Is it bad that I'll die as a virgin?

[sserafim]

I saw a thread where someone said that they didn't want to die a virgin. This got me thinking: is it bad to die a virgin? I'm 23 F. Maybe it's different cuz I'm a girl rather than a guy. I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships. Never had them and never will, I just don't want or see a need for them.

 

[Finalnight]

Well we're all fucked here so

 

[Leavesfromthevine]

I don't believe it's bad. Sexual stuff is one of those things for me where it's better to experience it with someone you care about or don't experience it at all. It's so easy to ruin what some people call good.

Sexual stuff always leads me to feel disgusting about myself so I try to restrain from it as much as possible.

If none of those things interests you then it's perfectly fine and you'll have my support at least, hopefully others too. What truly matters though is if you're okay with never experiencing them.

 

[Guy_Smiley]

I saw a thread where someone said that they didn't want to die a virgin. This got me thinking: is it bad to die a virgin? I'm 23 F. Maybe it's different cuz I'm a girl rather than a guy. I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships. Never had them and never will, I just don't want or see a need for them.

No. It would be unfortunate if someone who wanted to lose their virginity before they die didn't get a chance to. But if you've never been interested in sex, then who cares?

 

[CasperDaGhost]

Some people are just wired differently, I'm a dude and I've never really been interested in sex or relationships. If you're not interested then the only reason you would do it is because society tells you it's the right thing to do. And I don't see why we would be worried about what society wants, considering we're already committing a major social taboo by deciding to CTB.

 

[passivethought121]

Nah. I'm a dude and I'll probably die a virgin. I understand the hype but it's very overrated. To me, sex is on the level of processed food. It's wired to be enjoyable, but it's not necessary.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

No, it's not bad. I'm male and I'd most likely die a virgin too. I honestly don't even care if I do die as one. For me, my issues isn't the lack of sex but rather how painful existence is itself. Also, once you're dead, it's not like you can regret dying as a virgin as dead people aren't sentient to regret not having sex. In your case, I doubt that you'd regret being a virgin whilst you're alive since you described yourself as aroace

 

[Doemu]

Just gonna be one disappointment less in your life before dying. It's just up to you.

 

[Captive_Mind515]

I wouldn't see it as some big tragedy. It's just another life experience at the end of the day - could be good or bad depending on circumstance and the person you're with.

But no harm getting it out of your system if it bothers you…

 

[Forever Sleep]

It only matters if it bothers you.

 

[InAgony]

No it's not bad. If it means a lot to you then it would be sad, but it sounds like it doesn't matter to you.

 

[Ephemeron]

Be grateful you didn't do it with someone you loved with all your heart only to eventually be disposed of like garbage. I don't give a shit about sex unless it's with the one I love, but that'll never happen again.

 

[Goku Black]

Been there, done it but it's something I felt relieved about when I did it, it only matters if it troubles you that much but otherwise, you really aren't missing out on much.

 

[LetMeSleep4Ever]

I agree with what others have said that it's unfortunate if someone who wanted to do it never got to experience and do it before their death but also if you are ok with not experiencing it then it's ok, don't feel ashamed or pressured.

I do have a 3rd scenario I want to introduce. What if someone was at first asexual but later on not only became very sexual but even wish they had more experiences. Yeah that's possible too. But that was your choice and you must own that, right? Well to introduce more complications, possible you were influenced by certain views. Yeah can be complicated. We're faced with the question: Who are we really? What do we want? What are the possible consequences of that?

But I really feel that you shouldnt have sex just cause some think asexuality is uncool or weird. Nor should you refrain from doing it if you do want to do it cause some people try to shame you, or make you feel wrong about sexuality.

 

[boddibo]

I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships.

Then don't add unnecessary social pressure on yourself if it's not relevant for you tbh. It's not a bad thing to be one, even when the society revolves around sex most of the time.

 

[divinemistress36]

Sex is overrated

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

As others have said, it's only bad if you believe it to be bad for yourself. If you really don't care about sex at all then it's no better than dying without ever having operated a forklift. Might be cool or fun but you don't care enough to start so why feel bad if you die without ever getting to do it?

That said, if you instead feel bad about dying while not getting to operate a forklift just because you know almost everyone around you is doing it, and some swear it's the best thing that's ever happened to them, and there are others who can't use a forklift for whatever reason like maybe they're too short or their forklift organ is dysfunctional so they literally want to kill themselves over it…then it's not bad to feel bad about that either. Maybe you'd rather want the extra benefits of forklift certification instead.

 

[breezeboy]

Just depends on the person and on the sex itself.

I've had some mind blowing sex before where I totally understand all the hype and yada yada but I've also had sex where I finish and just feel absolutely disgusted with myself for various reasons.

Chemistry/Love is 75% of good sex. If you have really strong chemistry or true love it automatically makes the sex sooooo much better.
If you're just doing it to get off/hook up it can still be enjoyable for sure but I've often found myself regretting my one night stands.

I understand wanting to experience sex before death but unless you're in love or have someone you have good chemistry/history with to do it with, you probably won't be missing much.

 

[Captive_Mind515]

As others have said, it's only bad if you believe it to be bad for yourself. If you really don't care about sex at all then it's no better than dying without ever having operated a forklift. Might be cool or fun but you don't care enough to start so why feel bad if you die without ever getting to do it?

That said, if you instead feel bad about dying while not getting to operate a forklift just because you know almost everyone around you is doing it, and some swear it's the best thing that's ever happened to them, and there are others who can't use a forklift for whatever reason like maybe they're too short or their forklift organ is dysfunctional so they literally want to kill themselves over it…then it's not bad to feel bad about that either. Maybe you'd rather want the extra benefits of forklift certification instead.

I've heard forklifts can be very uplifting....

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[Ephemeron]

I understand wanting to experience sex before death but unless you're in love or have someone you have good chemistry/history with to do it with, you probably won't be missing much.

Yep. This is why the idea of paying a whore before CTB is idiotic. You'll (possibly) find that it's "pretty nice," but you won't understand the beauty of sex with love. I often wish I was an incel/virgin just so I'd still be ignorant about this shit.

 

[Bianka]

Nah girl, you do you. If you have no interest in it then fuck it. If you do go nuts. Who's anyone to tell you what's "right" or "wrong"? Only you matter

 

[greebo6]

No, its not bad. Everyone is different and if you are not bothered about sex that's fine. It doesn't' make you in any way 'abnormal' . Sexual preference, history or appetite doesn't ever define anyone's worth as a person.

 

[timetodie24]

I'm also 23F and will die virgin. I really don't care, once I'm dead why does it matter. Sure society says I should have had sex by now but society would also say I should force myself to live a miserable existence. So whatever society thinks is irrelevant.
Some people may find it sad but if their first thought after someone dies is 'omg they died a virgin' then that's their problem.
I don't give a damn what people think of me once i'm dead because I won't be here to care or notice. It's not my problem.

 

[ali.hamza]

If you die virgin you die as pure.

 

[RealLostSoul]

No. I will too. That's okay. We both will die a legend. I was never loved too and I am your age. Well except for the heroin. It's the only entity that loves me.

 

[walkingdead2023]

I saw a thread where someone said that they didn't want to die a virgin. This got me thinking: is it bad to die a virgin? I'm 23 F. Maybe it's different cuz I'm a girl rather than a guy. I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships. Never had them and never will, I just don't want or see a need for them.

Me too! I don't care for relationships! My family wants me to get married so I'm trying to kms before they even open the subject again! Virgin as well!

 

[Henryk]

I saw a thread where someone said that they didn't want to die a virgin. This got me thinking: is it bad to die a virgin? I'm 23 F. Maybe it's different cuz I'm a girl rather than a guy. I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships. Never had them and never will, I just don't want or see a need for them.

If it's something that doesn't make a difference to you then there's no problem, it will just be an experience that you won't experience.

 

[d3ad]

I saw a thread where someone said that they didn't want to die a virgin. This got me thinking: is it bad to die a virgin? I'm 23 F. Maybe it's different cuz I'm a girl rather than a guy. I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships. Never had them and never will, I just don't want or see a need for them.

It's not a necessity for anyone to have sex. If you don't want to do it, it's fine. There's nothing bad about that.

If you die virgin you die as pure.

How so?

 

[R_N]

"I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships."

There is your answer, but you also had a thread about having a crush so I am not sure what kind of attraction you felt towards him.


Regardless, I don't think anything is mandatory in this life, especially not if you think you are unable to enjoy it.

 

[4everDone]

I saw a thread where someone said that they didn't want to die a virgin. This got me thinking: is it bad to die a virgin? I'm 23 F. Maybe it's different cuz I'm a girl rather than a guy. I think that I'm aroace though, I've never been interested in sex, romance or relationships. Never had them and never will, I just don't want or see a need for them.

If it has no value to you then I don't see why would it bother you. If I could go back I would definitely want to remain a virgin