Yes. You're right. A goodbye post in the recovery section. I am the exceptional few who are able to actually recover and leave this forum.
I am exceptionally lucky to be able to post this. After almost 20 years of loneliness and pain, I've finally fount the one. The girl who would accept me despite my face and height. The girl who laughes at my weird jokes and stories. The girl with whom I can watch the beautiful starry sky with. The girl with whom I can talk about everything.
A saddening number of you are here due to loneliness. It's hard to be alone, and it's even harder to see others have what you can never have. I would like to help, but I'm afraid that mmy advice would be dismissed as normie platitiudes. However, I've had my fair share of struggle, especially with my physical appearance, so I will give a few tips that might be helpful, and share my understanding on some of the "normie" tips.
0: Stay away from incel and redpill forums. "Girls only want Chads"? "If you are under 6' it's over"? Even if they are true, precisely none of these "facts" are going to increase your likelihood to find a partner, and they only serve to put you down and drain your motivation. I assume you are trying to find a partner instead of do research on why you are unable to find a partner, so it's better for your chances to ditch these theories and just shoot your shot.
1: Be yourself, but also change yourself. The phrase "be yourself" might as well be a meme at this point, and whenever it's given as advice ridicule follows. However, from my experience, this phrase is largely correct. It simply does not mean what you think it means. You might think "be yourself" means "you need no improvement and you are good as-is". Actually it means "dont pretend to be someone you aren't". Should you improve yourself? Definitely. What you should NOT do is try to impress someone, or act according to some random "dating tips" on how you should act in front of women. They only make you seem unnatural and even fake.
2: Looks does not matter. Height does not matter. You might be calling me delusional, but there are only so much you can do about your appearance. You are not going to look like a movie star overnight, or even with decades of hard work. So what good it is to obsess over it? This has the same energy as tip #0: if it does not help, it does not matter. However, this is not to say that you should not lose weight or get a nice haircut. These are things you can do to improve your appearance, sometimes significantly.
3: Improve your social skills. Finding a partner is a social activity, so social skills matters a lot. And it can actually be improved. I pulled my social skills up by my bootstraps. Here is how I did it. Try to participate in social activities; if there are real people to meet, preferably in person, it works. Large group activities can be overwhelming, and there are risks of being ignored, so small group activities work better. I personally started with board games and poker.
4: Get to know girls. It goes without saying that getting to know girls significantly improves your likelihood of finding a partner. Getting to know many girls also prevents being hung on a specific person because there is always another one. This, in turn ,prevents wasting time and money on someone who isn't interested in you but keeps you around anyway for personal gains, and leaves you to spend more time around people who are more genuine and interested in you.
I wish that you guys follow my footsteps and leave this place soon.
HappyForever, formerly tfw_no_gf
I am exceptionally lucky to be able to post this. After almost 20 years of loneliness and pain, I've finally fount the one. The girl who would accept me despite my face and height. The girl who laughes at my weird jokes and stories. The girl with whom I can watch the beautiful starry sky with. The girl with whom I can talk about everything.
A saddening number of you are here due to loneliness. It's hard to be alone, and it's even harder to see others have what you can never have. I would like to help, but I'm afraid that mmy advice would be dismissed as normie platitiudes. However, I've had my fair share of struggle, especially with my physical appearance, so I will give a few tips that might be helpful, and share my understanding on some of the "normie" tips.
0: Stay away from incel and redpill forums. "Girls only want Chads"? "If you are under 6' it's over"? Even if they are true, precisely none of these "facts" are going to increase your likelihood to find a partner, and they only serve to put you down and drain your motivation. I assume you are trying to find a partner instead of do research on why you are unable to find a partner, so it's better for your chances to ditch these theories and just shoot your shot.
1: Be yourself, but also change yourself. The phrase "be yourself" might as well be a meme at this point, and whenever it's given as advice ridicule follows. However, from my experience, this phrase is largely correct. It simply does not mean what you think it means. You might think "be yourself" means "you need no improvement and you are good as-is". Actually it means "dont pretend to be someone you aren't". Should you improve yourself? Definitely. What you should NOT do is try to impress someone, or act according to some random "dating tips" on how you should act in front of women. They only make you seem unnatural and even fake.
2: Looks does not matter. Height does not matter. You might be calling me delusional, but there are only so much you can do about your appearance. You are not going to look like a movie star overnight, or even with decades of hard work. So what good it is to obsess over it? This has the same energy as tip #0: if it does not help, it does not matter. However, this is not to say that you should not lose weight or get a nice haircut. These are things you can do to improve your appearance, sometimes significantly.
3: Improve your social skills. Finding a partner is a social activity, so social skills matters a lot. And it can actually be improved. I pulled my social skills up by my bootstraps. Here is how I did it. Try to participate in social activities; if there are real people to meet, preferably in person, it works. Large group activities can be overwhelming, and there are risks of being ignored, so small group activities work better. I personally started with board games and poker.
4: Get to know girls. It goes without saying that getting to know girls significantly improves your likelihood of finding a partner. Getting to know many girls also prevents being hung on a specific person because there is always another one. This, in turn ,prevents wasting time and money on someone who isn't interested in you but keeps you around anyway for personal gains, and leaves you to spend more time around people who are more genuine and interested in you.
I wish that you guys follow my footsteps and leave this place soon.
HappyForever, formerly tfw_no_gf
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