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let me spell it out for you: go to hell
- Sep 25, 2023
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I'm really sorry to hear that you're stressing over this, I'm definitely at this point today too. Luckily I managed to hold myself together.I'm stressed out about my employment prospects and my financial situation.
If my diagnosis of bipolar II is correct (and I feel like it is), I don't think it will be possible to not rely on medication or therapeutic behaviors/practices for the rest of my life. I'm always going to have to manage myself and my moods, particularly when I'm hypomanic. Being medicated made me feel the most "normal" and my behaviors when my condition was unknown and unchecked got me into a lot of trouble, hurt me a lot, and endangered not only myself but other people many times. Even though I'm better at managing myself now, I still feel like a ticking time bomb without meditation.Do you think you'll have to rely on this forever?
I never really thought about it like this but this is true. I've experienced this while looking for someone that would work well with me and I might experience it again. When I found my psychologist, one of the reasons I liked them so much is because they didn't try to make me adopt their mindset. They didn't even ask me to be more positive. It was more like how can I better accommodate the way that my brain is already set up, how can I find healthier practices and behaviors and how to think outside of myself. I was allowed the space to have my beliefs and they weren't challenged but they were working on trying to help me accept and consider other perspectives.Also I've noticed that therapy is based off the therapist convincing you that their views of life are true and that any other views that deviates from that is irrational.
Sure! I mean that you won't be stressed out about building relationships while you're going through the process of learning, so you'll have more energy and time to spend on doing that work yourself. It's possible to learn as you go along but some of us do better when we take time learning the theory before hopping into applying it practically, if that makes sense.Could you elaborate?
I'm sorry that they've been delaying this process so much for you, it really sucks that we have to work so hard and wait so long for help.I was meant to have a phone appointment to discuss support and stuff regarding therapy but they delayed it for a week ugh.
I'm happy rn@UsagiDrop I'll reply to your message later. I'm too drained of energy to reply now
How is everybody here doing?
Omg, that's so amazing :3. I'm glad that you feel happy rn. Though, if I may ask, do you know the reason for that happiness?I'm happy rn
Yes, I quit smoking and also had some unexplainable hopefullness yesterdayOmg, that's so amazing :3. I'm glad that you feel happy rn. Though, if I may ask, do you know the reason for that happiness?
Wow, talk about 2 massive events. Congrats on quitting smoking. That must have been hard to do. Also congrats on the unexplainable hopefulness and I hope that it serves you well. This is genuinely amazing news and is also the first time I smiled todayYes, I quit smoking and also had some unexplainable hopefullness yesterday
I'm really happy to hear thaaatWow, talk about 2 massive events. Congrats on quitting smoking. That must have been hard to do. Also congrats on the unexplainable hopefulness and I hope that it serves you well. This is genuinely amazing news and is also the first time I smiled today
I tried to join the discord channel at one point but the link didn't work for me for some reason. It just took me to the google play store instead even though I already got discord installedI'm really happy to hear thaaat
Thank you for your words
Are you on the discord channel?
Let me try againI tried to join the discord channel at one point but the link didn't work for me for some reason. It just took me to the google play store instead even though I already got discord installed
The link finally worked. Thanks for letting me joinLet me try again
Discord
also, my other dudes, we have different channels there like:
Safe place - general chats
Memes - this is the new one
Things worth sharing
Feeling awful, venting
Positive venting - also new
My pleasureThe link finally worked. Thanks for letting me join
Seriously congrats on quitting smoking. I quit for 9 months the first month was rough. It's really nice to feel unexplainable hopefulness. Also thanks for starting this thread this sums up how I feel. I haven't been on this site for a long time now and needed to come somewhere supportive.Yes, I quit smoking and also had some unexplainable hopefullness yesterday
I had a bit of a weird day emotionally speaking, but I'm feeling pretty calm now. I meditated again for the first time in a few days, which brought up a lot of stuff (ie: anger etc that I'd been pushing down), but that was a while ago and I've recovered since, haha. How are you, @ijustwishtodie? Hopefully less drained than when you last posted?How is everybody here doing?
Thank you for your encouragementSeriously congrats on quitting smoking. I quit for 9 months the first month was rough. It's really nice to feel unexplainable hopefulness. Also thanks for starting this thread this sums up how I feel. I haven't been on this site for a long time now and needed to come somewhere supportive.
I see, I get what you mean now. Bipolar II sure makes things complicated, doesn't it? I hope that I don't have to rely on medication (specifically antidepressants) too as I've read on the side effects and I'd rather avoid that altogether. Though unfortunately there isn't much that makes me do stuff so I might have to rely on them after allIf my diagnosis of bipolar II is correct (and I feel like it is), I don't think it will be possible to not rely on medication or therapeutic behaviors/practices for the rest of my life. I'm always going to have to manage myself and my moods, particularly when I'm hypomanic. Being medicated made me feel the most "normal" and my behaviors when my condition was unknown and unchecked got me into a lot of trouble, hurt me a lot, and endangered not only myself but other people many times. Even though I'm better at managing myself now, I still feel like a ticking time bomb without meditation.
True..And if I'm correct about having something else to worry about on top of the bipolar, then I'm probably even worse off.
I wish I could find a psychologist like that but they unfortunately sound like they're rare instead of being the norm. If I were to have someone like that though.. just maybe getting better to some extent is possible after allI never really thought about it like this but this is true. I've experienced this while looking for someone that would work well with me and I might experience it again. When I found my psychologist, one of the reasons I liked them so much is because they didn't try to make me adopt their mindset. They didn't even ask me to be more positive. It was more like how can I better accommodate the way that my brain is already set up, how can I find healthier practices and behaviors and how to think outside of myself. I was allowed the space to have my beliefs and they weren't challenged but they were working on trying to help me accept and consider other perspectives.
That's true. I wish that I could at least try to parebt myself properly but all I do is rot in my room or study. I don't do other things that I should be doingSadly sometimes we have to parent ourselves or seek out professionals that can make up for what our parents/guardians did not teach us and I'm sorry that you're having to do this yourself. A therapist ideally won't be showing you right from wrong, they won't tell you what to do or how to think, but they will give you the tools to be able to differentiate between what the right and wrong things are, if that makes sense.
Oh, I see. I can see that kinda. Though I don't even bother spending the time on learning the theory as either I'm too lazy or I'm too depressed toSure! I mean that you won't be stressed out about building relationships while you're going through the process of learning, so you'll have more energy and time to spend on doing that work yourself. It's possible to learn as you go along but some of us do better when we take time learning the theory before hopping into applying it practically, if that makes sense.
Oh, it got delayed even further as the session that they allocated was during a mandatory university lab session which will be graded so I couldn't miss that. This sucksI'm sorry that they've been delaying this process so much for you, it really sucks that we have to work so hard and wait so long for help.
My week was basically the same. The same old monotony I have to go through time and time again. It sucks. Hopefully you feel better today than you did when you wrote that message but, if not, that's valid tooI hope everyone will have a decent week this week! I'm pretty sad these days and that is my update. I'm trying to hold out, too, but it's getting kind of hard.
Also, this made me laugh out loud in a dark sort of way I seriously need to remember #BeKindToYourself, though. I have very much strayed from that initial vow that I made back in September.Although im not sure how I feel about the thread's hashtag changing from #BeKindToYourself to #ICanAlwaysCTBTomorrow.
Thank you. I'm honestly embarrassed at how bumpy my emotional road has been lately/ how much my mood has been swinging these past few weeks. A lot of my issues have been exacerbated in the past by being in denial of my emotions, because I've always seen having strong emotions as silly/ a major weakness/ pathetic (and still do when I'm the one having the emotions). As it turns out, though, denial does not fix the underlying problem. Who would have thought!?@sadwriter - thank you for checking in. I'm sorry to see that your recovery had a few bumps in the road, but am sure you've got this. You come so far since leaving uni a couple months ago.
It does really suck how hard it is to find a good therapist, in the sense of both the financial barriers and the fact that so many therapists aren't equipped to handle more difficult mental health struggles... I hope that you're able to find someone good eventually, though.I wish I could find a psychologist like that but they unfortunately sound like they're rare instead of being the norm. If I were to have someone like that though.. just maybe getting better to some extent is possible after all
I missed this until ijustwanttodie quoted it, but this is so true!! I'm recognizing some of this stuff firsthand in myself at this point...Sadly sometimes we have to parent ourselves or seek out professionals that can make up for what our parents/guardians did not teach us and I'm sorry that you're having to do this yourself. A therapist ideally won't be showing you right from wrong, they won't tell you what to do or how to think, but they will give you the tools to be able to differentiate between what the right and wrong things are, if that makes sense.
Apparently, still in the middle of an identity crisis...with another new profile picture no less
Apparently, still in the middle of an identity crisis...
Thanks for asking...for me I feel like a shit everday...Hey, how's everybody doing here?
I relate so much. Life is so difficult. Either way, I may not know exactly what you're going through but I hope you do find peace or happiness soonThanks for asking...for me I feel like a shit everday...
Congrats on all the good things happening to you. I hope that it continues to be that way and that your recovery goes well.Hey everyone!
I've had quite an eventful 26 hours since I last posted, full of a lot of really good things, and I'm sad that I have to leave tomorrow. This trip home has definitely made me realize that I'm ready to take the next step in my ascent out of the pit and plan to come back and start slowly living my life again in the near future. I know better than to rush into it all at once, but I'm thinking that if all goes well, I'll be ready to return home for good and start job hunting shortly after the holiday season. In the meantime, I'm gonna plan another slightly longer trip back later in December to organize my apartment so I can get it to a livable state. I'm glad that I'm able to see a path forward for myself again after spending so much time in a state of hopelessness and despair.
How is everyone else doing? @D1byRam3n and @ijustwishtodie, I hope today wasn't too rough for you guys.