heart. The animal does not feel pain when it dies.

But I need to learn how to insert a catheter into an animal. To do this, I will use sedative pills for animals

 

[Jezzibell]

Sorry, but I strongly disagree. It's not your choice to make either. With "taking them with me" you mean killing them, which I find rather selfish and egoistic. I can understand the despair you must feel that there seemingly is no one to take care of them, but murder is not the way. Find someone that can love them as much as you do.

This is a bit harsh. I am not able bodied. I weigh 22kgs and rarely leave the house. I collapse when taking the rubbish out and have to be helped by strangers on to my feet. I know noone in the area. I dont even know the area as I rented without seeing it and haven't left since I moved.

It is not selfish. Selfish would be not considering her and leaving her to starve. Egotistical? I don't see how. I'm not saying she can't live without me. Of course she can. But what will her quality of life be?

I think on forums such as this where people are expressing their worries and their thoughts and are traumatised, you shouldn't judge without knowing someone's circumstances.

 

[Fl4u]

This is a bit harsh. I am not able bodied. I weigh 22kgs and rarely leave the house. I collapse when taking the rubbish out and have to be helped by strangers on to my feet. I know noone in the area. I dont even know the area as I rented without seeing it and haven't left since I moved.

It is not selfish. Selfish would be not considering her and leaving her to starve. Egotistical? I don't see how. I'm not saying she can't live without me. Of course she can. But what will her quality of life be?

I think on forums such as this where people are expressing their worries and their thoughts and are traumatised, you shouldn't judge without knowing someone's circumstances.

Sorry, but I could not forgive myself if you end up killing these poor animals because no one told you how bad an idea it is. Please understand that those are not your lifes to take.

>I'm not saying she can't live without me. Of course she can. But what will her quality of life be?
Your cat will be perfectly fine without you. They are not able to comprehend the fact you are dead in the same way we humans do. I know how harsh this may sound. I lost my cat, who was my everything, when I was 12.

This is not about you. This is about the well-being of your cats. Please reconsider.

Also, at least in my country, no vet would put down a cat for no reason at all.

I have a medicine created by veterinarians for euthanasia of animals.
In my country, for some reason, it can be ordered without questions from veterinarians. Probably, this was done so that people who want to get rid of annoying pets would do it at least peacefully, and not leave it on the roadway.... Although, to be honest, I do not know if such an idea helps to cause less harm to animals than before. The drug for euthanasia consists of propofol and lidocaine. Thus, the animal plunges into a deep sleep without pain. After the animal falls into an anesthetic sleep, an additional large dose of lidocaine is injected to stop the heart. The animal does not feel pain when it dies.

But I need to learn how to insert a catheter into an animal. To do this, I will use sedative pills for animals

Heck, give the cat to me instead of killing it.

 

[Justnotme]

Sorry, but I strongly disagree. It's not your choice to make either. With "taking them with me" you mean killing them, which I find rather selfish and egoistic. I can understand the despair you must feel that there seemingly is no one to take care of them, but murder is not the way. Find someone that can love them as much as you do.

How do you think it is possible to find a good place for a pet so quickly? Let's say you found a good family for him. These people smile at you, you agree to visit them periodically while you are still alive to see how your pet is doing.
But then these nice people just won't open the door for you the first time you come. And you will never know what eventually happened to your pet.
But initially they were so happy that you give them your animal.

Someone may simply disagree with the fact that you have come to look at your pet.

And in the end, when a person has made the decision to die, he no longer has time to go to the family that sheltered your pet for months (if this family will allow you to come at all). And there is no time, because there are no moral or physical forces, because a person is dying. He's running out of resources

Another example: an animal that was taken into the family may be on the street in 3 months, in a year. But the people who took him into their family were so sweet and kind.

There are plenty of such stories.

 

[Fl4u]

How do you think it is possible to find a good place for a pet so quickly? Let's say you found a good family for him. These people smile at you, you agree to visit them periodically while you are still alive to see how your pet is doing.
But then these nice people just won't open the door for you the first time you come. And you will never know what eventually happened to your pet.
But initially they were so happy that you give them your animal.

Someone may simply disagree with the fact that you have come to look at your pet.

And in the end, when a person has made the decision to die, he no longer has time to go to the family that sheltered your pet for months (if this family will allow you to come at all). And there is no time, because there are no moral or physical forces, because a person is dying. He's running out of resources

Another example: an animal that was taken into the family may be on the street in 3 months, in a year. But the people who took him into their family were so sweet and kind.

There are plenty of such stories.

I know it's hard to find a good family for your cat. I very, very much understand your feelings. But I also feel like you owe your cat this for adopting them in the first place. Find them a new family or keep on living until they die a natural death. Don't betray your cats by killing them.

 

[Justnotme]

Sorry, but I could not forgive myself if you end up killing these poor animals because no one told you how bad an idea it is. Please understand that those are not your lifes to take.

>I'm not saying she can't live without me. Of course she can. But what will her quality of life be?
Your cat will be perfectly fine without you. They are not able to comprehend the fact you are dead in the same way we humans do. I know how harsh this may sound. I lost my cat, who was my everything, when I was 12.

This is not about you. This is about the well-being of your cats. Please reconsider.

Also, at least in my country, no vet would put down a cat for no reason at all.

Heck, give the cat to me instead of killing it.

Where did you get the information that the animals do not know about the death of the owner? Some animals stop eating after the death of the owner. Have you ever read about it? Cats are especially stressful animals. You write as if you have never been interested in the nature of animals and have not communicated with veterinarians.

The nature of animals is completely unknown to me, only partially, as is the nature of man. But the above facts are known

I know it's hard to find a good family for your cat. I very, very much understand your feelings. But I also feel like you owe your cat this for adopting them in the first place. Find them a new family or keep on living until they die a natural death. Don't betray your cats by killing them.

You are clearly not in the same condition as me, since you offer to live on for the sake of cats. I'm madly in love with them, but again. You have no idea what condition a person is in.

 

[Fl4u]

Where did you get the information that the animals do not know about the death of the owner? Some animals stop eating after the death of the owner. Have you ever read about it? Cats are especially stressful animals. You write as if you have never been interested in the nature of animals and have not communicated with veterinarians.

The nature of animals is completely unknown to me, only partially, as is the nature of man. But the above facts are known

I did not say they won't know. I said it's not the same. They will be able to move on.

Where did you get the information that the animals do not know about the death of the owner? Some animals stop eating after the death of the owner. Have you ever read about it? Cats are especially stressful animals. You write as if you have never been interested in the nature of animals and have not communicated with veterinarians.

The nature of animals is completely unknown to me, only partially, as is the nature of man. But the above facts are known

You are clearly not in the same condition as me, since you offer to live on for the sake of cats. I'm madly in love with them, but again. You have no idea what condition a person is in.

I made it a point already that this is not about your condition but about your cat's well-being. I would never kill my cats. Never.

 

[Disaster]

Sorry, but I could not forgive myself if you end up killing these poor animals because no one told you how bad an idea it is. Please understand that those are not your lifes to take.

>I'm not saying she can't live without me. Of course she can. But what will her quality of life be?
Your cat will be perfectly fine without you. They are not able to comprehend the fact you are dead in the same way we humans do. I know how harsh this may sound. I lost my cat, who was my everything, when I was 12.

This is not about you. This is about the well-being of your cats. Please reconsider.

Also, at least in my country, no vet would put down a cat for no reason at all.

Heck, give the cat to me instead of killing it.

Exactly. Someone here even mentioned the worry that the cat "will be mocked by people", which sounds like concerns a preschooler would have, not a responsible adult with basic common sense. Also: I knew people who called their pets various slurs affectionately and still provided great care. And people who talked a lot about loving their pets and provided shitty care, because it was all about what they were projecting on those animals, not the animals actual needs. When considering dependents (animals, kids, people with disabilities etc.) we need to consider their actual needs, not the desire to not worried about their future because they would be dead. I do worry about how various persons would be after my death, but still doesn't mean that I could kill a depended.

 

[WaitingToGo]

I couldn't ever kill my cats. I've been lucky as I've already arranged with my cat sitter ladies who will adopt my two when I go. I know you are in a difficult position but please please don't kill them

 

[Aisley]

I understand this. And I knew this would be a seriously polarized thread; the people on this forum have more compassion than the entire other portion of humanity, and it's nothing to be held against anyone, except maybe that one commenter here that said let the cat out and the neighbourhood can feed her.
How old is the cat?
My boys are 19, and if my date was imminent, they would have an appointment with the vet first. I would never let their safe keeping depend on the kindness of strangers. That seems worse than unrealistic, it seems irresponsible.

 

[Dot]

If you can't get them ethuanized (say they're sick like defecating outside of the litter box or you have no place else to take them) you can just let them out on the street where many people will feed them. Or give them to a family member/neighbor or shelter. That's all I can think of.

If all else fails,you can dehydrate them by giving them no water and no food. dehydration takes at most 2 weeks. Not that terrible.

Ths topc = senstve & disturbng enuf alrdy -- pls d/ nt tlk abt starvng animls 2 deth on tp of tht

 

[Holu]

Cant really offer anything of substance that other people have but as with yourself try to exhaust every possible solution in which the cat can survive happily. If there isn't an option, or the option is incredibly difficult then again, as with yourself make sure the method is as painless and comforting as possible.

It's an incredibly difficult decision that honestly seems nothing but horrific. Still, it's very telling of your personality to worry about the overall well-being of the cat should you not be around. Cats, despite being assholes, are actually pretty good at seeing their bonded humans emotions. Im sure your cat, if they could speak, would understand and be appreciative to have been with you.

If you're going to go yourself then once again, please do so painlessly. It's what you deserve for whatever suffering life forced you into. Take care, both you and your cat. <3

If all else fails,you can dehydrate them by giving them no water and no food. dehydration takes at most 2 weeks. Not that terrible.

I completely agree with your first paragraphs take but Jesus man. 2 weeks of dehydration for an animal who cannot possibly understand what's occurring is just horrific. Not to mention that the entire time the cat will literally be begging you for sustenance. Starving your animals is nothing but animal abuse. Might as well just torture the cat at that point.

 

[Aisley]

Ths topc = senstve & disturbng enuf alrdy -- pls d/ nt tlk abt starvng animls 2 deth on tp of tht

Yeah, that was a real horrible comment. Funny how everyone just walked by it, eh?

 

[Jezzibell]

I understand this. And I knew this would be a seriously polarized thread; the people on this forum have more compassion than the entire other portion of humanity, and it's nothing to be held against anyone, except maybe that one commenter here that said let the cat out and the neighbourhood can feed her.
How old is the cat?
My boys are 19, and if my date was imminent, they would have an appointment with the vet first. I would never let their safe keeping depend on the kindness of strangers. That seems worse than unrealistic, it seems irresponsible.

Thank you. I agree entirely about the kindness of strangers. It is rare.

 

[Holu]

Sorry, but I strongly disagree. It's not your choice to make either. With "taking them with me" you mean killing them, which I find rather selfish and egoistic.

Regardless of your opinion this is not the right way of expressing it. Indirectly referring to the OP as selfish and egoistic is not going to help them lmao.

Exactly. Someone here even mentioned the worry that the cat "will be mocked by people", which sounds like concerns a preschooler would have, not a responsible adult with basic common sense. Also: I knew people who called their pets various slurs affectionately and still provided great care. And people who talked a lot about loving their pets and provided shitty care, because it was all about what they were projecting on those animals, not the animals actual needs. When considering dependents (animals, kids, people with disabilities etc.) we need to consider their actual needs, not the desire to not worried about their future because they would be dead. I do worry about how various persons would be after my death, but still doesn't mean that I could kill a depended.

Believe it or not, I'm not a cat. That being said, I don't find it unreasonable that OP or anyone for that matter might possibly be attempting to empathize with the cat following their passing. Personally, I could imagine the cat feeling confused, alone, and heartbroken to have lost their bonded caretaker. Couple this with the fact that the next caretakers might not be as kind, or the possibility that kind makes the decision understandable. That being said, again, I'm not a cat. For all I know the cat might not give two shits, although as someone with a cat myself I find that unlikely.

 

[Jezzibell]

When I moved here 6 months ago after selling my house I'd lived in for 25 years, it broke me. I was so very ill. My weight went down to 16 kg. My cat was traumatised too. I needed to be hospitalised as I was going through refeeding syndrome and severe electrolyte imbalances. I looked in Facebook for Foster family for her whilst I got treatment. I phoned vets to see if they knew of any Foster homes for her. I phoned catteries but I was too ill to get her there. I called cats protection and the rspca to see if they could help me get her to a cattery. No joy.
The point is, it's not that easy.

 

[Babumax]

Very difficult decision I have 4. But I've decided to put them in cages when I go and let a friend who I have appointed trustee over them. To come and get them and find them homes. I also believe it's better for them to have seen that I have died. They will know.

 

[Holu]

Very difficult decision I have 4. But I've decided to put them in cages when I go and let a friend who I have appointed trustee over them. To come and get them and find them homes. I also believe it's better for them to have seen that I have died. They will know.

Whilst I hate to step on OPs toes I think this is the best solution. Animals are not at a level of cognitive ability to be suicidal. They might understand their owner has passed, but aside from them being close to death themselves I honestly doubt that the cat would want to be dead.