How many friends do you have?

[Dark Moon]

I have none. It's a hard task to make and keep friends with the condition that I have.

 

[actual_fox]

Like real best friends- 0

 

[Beer_is_all_I_have]

I just wanna know if it's weird that I only have 2 people I'd actually consider solid friends, one online one irl. I usually don't have that many friends at any given time. I feel like if those relationships fall apart my emotional state will plummet

For the last few years, one, and both of us thought we only needed each other. We chatted daily, knew everything about the other and could talk about anything. Still she wanted to CTB and it seemed selfish with all her many pains to stick around for me. So a month ago she left this planet. I'm devastated and very lonely but before her I had nobody so hopefully I can get back to being a loner. Fortunately I have a psychiatrist and a special person on this site, help me cope. That friend helped me feel more confident and I hope to one day go to meetups. There will never be anyone as incredibly suited for friendship as her but perhaps I can find others to at least hang out with.

 

[rainbowbright]

I thought I had a few genuine friends but I was very wrong so now 0

 

[Final-push123]

I had a chruch group I would consider friends but I choose success ocer them so now I have none

 

[Temporal_Anchorite]

 

[outatime_85]

I have zero friends or acquaintances, and I do not think anyone I have interacted with views me as a friend or acquaintance.

That being said, when someone chooses to chat me up, I can hold a conversation to a small degree.

However, the conversations are usually directed solely at them, and they never progress to the point where the conversation becomes two-way and a bond is formed.

Since I was not properly socialized as a child, it makes it a bit difficult to form or maintain friendships or relationships, among other things, and in today's world, no one is going to invest time in building a bond that is two-way with someone who does not have experience socializing, so I have come to accept that I will walk alone.

 

[SarRy]

No, it's not very odd to have few or no friends. For a lot of people, they only have shallow friendships that they use as more of an opportunities network to get them along in life. It's very hard to have close relationships with people.

 

[standbyme]

zero tbh. i dont have a personality most people like.

 

[Hirokami]

Zilch. I never quite fit in with most people, and when I am forced to socialize, I have to be fake. It's exhausting.

 

[Kazeeemoo12]

DATA MINING THREAD AHHHH

 

[3xplo]

Kinda zero? I'm really bad at shallow friendships, I just don't care, and profound relationships are hard, I'm too negative for people, including partners

 

[F@#$]

None

 

[Kundalini Guy]

0

 

[accountnamerequired]

1 online I talk to about once a week, in real life 0

 

[daocreator]

I just wanna know if it's weird that I only have 2 people I'd actually consider solid friends, one online one irl. I usually don't have that many friends at any given time. I feel like if those relationships fall apart my emotional state will plummet

Well, I did have around 4 friends, 2 irl and 2 online. But ever since I moved away from where I used to, we stopped talking. It really doesn't help the loneliness, but I see many here also don't have that many friends.

 

[BBBB]

None

 

[W3akCr3atur3]

0 irl and a few on the internet

 

[Deleted member 65988]

0, finding genuinely good, caring and understands friends is basically impossible. In any case, after all the experiences I've had, I'm better off without friends.

 

[Night_Crew]

Absolutely none. I've isolated and excluded myself from anyone who there's a possibility of getting close to. Part anxiety, depression, low mood, shame, poverty.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

Real ones? Two. Fake ones? Countless.

 

[SafferGuy]

I have a couple... none of them know I want to ctb.

 

[wheredidyouleaseme]

i have maybe 8. my closest person was a therapist.
my friends are pretty fake. only a few of them help and listen.

 

[killmepleasefast]

zero friend

 

[Deicius]

I may sound like I'm exaggerating here but I've never had a real person I can legitimately call it a friend

 

[greebo6]

Three maybe but hardly ever really talk to/spend time with them. Spend 90% of my time alone doing basically nothing. So its not good .

 

[wheredidyouleaseme]

idk what friends means as i get older. it feels cold and like the rules are non-existant.
a friend is someone I trust, and i don't trust anyone. A friend is meant to make my life better, and most people make my life worse. Also, a friend is someone who, even if they can't be there, you can hold in mind and know that they want well for you. You don't question their motives. You know.

It is so hard to feel that way about anyone after trauma. if ur family is shitty than you'll expect people to be shitty and it'll be hard to make a real friend.
i have friends but i also have no real friends, because I find them all fake and flaky, and they abandon me when it suits.

 

[sadespair]

zero. I wish technology was advanced enough so we could at least have an AI friend irl. Be there for us but also to help us improve in my case with social skills. Making friends is like ... dating. Being ghosted, or not being taken seriously isn't cool... and hurtful.

 

[natthebrat]

There's my friend who I've known since kindergarten, who I see every month or so. Used to be more frequent than that until I started dating. Then, there's my chosen sister who I've known since HS, who doesn't live locally anymore and hasn't for a long time, so I hardly ever get to see her, like twice a year at most. I do talk to her over text every few weeks. Everyone else is either more of an acquaintance, or I've lost contact with them.

 

[penguinl0v3s]

6 irls, lots online that come and go