Is it bad that I'll die as a virgin?

[TheSpookyNameGuy]

Does telling yourself that actually make it anymore believable?

People who genuinely don't give a shit generally don't reply to someone in attempt to convince them they don't give a shit

"more migrane inducing" than wasting your time trying to convince a man you don't give a shit?

Are you butthurt you didn't get what you always wanted since attempting to get someone willing to have sex with you took:

Is that why you view women who won't have sex with you for free a "whore" since you're bitter?

Maybe if you changed your attitude towards women, you might actually get somewhere with one

Seeing them as an object that you can use won't get you anywhere.

Women create life, behind every strong man you'll find a stronger woman. Women have the power to turn hell in to paradise and a paradise into hell.

You assume exploiting a "whore" by giving them some money when they desperately need it, that you get to fuk them but it'll still be them who fuk you

Wow, ngl you sound pretty upset there chap..

Might wanna take those bipolar meds and make a sandwhich, not for me though cuz i can make my own

 

[Aloneandinpain]

I still haven't had my first kiss yet (and probably never will). I'd love to have sex, but what really messes with my head and depresses me is not having experienced even smaller things like holding hands, hugging and staring into a girl's eyes.

I think it's incredibly sad to think that I'll die having never experienced romance and it just makes me want to CTB more.

 

[lament.]

I don't think it's bad to die as a virgin, especially if sex isn't something that particularly interests you. Don't feel pressured to do so just because you are going to CTB and want to try it out unless you are actually interested. I have had both great sex and bad sex but nothing in life really changes from having it. It's the same as any other pleasure, it will fade from your mind eventually if you let it. There's far better experiences out there than sex, if you are looking for something to do in your last moments.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

If I experienced romance then my life would change instantly from years or rejection to finally being wanted and loved. I can't imagine a bigger change really.

 

[Sleeper System]

The concept of Virginity is a human construct meant to give meaning to the "choice" of reproduction and intimacy as well as paternity. We're programmed to multiply so it's not really something
you can control. That being said, some people confuse not having a sexual spectrum with sub conscious suppression of their inate human nature.

For "virginity" to mean anything you have to value human experience and the tradition (more like ritual) of mating. You can die any way you wish.
Depends on your judge if it matters or not.
Depends on you if they even have jurisdiction to do so.

My un-educated opinion: If you don't want to do it then don't do it. Don't feel pressed to partake just because it's the "normal" thing to do. Nothing you don't enjoy or approve of should be forced upon you. This rule doesn't apply to life and existence in general but in the very few places where you DO have a say? I'd advice you to exercise that choice as often as possible.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

Nothing you don't enjoy or approve of should be forced upon you.

I don't enjoy being so alone and touch-starved, yet it seems to be forced upon me.

 

[Sleeper System]

I don't enjoy being so alone and touch-starved, yet it seems to be forced upon me.

What I said immediately after that statement clarifies the exceptions quite clearly.

Hmmm... touch yourself?
or pay someone to do it. Escorts exist.
Don't be a sad sack.

 

[LigottiSchopenhauer]

Whatever is supposedly "good" or "bad" doesn't matter once you're dead. I'm a virgin myself, although I came close to losing it a few times. The important thing is: What do you want? Do you want to die, or to live? It's up to you. Societal standards like virginity are ultimately irrelevant in matters of life or death.

 

[Onomatopoeia]

I saw a thread where someone said that they didn't want to die a virgin. This got me thinking: is it bad to die a virgin? I'm 23 F. Maybe it's different cuz I'm a girl rather than a guy. I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships. Never had them and never will, I just don't want or see a need for them.

People use sex as some sort of status symbol and nasty human indulgence. I will die having only had sex with one man (thousands of times). My husband had also only had sex with me. Our first time was our wedding night. And it was awkward because we were nervous. Yes, we're old fashioned southerners and came from old fashioned families. But sex is something very special, very beautiful, very lovely. We went to marriage counseling years ago because sometimes I cried during and after sex. Our counselor said I was just very much in love and that it was natural. Sex is so beautiful when you're in love.

If I were you, I'd rather die a virgin than just go have sex with some random guy. What's the point? You're a woman. No matter what you look like, you could go to a bar tonight and get a guy in bed. But why? If it's a bucket list thing, do it. But all my single friends f*d everyone and everything. All the diseases, denigration, cheating, social media rumors, etc. They were/are all unhappy. I had to drop friends for trying to get me to cheat on my husband. No way. They just wanted me to be on the same boat they are.

 

[tbroken]

Wdym?

That some boys see girls like medals, and some girls see boys like Atms... Plus you also have to like the person you're having sex with.

 

[ali.hamza]

So sex makes someone impure?

If that's the case everyone is a result of impurity.
Do you view puppies and kittens impure too?

Well, the statement whether virginity is a sign of purity or impurity is a subjective one. I know sex is a social construct of biological importance and without it we cannot reproduce in a normal way. But as I said before it's subjective. To me sex is an animal type of thing. I wish there would be some asexual type of reproduction for us. On the other hand, virginity or chastity is a sign of purity to some people like nuns and monks. There are many great people in the history who died as virgin like Sir Isaac Newton (you've probably heard the name). I gave the statement because I wanted to mention that to die as virgin is not a bad thing but it's a sign of purity to some people. I hope you understand the point.

 

[MindFrog]

We put the idea of sex with such importance that it warps our worldview as a whole. It's just like any other experience in life. You pick and choice want you think defines you.

 

[Sulyya]

37m
Do I have the high score in this thread?

 

[Lifeaffirmingchoice]

I saw a thread where someone said that they didn't want to die a virgin. This got me thinking: is it bad to die a virgin? I'm 23 F. Maybe it's different cuz I'm a girl rather than a guy. I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships. Never had them and never will, I just don't want or see a need for them.

No.

 

[TiredOfAllThis]

If you don't want to go that path, you don't have to.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

37m
Do I have the high score in this thread?

No.

 

[WoNkEy_DoNkEy]

@sserafim I think the fact that this thread keeps getting bumped perhaps means guys on here are interested in helping you not die a virgin
I don't think you'll care either way if or when your time to die comes. If you're a virgin then maybe just die with another virgin

 

[astonishedturnip]

I'm more saddened that I never was in a caring, respectful, and loving relationship that involved sex, than that I never had sex, per se.

Which sucks because at my age, or at least in my area, most guys straight-up tell me, "I'm not going to get into a relationship with you unless we have sex first and I can see if you're worth spending time/money on." Which as a demisexual, doesn't fly lmao. Never had or desired a hoe phase or wild partying years, I need a connection/attraction and a feeling of safety, which are hard to come by. Don't need a sugar daddy for my helpless self, don't want to be a bangmaid to a manchild, just want a partner. And the more people tell me that I'm asking too much, the more I want to CTB. Feels like I don't belong in this world anymore.

But hey, they say only 50% of women orgasm during heterosexual sex, so why beat yourself up when it probably won't be that fulfilling anyway.