• If you haven't yet, we highly encourage you to check out our Recovery Resources thread!
  • Hey Guest,

    If you would still like to donate, you still can. We have more than enough funds to cover operating expenses for quite a while, so don't worry about donating if you aren't able. If you want to donate something other than what is listed, you can contact RainAndSadness.

    Bitcoin Address (BTC): 39deg9i6Zp1GdrwyKkqZU6rAbsEspvLBJt

    Ethereum (ETH): 0xd799aF8E2e5cEd14cdb344e6D6A9f18011B79BE9

    Monero (XMR): 49tuJbzxwVPUhhDjzz6H222Kh8baKe6rDEsXgE617DVSDD8UKNaXvKNU8dEVRTAFH9Av8gKkn4jDzVGF25snJgNfUfKKNC8

card1nal

card1nal

trying to find peace by whatever means possible :)
Jan 23, 2023
72
I honestly wouldn't describe myself as being a people pleaser. When I was a people pleaser, I wasn't necessarily concerned with how I made people feel, it was just knowing how to snake my way out of situations by always doing what others want. I feel like I've done well with healing the people-pleaser in me; I am much better at setting boundaries now, but I still care about others and want what's best for them.

However, I feel like I love too much. I told a friend this not too long ago, and he said he didn't see it as an issue, but I do. I still have some healing to do, obviously, but right now I'm just struggling to accept that I will often love people more than they can love me. And I will love people more than I can ever show. I feel like I am overflowing with love and care, and most people are unwilling to return or even accept it. I willingly accept that I am a sensitive and vulnerable person, and I love that part of myself, but I'm struggling to find a place where I feel like I belong.

I know it comes off as corny when I try to explain it to others, but I don't know how else to convey these feelings. I feel like I intrinsically love every person that crosses my path, and I don't know how to cope with it. My next step in my healing process has been trying to overcome the fear of rejection, and my love for others makes rejection hurt so much. It sucks! It's one of the big reasons I fall back into suicidal ideation! I feel so alone, full of love with few people to give it to, and even fewer to show me the same amount of love.
 
  • Hugs
  • Love
Reactions: eatantz, pleaseiwanttogo, ColorlessTrees and 1 other person
derpyderpins

derpyderpins

Proud Normie
Sep 19, 2023
1,301
It's not whiny. It's relatable. It hurts a lot when you want to connect with someone and get pushed away. I'm similar, though maybe not to the same extent. I try to appreciate that part of myself rather than resenting it, although I should probably learn to let things go sometimes.
 
  • Like
  • Hugs
Reactions: card1nal and ColorlessTrees
evilnkaa

evilnkaa

Till' Death Was Never Enough
Jun 24, 2024
7
I can relate to this so much!!
I love a lot and it truley does feel like I'm over-stimulating everyone. Although some are okay with it,,, others get freaked out and just say I'm dramatic,emotional and ,sensitive. But in all honesty the world needs more love. You aren't corny for expressing any feelings and if they think that way they truly don't deserve someone as amazing as you. It's tough because I feel like I give my love to the wrong people and it causes me to fall back and I'm not a confrontational person so I do take all the blame and I end up beating myself up for it. I'm also learning how to take rejection and it's probably one of the hardest obstacles I've faced. It's okay to feel sensitive and vulnerable and to have feelings. I need to accept and love myself for who I am before I love others. So for me I'm taking a couple steps back. I'm glad you accept that part of you. And I hope you find where you belong but don't feel rushed or beat yourself up for it you deserve to be loved just as much.<33
 
  • Love
  • Hugs
Reactions: card1nal and ColorlessTrees
spring vainglory

spring vainglory

from a moon soaked in distance.
Feb 3, 2024
64
the world does need more love. this makes me suicidal too, that i love so deeply no matter what i'll never find someone who loves me with as much intensity. i'd love to have a stalker, someone obsessed with me. it means they love me with as much passion as i love others.
 
  • Love
Reactions: ColorlessTrees and evilnkaa
card1nal

card1nal

trying to find peace by whatever means possible :)
Jan 23, 2023
72
It's not whiny. It's relatable. It hurts a lot when you want to connect with someone and get pushed away. I'm similar, though maybe not to the same extent. I try to appreciate that part of myself rather than resenting it, although I should probably learn to let things go sometimes.
I definitely struggle to let things go. Like, if someone doesn't want my love, friendship, or care, it is very hard for me to accept. I hope you can find a way to appreciate it!
I hope you find where you belong but don't feel rushed or beat yourself up for it you deserve to be loved just as much.<33
Thank you so much, and I wish the same to you!! <3
 
  • Love
Reactions: evilnkaa and derpyderpins
pumpkins334234

pumpkins334234

Member
Jun 30, 2024
25
I honestly wouldn't describe myself as being a people pleaser. When I was a people pleaser, I wasn't necessarily concerned with how I made people feel, it was just knowing how to snake my way out of situations by always doing what others want. I feel like I've done well with healing the people-pleaser in me; I am much better at setting boundaries now, but I still care about others and want what's best for them.

However, I feel like I love too much. I told a friend this not too long ago, and he said he didn't see it as an issue, but I do. I still have some healing to do, obviously, but right now I'm just struggling to accept that I will often love people more than they can love me. And I will love people more than I can ever show. I feel like I am overflowing with love and care, and most people are unwilling to return or even accept it. I willingly accept that I am a sensitive and vulnerable person, and I love that part of myself, but I'm struggling to find a place where I feel like I belong.

I know it comes off as corny when I try to explain it to others, but I don't know how else to convey these feelings. I feel like I intrinsically love every person that crosses my path, and I don't know how to cope with it. My next step in my healing process has been trying to overcome the fear of rejection, and my love for others makes rejection hurt so much. It sucks! It's one of the big reasons I fall back into suicidal ideation! I feel so alone, full of love with few people to give it to, and even fewer to show me the same amount of love.
I feel like I know exactly how you feel wow. I'm so full of love that I want to help my loved ones and do stuff for them as much as I can. My life revolves around my loved ones in a way, and it's hard to not live like that. As much as I want to be less reliant on others, as much as I want to try and be more independent, it's just something about me I can't change.
I think it really sucks trying to find someone who loves as much as you do. I wish you the best because I know how painful it is. It's not corny at all. And I'm trying to see it as less of a fault and more of a good part of my personality. I try to think about how it's not easy to keep loving again and again despite being hurt but I still manage to do it. I try to think that the love I show will come back to me in a different form. I try to think that the love I show has everything to do with who I am as a person, and if it's not returned, that's okay because it shows who they are as people.
 
  • Hugs
Reactions: card1nal
-nobodyknows-

-nobodyknows-

Member
Jun 16, 2024
60
Well, shit, I know all about this.
 

Similar threads

arnoldpalmer
Replies
1
Views
116
Suicide Discussion
MarsProxy
MarsProxy
card1nal
Replies
3
Views
148
Recovery
card1nal
card1nal
Deficiency
Replies
0
Views
74
Suicide Discussion
Deficiency
Deficiency
UnnervedCompany
Replies
3
Views
200
Suicide Discussion
UnnervedCompany
UnnervedCompany