I spent my life since I was 20 being a single mom. Older son would be 28 now- he died in a car accident at 25. HUGE part of my reason to CTB, I believe I will be reunited with him. We all have our beliefs- let me have mine about my afterlife.
I LOVED my children. Older son got spanked once for running in the road after a ball when he was about 4. Younger son never got spanked. I didn't physically or mentally abuse my children. I LOVED them. I was there for them in any way they needed me. Older son talked to me about everything wanting my approval or input. I did not abuse my kids in anyway. They were my life- and my reason to wake up and try to make things better every day. We weren't financially stable but we were comfortable we always had a roof over our heads, food to eat, computers, tv's and basic necessities.
Older son was popular in HS, the counselors all told me all the girls were flocked around J. He got his first job at 18 and his final one at 21. He became a foreman of a crew and LOVED the fact he worked hard for his money. He was very active in a car club. His passion was his car.. working on it attending meets shows. As described by his club he was humble, a true friend to many, honorable and someone they all should look up to and aspire to be more like him. He LOVED life- he enjoyed simple things like taking cloud pictures. He was that one guy who could make anyone laugh. Hi friends have said they miss his goofy facebook posts that made them laugh.. some still 3 yrs later admit to me looking at his page expecting to see one of his posts. Had he not passed in a car accident on his way to work he had a lot to offer this world and would have accomplished everything he had his goals set to.
younger son tested out top 17% nationwide for intelligence at 10. I was told expect the top 10% or better. He is VERY intelligent and an introvert. He is attracted to intelligence. He is not straight or gay. He will be 20 in a couple of months. He has a job and they are wanting to make him manager. He LOVES his job. Sadly, he was a couple months prior to turning 17 when his older brother died and I snapped from it. I really put him through a lot when he needed me to be the strongest. He lost his big bro and his mom as he knew her that day. He turned 18 and ran to my ex in laws. I wish I could be back in his life to grieve together, heal and move forward. I know there was damage done and I regret thinking it may prevent him from accomplishing what he has the potential to. He wants to join the army and get an education from there. He is looking to be an engineer of sorts, although he also looked into archaeologist.
Parents who abuse their kids- I would love to get my hands on them. I am not an angry violent person. Abuse of children make me angry and I could choke the life out of an abuser and not regret it one single bit. Some of us parents have children and love them. They become a happy person and live productive happy lives.