is anyone on here really extremely good looking?

[Lady Lazarus 2020]

Let's just put it this way: I had a pic of me and my dog on the fridge from the summer of 2015 and the downstairs neighbor's daughter came up to say hi. She looked at the picture and asked me who it was.

My current avatar is from the same summer, 2015. 5 years later and I now resemble Tom Hanks rolling down the stairs of the Klopek's porch in the 'Burbs.

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Thank you for my first laugh of the day.

 

[Lady Lazarus 2020]

I was and it made life a breeze in many ways. Now, I look like southern fried shit. Who knows? I don't even trust my depressed ass brain anymore.

 

[voyager]

In my life personally it has made things harder due to the fact the good looks seemed to attract the kind of person who wasn't interested in commitment and one of my biggest dreams was to be loved and married. I saw many former friends or class mates who were (I really hate sounding vain because im not) not as good looking as me and they are happily married and leading a relatively happy and at least tolerable life. It's probably a very subjective thing and definitely personal experiences.

Yeah, am just really slow today, sorry. Wasn't directed at you, meant more in general, because it can open a lot of doors, but doesn't guarantee happiness. But I can see how it can be a curse, too.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Yeah, am just really slow today, sorry. Wasn't directed at you, meant more in general, because it can open a lot of doors, but doesn't guarantee happiness. But I can see how it can be a curse, too.

It's all good. I understand what you meant ❤

 

[HighwayToHell]

Ever since braces sorted my teeth out and I got a haircut, I've been called cute alot

 

[Egddios]

I was and it made life a breeze in many ways. Now, I look like southern fried shit. Who knows? I don't even trust my depressed ass brain anymore.

southern fried shit

We're probably being hard on ourselves. I mean, the townspeople don't shutter their windows when I make my weekly public appearance.

P.S. Glad you had a laugh, the Burbs is such a good movie.

 

[HelensNepenthe]

Very meh.

 

[lovemelovemenot]

I wouldn't say model type attractive, especially cause I'm not photogenic at all, but since losing a lot weight (over 100 lbs) I do find myself getting compliments or guys asking for my number quite regularly. So I would just say I have a pretty face. I do have a lot of loose skin, especially around my arms and stomach which I tend to hide unless I'm at home. If people saw that right off the bat I doubt they would think I'm so attractive. But, I have a shit personality and don't know how to socalize after being bullied half my life anyways so going from what's considered "ugly" to being conventionally pretty and still not being able to keep a relationship or friends just proved to me that there's something deeply wrong or off about me and people tend to pick up on that after awhile.

 

[Lady Lazarus 2020]

southern fried shit

We're probably being hard on ourselves. I mean, the townspeople don't shutter their windows when I make my weekly public appearance.

P.S. Glad you had a laugh, the Burbs is such a good movie.

You must be from the south to have gotten that joke? I just tried to watch "The Burbs" and its not on Netflix or Hulu.

Are you having fun on Singles Awareness Day? I remember when this was such a fun day and now I'm home alone researching CTB checklists. And wishing I was a depressed person who didn't eat as opposed to eats a whole pizza solo and then wonders where this tummy and back fat came from....

 

[alfie]

most of my life, i was convinced i was handsome but sometime last year i eventually realized i was terribly deluded

 

[Lady Lazarus 2020]

I wouldn't say model type attractive, especially cause I'm not photogenic at all, but since losing a lot weight (over 100 lbs) I do find myself getting compliments or guys asking for my number quite regularly. So I would just say I have a pretty face. I do have a lot of loose skin, especially around my arms and stomach which I tend to hide unless I'm at home. If people saw that right off the bat I doubt they would think I'm so attractive. But, I have a shit personality and don't know how to socalize after being bullied half my life anyways so going from what's considered "ugly" to being conventionally pretty and still not being able to keep a relationship or friends just proved to me that there's something deeply wrong or off about me and people tend to pick up on that after awhile.

Something is wrong with me too! Let's be friends!

 

[Mort]

I can scare a scarecrow i have a face that could turn milk sower . And on and on not good looking but ugly in fact my butt looks way better LOL :D

 

[lovemelovemenot]

Something is wrong with me too! Let's be friends!

Haha I'm down, feel free to PM me sometime. I've been here for awhile but literatlly have no friends around these parts.

 

[Lady Lazarus 2020]

will do now.

 

[peacefully31425]

Nope

 

[marcusuk63]

Nope and hadn't had a shave or cut my hair for months up until last weekend , so i`m back to looking like my profile photo now , not sure what's worse seeing my face or covering it up .. but i am very old lol

 

[TheBigBurden]

I used to look pretty great but then I got more depressed, stopped taking care of myself and gained 60 pounds. Poor boyfriend deals with it. I feel like I tricked him. I was actually going to try to model for an indie clothing brand that happened to be near where i live oh well.

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

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i... think the attractiveness you're referring to might be more about sociability than appearance. being good-looking doesn't save you from, say, abuse, illnesses, narc parents, financial problems, oppression etc. being able to network well and being well liked enough to garner support wherever one goes, have surprisingly little to do with looks. i myself know at least 4 people who reasonably ctb, that were extremely, godly even, good-looking when they were alive.

Trust me. It's not about looks. I want to die more than ever and I'm the hottest there is baby.

Of course I'm totally joking. I look like a goon but I know many beautiful people who are miserable.

 

[LMFAO FOCKERS]

@BearNoMore @marcusuk63

When I was functionally depressed I kept a good work out schedule but once things got bad that went to chit immediately. Now, I can only get up enough energy to go like 1-2x/mo.

You guys look like you're both keeping up with a good work out schedule. I'm surprised this hasn't helped? Are there other things you are each dealing with or do you just ebb and flow / do enough to stay fit while suffering? It sucks that this just hasn't been enough to keep your spirits up.

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

Im not quite as fit as those two but I used to be like that and am making a quick comeback after 2 years of married life and 60 lbs of weight gain. I work out like 4 hours a day. It helps give you some positive energy and a mood pick up but if you are severely depressed it doesn't make it go away. Not for me. Eventually if I keep I will be fit as a fiddle but miserable as hell. I make diet and exercise a depression hobby. Managed to go all day on a bag of tuna and raw veggies. Not healthy to starve but lately I lost my appetite. Being overweight made everything worse but being fit is no cure for this.
The more you make yourself get up and work out the easier it gets to make yourself do it. If you are like me then after awhile you will realize it's nice to go to bed without back aches and stiffness.

 

[BearNoMore]

@BearNoMore @marcusuk63

When I was functionally depressed I kept a good work out schedule but once things got bad that went to chit immediately. Now, I can only get up enough energy to go like 1-2x/mo.

You guys look like you're both keeping up with a good work out schedule. I'm surprised this hasn't helped? Are there other things you are each dealing with or do you just ebb and flow / do enough to stay fit while suffering? It sucks that this just hasn't been enough to keep your spirits up.

It's still good you're making it a few times a month and keeping at it even if it's less often. Muscle memory is very real and remarkably quick too so if you ever get back to more frequency I'm sure you'd see results quickly.

The exercise and good nutrition helps me with my depression but it definitely doesn't defeat it. The endorphins and physical outlet are good and it provides structure. I've been into the fitness lifestyle for about 6 years now, so getting a workout in feels like a normal necessity of my day by this point. I feel guilty and off if I don't workout.

Im not quite as fit as those two but I used to be like that and am making a quick comeback after 2 years of married life and 60 lbs of weight gain. I work out like 4 hours a day. It helps give you some positive energy and a mood pick up but if you are severely depressed it doesn't make it go away. Not for me. Eventually if I keep I will be fit as a fiddle but miserable as hell. I make diet and exercise a depression hobby. Managed to go all day on a bag of tuna and raw veggies. Not healthy to starve but lately I lost my appetite. Being overweight made everything worse but being fit is no cure for this.
The more you make yourself get up and work out the easier it gets to make yourself do it. If you are like me then after awhile you will realize it's nice to go to bed without back aches and stiffness.

Wow! 4 hours is intense. I tend to usually workout for about 1.5 on average. It sounds like you're making tons of progress,
as I'm sure you know though you can't rush too fast or it'll have some blowback and your body will be pissed at you haha.

I agree with what you said exactly, once you get used to working out consistently it doesn't feel like a challenge to keep it up the routine.

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

It's still good you're making it a few times a month and keeping at it even if it's less often. Muscle memory is very real and remarkably quick too so if you ever get back to more frequency I'm sure you'd see results quickly.

The exercise and good nutrition helps me with my depression but it definitely doesn't defeat it. The endorphins and physical outlet are good and it provides structure. I've been into the fitness lifestyle for about 6 years now, so getting a workout in feels like a normal necessity of my day by this point. I feel guilty and off if I don't workout.



Wow! 4 hours is intense. I tend to usually workout for about 1.5 on average. It sounds like you're making tons of progress,
as I'm sure you know though you can't rush too fast or it'll have some blowback and your body will be pissed at you haha.

I agree with what you said exactly, once you get used to working out consistently it doesn't feel like a challenge to keep it up the routine.

Yeah I meant to get back on a solid strength training and calisthenics regime. I do both weights and bodyweight. I didn't mean to go into such a hardcore mode. It's my toxic negative energy running amok there but it has to be destroyed somehow. Im intending to add adequate rest and start getting enough calories to stay in ketosis for a couple more weeks but so I won't turn into a skeleton.

 

[voyager]

Have to come clean and this thread is as good as any. I am guilty of vanity and pride. I've made my peace with reality, but the thought what my life could have been like with some better decisons still haunts me. Deep down I am ashamed of what I've become, so I'll sometimes hint that it wasn't always so. I wasn't a genius or model, but good enough on both counts. Had success with the girls and loved it. They adored me and I them. It gave me great pleasure making them laugh, messing about, everything. They'd call after me in the street or hit on me out of the blue, and of course it made me feel good. I took it for a given.

When my mhi came about my mind went to shit. Didn't care about anything anymore. All I could think about was my sorrow. I became a recluse and pushed everyone away, including girls. Five years later I resurfaced on the world to work and was still very ill. But I was in my early 20's and of course seeing real women again swept me away. But that wasn't exactly my effect on them. My looks had gone to waste. My eyes were dead, my personality toxic and my humour nonexistent. My teeth rotten. My confidence broken. It sounds absurd, but I was so deluded from the past that I couldn't make sense of it at first and it took me a while to realise that I simply wasn't attractive anymore. I had been so obsessed with my mental issues that nothing else mattered and I wasn't even aware of my decline. Women in this context are a metaphor for all the cravings in life I could not fulfill. Not least love. I don't blame them though, because it's ingrained in our genes to look for healthy partners, and really my outside appearance is just a mirror of my inside, and both are a huge turn off. So, yes, looks are nice and can make things easier, but they're completely irrelevant compared to one's inner peace and happiness.

Oh, and to come full circle with this story, eight months after hitting on me in the street, five months after the advent of my mhi, one of these girls passed me in the hall. We didn't really know each other that well, but on the outside she was definitely a cutie. I was slumped on the floor, drugged up of course, a mess. She came up to me, literally looking down at me and said "you know it didn't mean anything, right?".

 

[Final Escape]

Sometimes people think being good looking means life on easy mode but that's often not the case.

In many ways when u are way above average looking it is harder to accept when your beauty fades and now u don't get the special treatment anymore Then u finally realize what it feels like to be just a regular looking person who people don't notice much or go out of their way for lol! There is one positive aspect of losing your beauty. It used to be so annoying to be stared at out and about and often by guys u just aren't interested in. It can be unsettling and irritating. So there are perks to being less attractive. People are less intimidated and less threatened by u. Beautiful women can struggle in work places with jealous nasty female coworkers. It's almost better if they just find a guy with money and stay out of the labor force if at all possible, because u might deal with nasty women who mess with u at work.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I suspect there is also more pressure on women to maintain looks whereas mean can get 'more distinguished' as they age.

 

[marcusuk63]

My life in film

1964 ( right with my now deceased twin )
1968
1969 (right with my now deceased older brother )
1982 at work on the anchor
1992 with Colin the cat
1999 whish Sasha on the beach
2013
now with Baby Agnes

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

In many ways when u are way above average looking it is harder to accept when your beauty fades and now u don't get the special treatment anymore Then u finally realize what it feels like to be just a regular looking person who people don't notice much or go out of their way for lol! There is one positive aspect of losing your beauty. It used to be so annoying to be stared at out and about and often by guys u just aren't interested in. It can be unsettling and irritating. So there are perks to being less attractive. People are less intimidated and less threatened by u. Beautiful women can struggle in work places with jealous nasty female coworkers. It's almost better if they just find a guy with money and stay out of the labor force if at all possible, because u might deal with nasty women who mess with u at work.

Yes I work in nursing and I have noticed this more than once.

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

My transformation I am working on is the only thing keeping me sane. I am a bit vain for being such a troll looking dude. I keep telling myself, life may be shit right now but at least in in ketosis.

 

[marcusuk63]

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My transformation I am working on is the only thing keeping me sane. I am a bit vain for being such a troll looking dude. I keep telling myself, life may be shit right now but at least in in ketosis.

Well done . A lot is down to genes too , i have been lucky in that i have weighed the same for decades no matter what i eat and i live on junk, sweet stuff and smoke like a chimney i`ve never exercised or done any sports but have always had a defined body , just a pity my mind didnt match lol
I had a medical a few months ago and i was 100%
losing my definition a bit now as i`m 60 in 3 years (god knows how i managed to get to this age )

Keep up the good work .

 

[Xena87]

I feel so narcissistic replying to this, but yes I am. I've been told by friends, family, and women I've dated to try out modeling. I've gotten sponsorships and free products on social media for being a spokesperson and ambassador. I've had a few people invite me to do photoshoots and the like.

I'm not really comfortable sharing a photo here of my face but I shared a body photo in another thread so I may as well put that in here since it's already up haha. Don't mind the low quality, this was just a quick selfie I'd captured to share with someone.

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I swear this is Mickey Rourke?!!