Men of SaSu, have you been able to fulfil your duties as a man/ will you be able to fulfil your duties as a man before ctb?

[Yuki K]

I'll start
I haven't and I don't think I can. I want to be a father before I die but that just might not happen, because I don't have a lady who'd agree to be my wife. I wouldn't say this inheritently means that I've failed as a man but I'll definitely miss out on my being a father and experiencing my fatherhood. What about you all?

 

[Sulyya]

More than any money, possessions or experiences, all I want really in life is to be mutually in love. Even if it didn't mean any children.

My progress is not good.

 

[CantWait2D1E]

No, have not/will not
My situation is missing the best time to date, as well as being an undesirable. I'd need to change a lot about me, starting with my NEET status, if I ever hope to find someone to reproduce with.

 

[reiko1337]

Nope, fatherhood is not something I'm planning on. I think I'm currently too mentally unfit to be a father, and I don't want to inflict the same pain to my children that I've been through as a child, or they'll end up just like how I am now.

 

[CantWait2D1E]

Genuinely curious, but why is fatherhood = duties as a man?

It is a biological "success" of any species to reproduce. For some that's all they live for. Salmon literally die after spawning eggs. Male praying mantis willingly risk getting eaten alive by the bigger stronger females for the chance to mate them.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Sorry- not a man but I feel like I've done an enormous service to our race, the planet AND my potential child by not bringing them into this world! I don't think my genes would have made them very happy. I would have given them an upbringing similar to mine- in which they were polite and respectful of people- so they likely would have been walked over. They no doubt would have inherited my shy, unhappy genes and I'm hardly a stable role model for anyone. I'm not in a financially stable enough position to support them either. I think it would have been a disaster for me to have had children!

That said- I'm truly sorry for you if those urges are there for you. I think I'm just too repulsed by this world and our species to think it would be a good thing to contribute in upping our numbers. Especially with my own flesh and blood! I love them too much to not want to risk bringing them into this.

I guess I'm always curious when people do want children. I guess it's a natural drive. Are you happy and grateful to have been born though? I guess some people aren't but they know just what to put right to ensure that their children have a good life. I just don't get it though- sorry!

 

[AnonymousS]

I'll start
I haven't and I don't think I can. I want to be a father before I die but that just might not happen, because I don't have a lady who'd agree to be my wife. I wouldn't say this inheritently means that I've failed as a man but I'll definitely miss out on my being a father and experiencing my fatherhood. What about you all?

No disrespect, but as you feel like you do,i don't understand why you would want to bring a child into this shitty world. The world is also vastly overpopulated as it is.

 

[kindalone]

I was not able to become the man that would be able to financially support his parents in old age.
I was not able to bring a child into this world but I'm actually glad I didn't. The failures and setbacks I've endured has taught me how important it is to properly teach your kids. Only through my failures, I have learned how many holes my upbringing and education had and if I would have brought a child into this world it would inevitably be taught with the flawed tools that my parents have given me which would result in the kind of person that I am currently.

 

[absolomonisgone]

No duty done no wife no children no money no work no house no car no tv no computer no school no leg no nothing. Loser 10 times sad cry sad. Now kill self make me happy and full of joy

 

[AllMyDreams]

I'm gay so I will never have kids. I could do the surrogacy thing but that just seems perverse to me (I was raised by a single parent so I wouldn't want a child also in an unusual environment). Also wouldn't want a child with my genes.

I did what I was supposed to do got a college degree (with no debt) and had a job after graduating that paid well but I was in a coma whenever I'd go there, and so I left. And now I'm just stagnating by myself and not doing anything most men do.

I don't want to die, and try to enjoy every little thing about life, but I still feel super useless. Especially with AI coming

 

[user_name_here]

I'd really like to be a father.

 

[boobieobba]

The thought of bringing a child into this capitalist hellscape makes me physically ill. I think I'm doing more of a service by not bringing kids into this mess.

 

[NeverReallyHere]

Forget about your "duties as a man." "Duty" should be something you assume of your own free will, not an arbitrary set of expectations which you're indoctrinated with by a society which doesn't give a shit about you.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Not a guy, but a parent here.
I think if you put a child in this world you should be there for them. So if you feel you're wanting to CTB, please don't have kids.

 

[AVeryLazySloth]

I have never wanted kids, I've had some good relationships, I just have this stupid bug in my brain that makes me depressed every year or so (Main reason I don't want kids). I think I overal did well in life despite how shitty I feel now. The only think keeping me back in this void is that I don't want my mother to find my dead body again

 

[Himalayan]

"suicidal people, have you succeed on life long tasks?"

 

[nozomu]

If you're definitely going to CTB, you shouldn't have kids if you didn't already have them imo

 

[AliceTheGoon]

The universe has had ample time to spit out a high functioning species. If you don't have the ability or the will or the inclination to do what you consider your duties as a man then that's the universe's failure. Sure it might seem like yours at the moment but a zillion years from now we'll all be gone and the universe will be left to ponder alone where it fucked up.

 

[Yuki K]

A lot of people seem to be asking why I want to become a dad. Well, because I want to and have the facilities to be a father. I can provide for them, I have a stable job with a stable amount of earning and income. Also because I've become of age and I want to uphold my family name in a way. And my mum also wants to become a grand-mother soon. So I do wanna make her happy.
Also I want to feel the joys of being a father. Playing around with them, teaching my morals, It'd be a whole new experience.

Not a guy, but a parent here.
I think if you put a child in this world you should be there for them. So if you feel you're wanting to CTB, please don't have kids.

I should stay for them, yes and I will for as long as I can. i know it's a life-long commitment. That's what I'm scared of and would not be able to do. I definitely don't want to put my child through the trauma of their father dying. I have always wanted to ask, what's it like to be a parent? I know that it's strenuous and tiresome. But tell me about the good sides( if you're comfortable ), I really wanna know

If you're definitely going to CTB, you shouldn't have kids if you didn't already have them imo

yes I know. it'd be cruel and selfish of me to do so. That's also one of the reasons that's holding me back

"suicidal people, have you succeed on life long tasks?"

They're people on SaSu who've succeeded in doing so

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

theres no such thing as "Duties of a man" just like there isnt "Duties of a woman."
people are free to live life however they want, those duties are old school and archaic gender expectations.

 

[another40seconds]

being a man is one of the things i want to do before i die. i want to take after my father -- my step father, that is. remembering that at some point in my life i can protect someone makes me feel slightly more encouraged to keep going -- though i know such an event would never happen. i have stood up for people who i truly supposed deserved to enjoy every bit of life before, so i dont know if that counts.

 

[Yuki K]

being a man is one of the things i want to do before i die. i want to take after my father -- my step father, that is. remembering that at some point in my life i can protect someone makes me feel slightly more encouraged to keep going -- though i know such an event would never happen. i have stood up for people who i truly supposed deserved to enjoy every bit of life before, so i dont know if that counts.

it does count

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Nope. I'm an evolutionary dead end and so be it.

 

[cowie]

I'm gay so it was never really in the cards in that way. When I was younger I wanted to get married eventually and adopt. Now I have to be realistic about the fact that that will never happen. I also just wouldn't be a good father. I struggle to take care of myself or a dog.

 

[demuic]

Especially with AI coming

AI is one reason to commit suicide all by itself.

 

[Chemical Animal]

Nope and nope, I stopped caring about these "duties" six years ago. If I had children they would definitely be embarrassed of having me as their father. They would find the idea of "having my blood/genes" repulsive, and would see themselves as disgusting because of that.

If you're definitely going to CTB, you shouldn't have kids if you didn't already have them imo

Exactly, if your kids are old enough they would lose a significant part of their support network, become traumatized and would think a lot of weird ideas and then come to weird conclusions. A parent CTBing would be an emotionally damaging bomb thrown at them.

 

[AllMyDreams]

AI is one reason to commit suicide all by itself.

I mean yeah I can see that. If the options are a) become completely obsolete, b) have to have technology implanted in your brain to keep up, or c) die, I'd probably choose death.

 

[LunaXCBN]

God I hate the entire "duties as a man"
I should not have to be forced to act a certain way due to the sex I was born as.

 

[Yuki K]

God I hate the entire "duties as a man"
I should not have to be forced to act a certain way due to the sex I was born as.

I agree but I don't think society will

 

[user_name_here]

Not a guy, but a parent here.
I think if you put a child in this world you should be there for them. So if you feel you're wanting to CTB, please don't have kids.

While I do agree with your point, it's also worth noting that having kids can give ones life a whole new sense of purpose and actually help combat ctb ideation.