Discussion Being a virgin still in your 30's

[Sammybackflip]

I would if I had the money for travel. I'm only going to have 4-5 grand for the rest of the year. I don't have any bills, though.


It's simple. Did P go into V?

No? Then you're a virgin. Yes? Then you're not.

Shoot. Oral sex better than P in V anyways.

 

[riverstyx]

The last time I had sex was in 2006.

Now my libido has died a little. At least in relation to sex with a woman.

I still jerk off to tube videos from time to time.

To be honest, sex isn't all that great. It may be if you have good chemistry with your partner, I dont know, but if not then it's just physically exhausting and chasing an orgasm.

 

[Mercury6737]

People often lie about this subject. Being a virgin after a certain age comes with a certain stigma. Think of it as any other rite of passage. An extension of this is no relationship history after a certain age. In any event, based on what you've said, you aren't a virgin. However, at your age, you'd be best served not making mention of your lack of sexual experience to potential partners (as a general rule).

 

[xXSarac3nSlay3rXx]

My best friend's sister offered to blow me when I was 16 and I turned it down because he was my bro. I regret that 10 fold now because he probably wouldn't have even cared, but then again, how hard is that really to get anyway? I think it would've been better to get those experiences earlier on rather than later. KHHV and approaching 30.

I had to look up that acronym. Not to gloat, but I have kissed, held hands, hugged/cuddled. I guess the virginity thing is debatable.

 

[Astral316]

I'm 31 and no nookie for me either... wouldn't pursue girls that were interested, wouldn't pay for prostitutes because I knew I'd feel worse post-orgasm.

I watched a lot of Disney and think that maybe warped my views on sex and love... I wanted my twin flame and wouldn't settle. But she doesn't exist in this society... just a bunch of miss thing's and hoochie mamas.

 

[Bärchen]

33 had a few times sex with prostitutes in the past, now 7 years nothing.
I search love and cuddles, sex would be just a bonus. But the dating market is beyond fucked for men and i'm shy and introvert. I think its impossible for me to even get a honest hug.

 

[Pressed carotid]

Shoot. Oral sex better than P in V anyways.

I am choosing to be a virgin for as long as i live what's wrong with being a virgin?

 

[calendulo]

You are still virgin in your 30's.
I remember I was 29 years old.
Age does not mind, I think so.

 

[RedPanda]

From what i have heard it's overrated. I'm asexual and don't even crave intimacy at all, let alone sex, it doesn't even cross my mind. My sexual organs are pointless.

 

[PaYo]

Shoot. Oral sex better than P in V anyways.

Yes it is.

It's simple. Did P go into V?

No? Then you're a virgin. Yes? Then you're not.

accually i have been in vagina once maybe two times. But this end up after couple of seconds, without any orgasm. So we decide with the girl never talk about it anymore. Considering it as a intercouse would be a insult. Second time it was long with different partner but my dick flatten, she was not my type and i felt stupid for it. Still considering it as an intercoyrse would be an insult.

So i dont know if am i or not a virgin. But i preffer to think about it like that because i never had orgasm with women and i do not need to tell that awful story about it.

 

[Wayfaerer]

Yes it is.

accually i have been in vagina once maybe two times. But this end up after couple of seconds, without any orgasm. So we decide with the girl never talk about it anymore. Considering it as a intercouse would be a insult. Second time it was long with different partner but my dick flatten, she was not my type and i felt stupid for it. Still considering it as an intercoyrse would be an insult.

So i dont know if am i or not a virgin. But i preffer to think about it like that because i never had orgasm with women and i do not need to tell that awful story about it.

You are 100% a non-virgin. Congrats!

33 had a few times sex with prostitutes in the past, now 7 years nothing.
I search love and cuddles, sex would be just a bonus. But the dating market is beyond fucked for men and i'm shy and introvert. I think its impossible for me to even get a honest hug.

You're lucky prostitution is legal where you are and is much less risky to engage in.

 

[Laststop]

Hugs,


i recently joined a dungeons and dragon role playing group where i am. just cause i use to love playing it as a kid. and sure enough there is about 20 guys in the
group. but also 5 single women who like me use to play it growing up and wanted to experience it again.

Marry me!

 

[Xaphous]

Skimmed through post, almost 30y virgin myself, no hugs, kiss, no love. No social life, isolated, also no job though. Had chances with multiple girls through apps but couldn't bring myself to meet them, any of them, mostly because im permanently isolated.... looked at escort choices, all trash in my area plus im broke. So yeah looks like ill die this way too. Absolutely shit life.

 

[Laststop]

As you can see, a lot of people agree sex isn't everything you're putting so much pressure on yourself for. And it's also not uncommon to not find the love of your life. But you still can. This tread has me thinking of all the times I tried, and was shot down. Also, the times I got someone to be with me, and screwed it up because of my mental/emotional problems. Actually, the last time I really let someone hurt me was over 20 years ago. One day I was in our public library using the Internet. It was (as we understand the Internet as it is now) a fairly new thing. People by and large didn't have computers at home, and those that did had to pay big for Internet in their own house. There was the fees for it, and those in my area had to pay long distance telephone rates for every minute they were online. But I'm getting all nerd nostalgic here. Anyway, next to me was a girl about my age, early/mid 20s. She ends up asking me for advice on searching for a person. She's good looking, so I spend some of my valuable time helping her. You only had an hour a day...but the nerd is showing again...sorry. Turns out she's trying to track down a guy from her past. My hopes are deflated, but I help her. We don't find any contact info, and both go outside together when our hour is up. We talk, and it turns out we have a lot in common. We both are living at home with family again, and being able to read the signs, she has issues like me.

Now I'm not one to use other people, but my inside already becoming empty at this age, I quickly stole glances at her body, and could see a wonder-land of sexual possibilities, lol. She sort of freaked me out though. Like I said, she had issues, and it showed with how she lost interest in him, and started showing a very rapid interest in me. She obviously was kind of a female version of me. There was a more real issue, like when we got outside she lite up, and I HATE smoking, and would never date a smoker. But the two things that hurt inside was that she reflected me back into my own eyes, and my situation in life, both in terms of being poor, and all the issues I had, both mental/emotional, and physical. In the middle of our outside conversation she said we should exchange phone numbers, and I knew by then I wasn't going to bring it up again if she didn't. When I left her to get in my car and drive away we exchanged pleasantries, but I could see on her face she realized I was leaving without exchanging contact info. I felt bad about that, and still do. I hope I didn't hurt her feelings. I drove home, and cried along the way. There was a mass of emotions, and it was hard to tell which was making me cry. Was it that I thought so little of myself I would throw away an obvious chance like that? Or that only someone messed up like I was would take an interest in me? And then there's the guilt I feel.

Because it was a lost chance I've lamented over the years for sex, and I both feel like a better person than that, but also feel like I can't love anymore, but the lesser part of my person would love to be in my early 20s again, and having sweaty sex with another early 20s girl. It could be argued we might have been made for each other, and might still be together now. To which I would say, "yeah, but you know how you can read things in the moment, at the time? Well I'm sure that's not the case. I could tell it would have been a mess." Well, I've been wrong about so much I can't say that for sure, now that I'm older, and see myself better. But I feel like I would have messed it up, and she would have too. Life is...well, like this....when you don't "have it together." One thing @PaYo...nothing against you....but when you're young it's hard to see where (and how) you're the issue sometimes. You speak about women kind of harshly. And there is a lot of reason for how you feel. I've felt that way. But it might help die down that fire in you to see what you bring to all this. It'll help even more if you find out what it is, and accept yourself despite it. I lost out in life in so many ways. But I did because of who and what I am. I find a little comfort in that. It helps me not be angry at people and things that aren't exactly the problem too.

Anyway, for anyone how read that, thanks for listening to my story. I never told the whole thing to anyone before.

 

[hunthunt]

Just get a couple of hours with a hooker dude Zn its easy and not that priicey either.

 

[Sammybackflip]

Yes it is.

accually i have been in vagina once maybe two times. But this end up after couple of seconds, without any orgasm. So we decide with the girl never talk about it anymore. Considering it as a intercouse would be a insult. Second time it was long with different partner but my dick flatten, she was not my type and i felt stupid for it. Still considering it as an intercoyrse would be an insult.

So i dont know if am i or not a virgin. But i preffer to think about it like that because i never had orgasm with women and i do not need to tell that awful story about it.

Wow. After 40+ posts Payo reveals to his thread (being a virgin in your 30s) that he is, indeed, not a virgin. He also has huge success with Thais (or he doesn't based on everything he has said). He was simply dicking everyone around so he could reveal his entire pathetic sexual history (two blowjobs, can't get hard with hookers, and has been in vagina maybe once or twice....really?!?!?) with everyone. A sort of fucked up exhibitionist. Also been a member for more than a year. Shit or get off the pot payo. Take your exhibitionist bs elsewhere.

edit-just had a good LOL re-reading payo's post. To rehash...he's been in vagina maybe once or twice...for a few seconds...but with no orgasm. Like seriously man?!? Quite shocking no orgasm after a couple of seconds. If the orgasm doesn't happen in seconds, you need to stop right then and there and open yourself up an account on sanctionedsuicide. Fucking troll.

 

[Wayfaerer]

@Laststop You could have dated her for awhile and gotten some poon out of it at the very least. Why did you not take the chance? Were you a virgin before that?

At the same time, she did sound like all sorts of crazy and you know what they say about crazy chicks...

 

[Laststop]

@Laststop You could have dated her for awhile and gotten some poon out of it at the very least. Why did you not take the chance? Were you a virgin before that?

At the same time, she did sound like all sorts of crazy and you know what they say about crazy chicks...

LOL. I'd very much like to be able to tell you I'm not the sort to regret that I didn't opt to get what selfish pleasures out of the opportunity I perhaps could have. But I'm not that noble. She had a pretty face, nice breasts, and bottom. You'd probably yell at me if I told you about the few times I turned down opportunities for such things. A couple stand out. The sort that some guys make up. But they really did happen to me. No reason to lie. After all, I'm admitting that my screwed up head made me turn them down. If I had it all to do over again knowing what I do now I'd like to think I'd "just do it." To hell with my fears, and messed up insides. I'd never intentionally hurt anyone though. Oh..and no, I wasn't a virgin.

 

[justanotherday]

From what i have heard it's overrated. I'm asexual and don't even crave intimacy at all, let alone sex, it doesn't even cross my mind. My sexual organs are pointless.

Me too... I am on the asexual side, especially the older I get. Sex is something I am not interested in. I have too many worries about how I am going to make it through each day.

 

[Laststop]

Me too... I am on the asexual side, especially the older I get. Sex is something I am not interested in. I have too many worries about how I am going to make it through each day.

My "junk" doesn't work like it use to. I can't even properly pleasure myself anymore. But I use to all the time. I still can, to a point. It's sad, and gross to talk about, so I will spare everyone. I kind of wish my mind would let it go too. To be done with it 100%. It's not like I'm going to need mojo anytime soon. The ladies are leaving me alone now, and have for years. If I could only get it out of my mind for good.

 

[blanketyblk]

Marry me!

Awww. i'm do get shocked that people don't think girls play dungeon and dragons.. i played it though high school. as i said was a nerd and hung out with the other rejects. learn to enjoy it. I'm a gnome male wizard called "twoshortbarrels" been playing him for years.. great fun! :-0)
and reading your history. you seem to have had similar issues with me in life. things just never quite worked out how you planned them to. anyone something came up at the wrong time and set things in motion.

 

[21Neberg]

Im 29 and soon ill be 30, and as you can imagine i am a virgine. I have never been with a woman, had bj twice and thats it.

Thats the partial reason for me to kill myself. I think i have no social skills, but as i know psychology it might be just believe - not true. When i was younger i had huge social skills. Now i just am surround with toxical people whos relation with me made me sick, on my body and my soul. I think im not atractive for most of the girls. Im pretty handsome so i dont know what it is all about, so maybe it just money? I dont know maybe you will tell me.

I dont want to live. Every time i was rejected by my friends i end up shoting in my basement from my rewolwer thinking how it is to shot with it in my temple.

Now im considering SN. It is peacefull i think. It would be great for me. But how is your love life. Are you fulfilled?

I don't think being a virgin is a good reason to dislike yourself, let alone to CTB. Just because you haven't been with a woman doesn't mean that you're any less talented or nice.

On the other hand, I understand how you feel. When I was a virgin I felt lonely because of it too. But the truth is, sex isn't important and having it doesn't make the world a nice place to live.

 

[PaYo]

I don't think being a virgin is a good reason to dislike yourself, let alone to CTB. Just because you haven't been with a woman doesn't mean that you're any less talented or nice.

On the other hand, I understand how you feel. When I was a virgin I felt lonely because of it too. But the truth is, sex isn't important and having it doesn't make the world a nice place to live.

Its not abot being a virgin. But having no friends and being alone.

Being a virgin is only outcome of that

 

[Laststop]

Awww. i'm do get shocked that people don't think girls play dungeon and dragons.. i played it though high school. as i said was a nerd and hung out with the other rejects. learn to enjoy it. I'm a gnome male wizard called "twoshortbarrels" been playing him for years.. great fun! :-0)
and reading your history. you seem to have had similar issues with me in life. things just never quite worked out how you planned them to. anyone something came up at the wrong time and set things in motion.

Yes. Things have always been bad, and recently have gotten worse. As for the nerd stuff, nerd/dork/geek...that's me. I was all that WAY before it was popular. I'm so old those labels were an insult for most of my life. I never thought I'd see the day when people would see it as cool. I both do, and don't, like it. It's cool that more people like the stuff I do. But it also kinds of takes away the identity of true nerds and geeks. And all the movies and shows they are in makes for an unrealistic portrayal. I mean, they always seem to have a group of friends, and somehow manage to get the girl/boy they want. When I was growing up I didn't have many friends. And those I did have when I was younger went off on stupid teen things everyone goes off on. I stayed pretty much the same. I've always liked the same things from when I was young. Well, until recent years. I can't seem to care about much of anything anymore. But @blanketyblk , on a lighter note, I was most attracted to the geeky/nerdy girls growing up. Remembering back to school I was always way more into the girl with glasses that was reading Stephen King over the popular girls.

 

[Sammybackflip]

Its not abot being a virgin. But having no friends and being alone.

Being a virgin is only outcome of that

Quiet payo. You may have inserted d into v maybe once or twice. Fucking dweeb

 

[PaYo]

He also has huge success with Thais (or he doesn't based on everything he has said). He was simply dicking everyone around so he could reveal his entire pathetic sexual history (two blowjobs, can't get hard with hookers, and has been in vagina maybe once or twice....really?!?!?) with everyone. A sort of fucked up exhibitionist. Also been a member for more than a year. Shit or get off the pot payo. Take your exhibitionist bs elsewhere.

edit-just had a good LOL re-reading payo's post. To rehash...he's been in vagina maybe once or twice...for a few seconds...but with no orgasm. Like seriously man?!? Quite shocking no orgasm after a couple of seconds. If the orgasm doesn't happen in seconds, you need to stop right then and there and open yourself up an account on sanctionedsuicide. Fucking troll.

you are a troll, you are using even colonel qotes from asm. for those who dont know colonel was the biggest troll in asm, and he destroyed that group.
if you consiidering put dick in vagina one or twice witout any effect as a successful coitus. then your sex life definitely is a heaven. chers on that.

and my success with thai comes to talking, only that. over the internet... so. yep thats right, im huge macho, so fucking macho.

 

[Eren]

I am not a virgin, but I have only been with a girl, and the only thing that helped me is to realize that I am not made for sex or for relationships, I would like to be able to maintain a loving relationship and have a normal sex life , but in my case it is impossible, it is one of my main reasons for ctb.

 

[Painted Bird]

Sex is so overrated. People are so obsessed with it while it's not worth it at all.

 

[Wayfaerer]

Sex is so overrated. People are so obsessed with it while it's not worth it at all.

The people who say that have no idea what it is like to go your entire life without.

 

[Painted Bird]

The people who say that have no idea what it is like to go your entire life without.

Thanks for proving my point and welcome to my ignore list.