how do I know if someone is lonely?

[thefirstluminary]

My friend the other day said that me and him are very lonely people and that kept me wondering are we really lonely? we got each other right we got friends we can't be lonely

 

[boyafraid]

I think he said that because there are people who have friends and still feel lonely. There are also people that don't have friends but don't feel lonely. It's complicated sometimes ):

 

[thefirstluminary]

I think he said that because there are people who have friends and still feel lonely. There are also people that don't have friends but don't feel lonely. It's complicated sometimes ):

how do I know if I'm lonely then I don't understand people who call themselves lonely are weird like lonely in what way??? I sometimes approach those so called lonely people and none of them really bothers saying anything or talk

 

[JeyJeyOfJeypore]

Lonely ppl usually dont smile often

Their neutral face may look a bit mean

They might look a bit sleep deprived around the eyes or as if theyve been crying even if they havent been that much and sleeping well

Their reaction to social contact is also tell tale. They arent good at starting but may feel more energetic and talk a lot if they manage to get in a social mood (or if in a easier to talk place like online)

This is what ive come up from looking at myself and reflecting (including in an actual mirror)

 

[thefirstluminary]

Lonely ppl usually dont smile often

Their neutral face may look a bit mean

They might look a bit sleep deprived around the eyes or as if theyve been crying even if they havent been that much and sleeping well

Their reaction to social contact is also tell tale. They arent good at starting but may feel more energetic and talk a lot if they manage to get in a social mood (or if in a easier to talk place like online)

This is what ive come up from looking at myself and reflecting (including in an actual mirror)

I guess I'm not lonely then lol for some reason many people ask me that I look sad and depressed despite not showing it and smiling often
the same friend told me that he only came back to talk to me is because I'm a lonely person but I'm not

 

[JeyJeyOfJeypore]

I guess I'm not lonely then lol for some reason many people ask me that I look sad and depressed despite not showing it and smiling often
the same friend told me that he only came back to talk to me is because I'm a lonely person but I'm not

could be theyre lonely. When you have a feeling inside you, it warps your perception and makes you see it in other places

you cant tell from your own expressions in a social situation i think. Ppl suppress sadness and smile for many reasons there and you need to get rid of those factors to have a better tell

Isolate yourself, clear mind, and look in the mirror alone, try not to have prevailing thoughts or judgment in your mind because those will affect your expression. Then you can tell

 

[thefirstluminary]

could be theyre lonely. When you have a feeling inside you, it warps your perception and makes you see it in other places

you cant tell from your own expressions in a social situation i think. Ppl suppress sadness and smile for many reasons there and you need to get rid of those factors to have a better tell

Isolate yourself, clear mind, and look in the mirror alone, try not to have prevailing thoughts or judgment in your mind because those will affect your expression. Then you can tell

odd thing is it's mostly my classmates or teacher sometimes friend but never my family I think I got really good at hiding it from my family cause mom have a power to just sense something is wrong with me lol
I really hate looking at mirrors it makes me feel disgusted and my face look all serious and dead but at the same time it's not it's just the way my face look like I might be upset but I look normal

 

[JeyJeyOfJeypore]

Looking at mirrors becomes easier when youre isolated to the point where it may be the only source of a semi-interactive human face

 

[thefirstluminary]

Looking at mirrors becomes easier when youre isolated to the point where it may be the only source of a semi-interactive human face

I'm not that down bad looking at a mirror just makes me want to kms even more I'm very ugly and unfit

 

[JeyJeyOfJeypore]

I'm not that down bad looking at a mirror just makes me want to kms even more I'm very ugly and unfit

Must be hard being a woman. Youre either too pretty or too ugly and both have issues

 

[thefirstluminary]

Must be hard being a woman. Youre either too pretty or too ugly and both have issues

I'm dude so I don't know about that but they don't have it as bad men really don't care

 

[JeyJeyOfJeypore]

I'm dude so I don't know about that but they don't have it as bad men really don't care

Hmm i see

I guess i did care about looks a bit more in the past

These days i cut my hair real short like a soldier cuz it feels nice

 

[L.D.50]

"Well… alone is a way to be. It's being by yourself with no one else around. And it can be good or bad. And it can be a choice…. But being lonely is never a choice. It's not about who is with you or not. You can feel lonely when you are alone, but the worst kind of lonely is when you're in a room full of people, but you're still alone. Or you feel like you are anyway."

your dilemma reminded me of this quote, from a book i read when i was still in primary/secondary school. it might help you understand.