Discussion anyone who have loved ones who ctb and left notes?

[meowzers3276]

tl;dr - if yes, did they leave a note? did it change your perspective on suicide notes and if so, how?

what do you personally think the best way to leave a word to your loved ones?

with that being said, i need advice on how to leave a note/final message or if i even should, coming from maybe someone whose S/O or family member ctb? do you wish that they left more or less after their death, when it comes explanation for their death? i dont know if i should keep it short or if my family and partner would appreciate having more to keep of my likeness. also, should i film a video where i speak, or is note/letter format ideal? i would think maybe they'd like to see me, but i am fortunate to not have had to witness someone else close to me ctb, so i dont know if that will be too much for them. (im not going to film my ctb, i will film a "note" video or voice message weeks beforehand and prepare it for them ahead of time.)

im mostly going to just say hey i hope you guys do good and plz cremate me, unless i decide to get all into the grime. but let me know, what do you think, from your perspective?

 

[GodChallengesMe]

I have long written a note and keeping it safe.

As for what to write, anything you'd like but most importantly, explain the reason why you are leaving and say that it's a personal decision and no one is involved. You just want to end it because of whatever reason you have and write the reason, that's it. No matter the reason, they will nevertheless be left saddened and guilty of not being able to provide help but it still matters to provide sound reasoning because after a while they will analyze your situation of why you did it when grieving becomes less intense, so if your motive involves fixable issues, they won't understand your decision and might even think you went crazy of doing this due to some fixable, transient issues be it relationships or financial difficulties.

I understand that some people might not have objective issues but still end their lives because of boredom or no longer wanting to live but unless one has no obligations to others it's their business when they end it, no matter the reasons. But, IMO, if you have loved ones who really care about you and you objectively analyze your problems and find them fixable, it would be irrational to kill yourself even if you're simply lazy fixing them and no longer want to bother here. They won't understand your decision in that case.

 

[meowzers3276]

I have long written a note and keeping it safe.

As for what to write, anything you'd like but most importantly, explain the reason why you are leaving and say that it's a personal decision and no one is involved. You just want to end it because of whatever reason you have and write the reason, that's it. No matter the reason, they will nevertheless be left saddened and guilty of not being able to provide help but it still matters to provide sound reasoning because after a while they will analyze your situation of why you did it when grieving becomes less intense, so if your motive involves fixable issues, they won't understand your decision and might even think you went crazy of doing this due to some fixable, transient issues be it relationships or financial difficulties.

I understand that some people might not have objective issues but still end their lives because of boredom or no longer wanting to live but unless one has no obligations to others it's their business when they end it, no matter the reasons. But, IMO, if you have loved ones who really care about you and you objectively analyze your problems and find them fixable, it would be irrational to kill yourself even if you're simply lazy fixing them and no longer want to bother here. They won't understand your decision in that case.

thanks!! i was planning on leaving some clarifying notes since my family are the type to point fingers, even in much smaller situations. this reinforces the fact that is definetly a good idea... haha

 

[wannabeangel]

i dont know the best way as i have been trying to think of the best way myself, but this one guide helped me quite a bit https://archive.ashspace.org/ashbusstop.org/Note.html this seems quite well thought out about dos and donts. notes are such a personal thing tho, the best way its written will be different for everyone

 

[meowzers3276]

i dont know the best way as i have been trying to think of the best way myself, but this one guide helped me quite a bit https://archive.ashspace.org/ashbusstop.org/Note.html this seems quite well thought out about dos and donts. notes are such a personal thing tho, the best way its written will be different for everyone

thank you!!