Discussion Do you think youre ugly?

[Sweet emotion]

No. My extreme attractiveness has actually garnered me a lot of violence and harassment, but also love.

As a guy, when you are attractive in the gentile manner, you get targeted by most guys, and all girls will turn to you like plants competing for sunlight.

Well you're definitely not modest haha. I'm kidding with you.

 

[Edward1]

Yep, been told i'm unattractive most of my life. got to the point now, i just don't care.

Really? You look attractive if that's you in the photo but I guess that's only my personal opinion.

 

[Ko9]

I wouldn't call a lollipop behind the couch with mental issues beautiful.

 

[Edward1]

I wouldn't call a lollipop behind the couch with mental issues beautiful.

You lost me.

 

[Yorkshire91]

I dont think it I know it. I'm fucking disgusting!!!

 

[blanketyblk]

Really? You look attractive if that's you in the photo but I guess that's only my personal opinion.

yeah. thats me in the profile. i look ok in that photo. but yeah. oh a whole. i look like a bean pole. tall. no boobies and lanky as.. such is my genes

 

[woxihuanni]

There is nothing shallow about caring about looks, not anymore than needing to eat. It comes with the territory. Anybody who has done the mental work to see what part of feeling ugly is bullying, and what part realistic, should be given the option of a a peaceful exit.

Some people find me attractive enough to be infatuated at first sight. Those have exactly been the people whose taste in general is not in tune with mine. Some people cannot hide the fact that they find me awfully ugly. I know what I think, and it is that while I am not the ugliest, I am definitely not a pleasure to look at. Also this pep-talk about working hard to look good: You know what, I am not fine with the chore imposed on me.

Being ugly makes you immensely tired in the end. Just that, tired.

I had to go on accutane too. I was scared of scarring so wanted to be on it before the cystic acne did permanent damage. My skin was kind of the last good thing I had left about my face until bad acne happened. Then I got on accutane and it really did do the job. I tried to enjoy the good skin again even though the rest of my face was busted up and/or naturally unattractive. Good skin is kind of like an irl filter. I took very good care of it, as I didn't have much else.
..Fast forward years later and a fluke incident happened that ruined my skin beyond recognition. It's beyond acne, if anyone has ever seen laser damage victims who end up with this weird scarred looking holey texture that's endlessly dehydrated, ruddy, and aged 30+ years overnight..well it's basically that. Hasn't gone away for 3 years.
Just when you think things can't possibly get worse, trust me, they can.

My issue has always been my appearance and when stuff like this happens, even as someone who doesn't believe in higher powers or religion or any superstitious nonsense..you just gotta sit back and wonder..is the universe fucking with me?
It's just too sadistically perfect. I wake up every morning still unable to believe it. That this is my life. That this is the reflection staring back at me.

Anyway, glad accutane was able to help you, sorry you didn't get on it as soon as you wanted. I sympathize dearly with anyone who has skin issues or any issues that affect one's looks. That's what we show the world and what is-unfortunately-directly linked to our identity. It would seem only fair that everyone had-at the very least-comfort in their own skin. But that's not how the world works. Life is the definition of unfair.

I feel you. Always thought that there was a feature of me that was very pleasant, however ugly the rest might be. Guess what fucking happened.

 

[RedPanda]

Probably a 5/10, so pretty average looking.

 

[Tristan Reeveur]

I think so

 

[gingerplum]

I used to have that problem too but I took accutane and that pretty much cured it, only thing that worked at all. I just wish that I took it much earlier.

Accutane is a fucking miracle, isn't it?

 

[Élégie]

I've been struggling with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia for more than 10 years now... so yeah, I hate my physical appearance.

 

[LastFlowers]

People keep telling me that I look younger than I really am. Is this suppose to be a compliment?

Usually it is.
And even if it wasn't, I would certainly take it as one!
Trust me, you definitely don't want to be told the opposite.

 

[SubhumanVirgin]

I'm likely the ugliest person here. Not to mention my back is covered in scars from self flagellation. Can't even take my shirt off at the beach if I ever went. I don't have a single good trait lol. B I'm even bald at 23

 

[LastFlowers]

Accutane is a fucking miracle, isn't it?

It certainly can be.
Although there seems to be plenty of horror stories about it too.
Not unlike all things.

 

[Wayfaerer]

Usually it is.
And even if it wasn't, I would certainly take it as one!
Trust me, you definitely don't want to be told the opposite.

Yeah but I'm male so looking older is considered more masculine.

 

[LastFlowers]

Yeah but I'm male so looking older is considered more masculine.

You can look masculine and youthful at the same time.
There's always room for aging, it will happen to everyone eventually. Better to delay it as much as possible.
(Think about some male celebrities that are plenty masculine but many claim they look like they never age.)

But I understand not wanting to be endowed with stereotypical traits of the opposite gender.
How old are you now if you don't mind me asking?
Are you so old that being told you're young looking would be rather difficult to believe?
For instance, are they simply saying you look youngER, or are they saying that you look like a child?

 

[Wayfaerer]

You can look masculine and youthful at the same time.
There's always room for aging, it will happen to everyone eventually. Better to delay it as much as possible.
(Think about some male celebrities that are plenty masculine but many claim they look like they never age.)

But I understand not wanting to be endowed with stereotypical traits of the opposite gender.
How old are you now if you don't mind me asking?
Are you so old that being told you're young looking would be rather difficult to believe?
For instance, are they simply saying you look youngER, or are they saying that you look like a child?

I'm in my late 20's now. I've always been mistaken for looking younger than I am. I grow my facial hair out because even my own mother admits that I look like a teenager when clean-shaven. I still do but it's not as bad.

 

[LastFlowers]

I'm in my late 20's now. I've always been mistaken for looking younger than I am. I grow my facial hair out because even my own mother admits that I look like a teenager when clean-shaven. I still do but it's not as bad.

Okay, being mistaken for teens when in your 20's is still pretty ideal.
I don't think you have much to worry about as long as people aren't saying you look like a kid when you're in your 40's.
So maybe when you're in your 30's, people will start saying you look like you are in your 20's. Then you would appear to be aging, just at a slower rate.
At the end of the day, what matters is if you are comfortable with yourself. My opinion is neither here nor there.

 

[Wayfaerer]

Okay, being mistaken for teens when in your 20's is still pretty ideal.
I don't think you have much to worry about as long as people aren't saying you look like a kid when you're in your 40's.
So maybe when you're in your 30's, people will start saying you look like you are in your 20's. Then you would appear to be aging, just at a slower rate.
At the end of the day, what matters is if you are comfortable with yourself. My opinion is neither here nor there.

I'm comfortable with it except my jawline is very feminine and I hate it. Oh well, I guess it really doesn't even matter now considering that I am going to be catching the bus anyway.

 

[clownangel]

I feel ugly as shit but in reality I don't really know what I look like between my self image/dysmorphia etc.

I was mocked for my appearance growing up but a lot of that was either because I'm eccentric aesthetically or that I kind of aggressively lean into androgyny. (As an adult it's mostly been for the same thing) I modeled for a few years & my income has relied mainly on my appearance before but I'm pretty sure I'm average with bouts of looking "worse".

 

[crea_the_hopeless]

I feel as though I'm the ugliest person in the world. People tell me I'm pretty but I just don't see it. After losing and gaining back massive weight, body dysmorphia will never allow me to see myself the way others see me. I hate my appearance (including all the bone deformities I have.)

 

[Worthless_nobody]

I have horrible self esteem despite people telling me I'm beautiful. I always feel unworthy. I used to take pride in my appearance and wear nice clothes, make up and do my hair but it got me no where except used, abused and taken advantage of. I dont do any self care anymore I have completely let myself go. When I look in the mirror I just see a ghost.

 

[MissNietzsche]

Yes, I've hated the way I looked since I was a little kid. I've been teased for my appearance, but it wasn't severe. That said, I used to not be able to leave my house because of how deformed I thought I was. I thought I was a monster. Now I think I'm just plain hideous. I even had plastic surgery, but the results turned out semi-bad. Now my nose is super crooked.

I do have binge eating disorder though, and part of that includes body dysmorphia.

I do want to ctb because of my looks though

 

[1ma51llyb01]

Im a guy whos 5 ft 3 i have been told im ugly and I hate myself

 

[Moonicide]

I've always felt unworthy and unlovable for the most part... Even though I've had plenty of people tell me I'm beautiful, etc. Just never felt it. Still don't.

 

[SoupSnakes]

100%. Bullied all through school for how I looked and that's stuck with me whether people have told me otherwise or not.

 

[Little Mook]

Mocked during school because of my appearance. Generally I think I'm disgusting. I'm not sure what other ppl see, but I assume it's bad. It takes a lot of getting ready to try and look presentable.

 

[lizinha]

Yes really. I don't feel good about myself. I always need validation. Ive never been perceived as beautiful to other people. I have an underbite which makes me really self-conscious about my face

 

[Daniela]

I think I'm repulsive but I'm told I'm very feminine and voluptuous. I think I'm feminine only from the neck down.

 

[Unsurebaker]

Yes. My husband even admitted it without saying it. Basically he said i don't realize how much makeup works on me. I get it. I dislike my teeth, my height, almost everything. One of the main reasons I absolutely hate living.