Does anybody else here genuinely not have any friends?

[Ultracheese]

I have no friends, which I suppose is fine with me since I consider myself pretty unlikable and not a particularly good friend.

 

[odradek]

I don't have any friends now but this is mostly by choice, I have pushed almost everyone in my life away for various reasons. It does give me pangs of sadness occasionally but I am a miserable bastard and lazy. Being alone is the path of least resistance at this point.

 

[katara]

I have few friends male and female. But it aint helpin when you are empty inside. I just try to pretend in front of them someting that ist even true. Thats why im isolating more and more.

I relate to the emptiness feeling. Sorry to hear you are struggling. Hopefully you never end up as bad as me with nobody to count on. It's really awful, i can't tell you how many days I wished someone would just kill me already :(

 

[EternalOblivion]

The only friend I've made since high school no longer speaks to me very much. Nothing happened between us; their life just got better and I'm no longer of any significance to them.
I've never had a legitimate friend group growing up either. The few times I was more-or-less part of one, I was always the odd one out. I don't anticipate anyone growing to care for me at this point. I'd rather take my life sooner rather than later because of it; I don't want to go through life completely on my own.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

The only True friend's l've ever had were my brother's and Sister's in my unit! After that there were my 2 Staffies and since they've passed on l have No-one left!

 

[SamTam33]

I have friends, but none that's going to spend my last day on earth celebrating and reminiscing with me.

None of them are going to hug me goodbye and express happiness at me finally being free. So are they really friends? I wonder.

My BFFs dad commited suicide so I can't say the slightest negative thing without them going into full crisis prevention mode. So I don't say anything.

Most people are only present if things are going well. Useless sacks of organs.

So yeah, friends or not - very few people are going to support you when you've descended to where we are.

Very, very few.

And I haven't been fortunate enough to meet people who would take away my desire to die.

So even if you have friends, it's unlikely that they're special enough to curb suicidal tendencies.

Most people aren't.

 

[rainydayvibes]

I was just curious if anybody here can relate. I have been to multiple depression forums and suicide chat rooms before, and I noticed that most of these people are quite normal. People would always mention that the reason they'd never commit suicide is because of friends and family, and seeing that over and over would make me feel really terrible inside. I wonder if anyone here understands what it's like to have nobody.

I don't really have friends. I used to but I moved to a different city a while ago and don't really have friends here, just acquaintances. I would love to have friends though, I'm just a mess and I'm bad at meeting people and trusting people

 

[Hendo]

Yup, no online or real life friends.

Haven't had any real life friends (real friends) since junior year of high school.

Probably tooo messed up at this point

I'll be your friend.

 

[ttg30000]

Hi .. I totally relate. I have two (online) friends, but they are people I have to have a mask on so to speak to converse with. No real friends that I can be real me with.

 

[katara]

The only True friend's l've ever had were my brother's and Sister's in my unit! After that there were my 2 Staffies and since they've passed on l have No-one left!

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by unit, i assume you were in the military or something. Having family as friends is still better then nothing. By the way I just wanted to say that i relate to your profile picture. Anyways I hope you are doing alright when you see this. You deserve friends & happiness!

 

[katara]

So even if you have friends, it's unlikely that they're special enough to curb suicidal tendencies.

Most people aren't.

Sorry to hear about what happened to your best friend. I'm sure that's really difficult for him to deal with. But yes that's so true what you said about how people are only present if things are going well. That describes the girl who was my "friend" but then she left me once she got a boyfriend and her life improved. I've definitely not been fortunate enough to meet anyone who takes away my suicidal tendencies. it's never gonna happen for me. I've never even had a close friend, the friends I've had were like the characters in Mean Girls. She just hung out with me when all her other friends were busy. I'm the backup friend, and I don't really feel like being used for status :(

 

[disabledlife]

I've very, very few friends, I'm alone.

 

[katara]

I don't really have friends. I used to but I moved to a different city a while ago and don't really have friends here, just acquaintances. I would love to have friends though, I'm just a mess and I'm bad at meeting people and trusting people

Ya it's difficult to make friends, that's something normal people don't understand. Regular people already have their friend group by high school. People like that have no idea what it's like to not have a group at all. I feel like I can make acquaintances, but friends have always been a struggle for me. I always wondered if i was ugly or if it was an issue with the way I dressed. I had so many body image issues right before I started puberty. It didn't help that all the female cartoon character I looked at growing up had a waist the size of their wrists.
I'm definitely more ok with my body, I still hate myself though. I have an issue with humanity. I just wish people were better. I wish people didn't lie so much, it sucks to get a dopamine hit because i thought I had a friend, just to be ignored eventually, then wondering what i did wrong. It feels like nobody wants actual kind people around them which is weird. I have to watch as thousands of people on TikTok idolize and fall in love with serial killers, meanwhile I feel like I wasted my whole life being a nice pushover. It's just ridiculous sometimes. I hate that people make me feel like I can't even share my kindness with anyone

 

[Whistea]

Yeah, I literally don't have a single friend. But at this point I'm used to it, so I'm not really making an attempt to change anything about it, although I did try it multiple times in the past.

 

[katara]

I don't have any friends now but this is mostly by choice, I have pushed almost everyone in my life away for various reasons. It does give me pangs of sadness occasionally but I am a miserable bastard and lazy. Being alone is the path of least resistance at this point.

Oh I'm sorry to hear that, I don't really have anyone to push away lol. Nobody is interested in me because I don't really have anything going on with my life, so I guess people don't see any value in me or my life. I've been lazy most of my life, i think it's hard for me to have motivation to do things when everything I do, I have to do alone. Btw I really like your profile picture, it's pretty.

 

[GRIM_DEADMAN]

I've always felt lonelier around people I thought were my friends than when I was actually alone.

They were just people to be around, not have meaningful conversations with.

Having actual friends seems impossible for me.

 

[raiseurweapon]

i've struggled to keep friends my entire life for a number of reasons. i dropped out when i was in high school due to a suicide attempt so i kinda isolated myself up until now, don't get me wrong i did push myself and get out of my comfort zone. but i just can't click with anyone, it's hard to find someone who genuinely understands why i act the way i do and i feel at fault for it. i have a bad attachment style (i'm bipolar) and i'm terrified to get close to someone especially because my mental health is at an all time low. but honestly i wish i had some kinda emotional support. i genuinely hate everyone irl i don't even care if that sounds like some corny emo shit. i do want friends but i don't want to hurt people by my shit mistakes and actions.

 

[whywere]

I have zero friends and zero family.

Walter

 

[raiseurweapon]

I've always felt lonelier around people I thought were my friends than when I was actually alone.

They were just people to be around, not have meaningful conversations with.

Having actual friends seems impossible for me.

same lol

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think friendship takes effort and trust and I've gotten to a point where I don't really want to put in the effort or risk. I only really have very loose friends now- that were actually close friends at one point.

I think to get friends- you need to seek them for a start- they likely won't come looking for you. Then- if you get on ok- you need to trust them. Sadly, in my experience- most people will break your trust at some point. So- I've sadly gotten to a point where I don't trust friendship anymore.

 

[Viranamari]

I understand how you feel and just because you have no friends does not mean you are abnormal. I prefer being alone than hanging out with people and I am not sure of your situation but I want you to know It is nothing to feel bad of in fact it has it's pros too.

 

[katara]

Yeah, I literally don't have a single friend. But at this point I'm used to it, so I'm not really making an attempt to change anything about it, although I did try it multiple times in the past.

I hear you, I tired multiple times, I don't know what to do anymore though. It feels weird to go through life like this you know? I feel like right now is the way things will be for basically the rest of my life. Even talking to people on sites like this makes me feel worse sometimes, seeing so many people who say they are happy and married, have children, and have great lives. I'm never going to have any of that, but people like me aren't pretty enough to be the face of depression. It's always someone who's married with kids who has great opportunities and loved ones. It's just so exhausting sometimes. I just want one person to love me, that's it. It feels like an impossible task. People don't value me at all, maybe it's a vibe give off, i dont know. I don't know why I still try honestly. Nobody will show me back the love I give out.

i've struggled to keep friends my entire life for a number of reasons. i dropped out when i was in high school due to a suicide attempt so i kinda isolated myself up until now, don't get me wrong i did push myself and get out of my comfort zone. but i just can't click with anyone, it's hard to find someone who genuinely understands why i act the way i do and i feel at fault for it. i have a bad attachment style (i'm bipolar) and i'm terrified to get close to someone especially because my mental health is at an all time low. but honestly i wish i had some kinda emotional support. i genuinely hate everyone irl i don't even care if that sounds like some corny emo shit. i do want friends but i don't want to hurt people by my shit mistakes and actions.

This is actually kind of weird you say this because I also dropped out. I didn't have any friends so I didn't see a point in going. I actually remember being like 12 and wanting to drop out of school as soon as I could. I always hated it there. Sounds like we can relate on the whole shitty school experience. I never got invited to a party or prom. Never went on a date either. My last friend left me after she got a boyfriend so sense then I've just been surfing the web look for interesting things. Sometimes I get sad though, because i go on forums like Reddit where people talk about being "depressed" meanwhile they have like, a whole emotional support system of friends, family, kids, pets. It just upsets me that I can't seem to find anyone like myself. I never know the right place to look for this sort of thing. Reddit has been a nightmare for me, so has tinder. I just dont know what to do sometimes. I used to go on r/foreveralone and it's just filled with men blaming women for everything, and saying they want to be women because "we don't know what it's like to be lonely". It's just so fucking annoying. It makes me want to side with the human extinction crowd

 

[novem]

Friends are like lovers, while you have something to offer, they hang around. Once you lose all that you used to give them—they will be gone.
Also there are ghost-friends, they show up, talk about how great they are, and disappear. I would call such folks salesmen (actually make good salesmen).

 

[jessisme]

I have no friends and have had no friends for most of my adult life (I'm 46). I do live with my mother who is my main companion at this point and we do most everything together. I'm not sure why I don't have more friends. I do find it difficult finding things to say to people or finding interests to share in common. I guess I just never developed skills to work with people in this way. Sometimes I think I might be autistic because of it but my therapist says no. I don't miss friends or long for them but if I didn't have my mother I'd be up shits creek.

 

[citrusiast]

i don't have any friends, but i do have family (and i still live with them). reason for this is that i'm an average basement dweller, so i don't really go out or see people. no colleagues to bond with, and i personally believe that online friends are like the second dumbest thing ever (first being life itself lol). my social skills are inept and, if i were to talk to people, i'm pretty sure i'd considered a creep or a weirdo. i'm also just kind of an asshole

 

[katara]

I think friendship takes effort and trust and I've gotten to a point where I don't really want to put in the effort or risk. I only really have very loose friends now- that were actually close friends at one point.

I think to get friends- you need to seek them for a start- they likely won't come looking for you. Then- if you get on ok- you need to trust them. Sadly, in my experience- most people will break your trust at some point. So- I've sadly gotten to a point where I don't trust friendship anymore.

Ya it sucks having your trust broken I know what you mean. I wonder if anyone truly wants to be my friend because of past bad experiences. It seems like most people only want me when I'm at my best, I've never had a true friend, or a best friend. Just casual school friends, not people I can message when I'm feeling like shit. Most people I've tried reaching out to won't even audiochat with me over discord. It's confusing. I just wish people would be honest with their intentions, because now I've gotten to the point where I assume nobody actually values me at all, and that these are just people to message with or share interests with, it usually never goes any further, because people don't see me in that way.

 

[Source Energy]

I have one close friend that I talk a lot with on the phone but she has a family and no time for me to spend time go out, see each other...other than her, just work friends, they have their lives too...I am alone.

 

[katara]

Friends are like lovers, while you have something to offer, they hang around. Once you lose all that you used to give them—they will be gone.
Also there are ghost-friends, they show up, talk about how great they are, and disappear. I would call such folks salesmen (actually make good salesmen).

I would have to kind of disagree with that, I think a true lover would hang around no matter what. I think a best friend would too. Sadly I've never had either experience though :(

 

[bubo]

i'm raising my hand. i've never had any friends in real life for my entire time on this planet, my parents controlled everything about my life and even just saying "hi" to someone outside of the house was a crime to them. i also don't really have any online friends, i don't know how to even make them, watching paint dry is more interesting than talking to me so it's actually best no one interacts with me maybe since i'd just be wasting their time after all.

 

[katara]

I have no friends and have had no friends for most of my adult life (I'm 46). I do live with my mother who is my main companion at this point and we do most everything together. I'm not sure why I don't have more friends. I do find it difficult finding things to say to people or finding interests to share in common. I guess I just never developed skills to work with people in this way. Sometimes I think I might be autistic because of it but my therapist says no. I don't miss friends or long for them but if I didn't have my mother I'd be up shits creek.

I relate to a lot of stuff you said her besides your age. All I have is my ma. We didn't get along very well for most of my life but I've had to forgive and forget the shitty things she's done because I truly feel she's changed.
I also have always struggled with coming up with things to say to people. I had this happen before where I messaged a woman who I thought was going through a hard time like me, being in a subreddit for lonely women, I remember getting a message back from her that literally just said "k". I was trying to actually converse with her but clearly she didn't want to, yet she'll say she's lonely... then responds to me with just "k" after I was asking her about her interests and stuff like that. I thought that maybe I'm autistic too, i never know what im doing wrong and nobody seems to be willing to help me out or hear me out. I'm just talking to a wall most of the time. Might not mean much but I'm open to chat if you'd ever like to. I never have anything going on in my life though, so I'm not the most interesting person. I'm always open to talk about music or Youtube.