Would you share this site with a friend?

[ceilng_tile]

I have a friend who's in a shittier situation in life than I am. She and I have frequently discussed our desire to ctb if things didn't get better. In my situation, there is a very slim chance that it will get better but in her case, the chances of things working out are even lower. (She was horribly screwed over by an organization and it completely ruined her life.) She has some things in motion that might give her some closure and a potential new avenue, but these things have been dragging on for a few years and progress is slow. She is very discouraged and for the last few weeks has been talking about going to Canada to get MAID. (Which definitely won't be as easy as she thinks, and she would probably get rejected anyway because her only medical issues are related to mental health.)

I found this site a couple years back but haven't told her about it. My philosophy on other people's suicidality is "I will respect your decision and won't actively try to stop you but I also won't actively encourage or help you do it." I don't want to unintentionally push someone to ctb unless I know it's 100% what they want. Also, I want to give her a chance to see if the things she has in motion finally pan out. (If they do, she can finally speak publicly about what happened to her so she won't feel so alone and unheard. Also, it might help her secure some kind of a future since most of her prospects have been destroyed.)

If those things do not pan out in her favor and she continues to be suicidal, I might mention this site to her--not because I think she should ctb (which is not my decision to make), but because I think this community would understand what she is going through and help her make an informed decision. (Right now, I don't think it would help her much because she is unable to discuss the details of what happened to her. If anything, it might just influence her to ctb prematurely.)

What are your guys' thoughts on sharing this site with other people?

 

[sourcherry]

personally i wouldn't.

if she was already actively researching ways to CTB she would have stumbled on this site eventually. i think there are good things about this site but some parts of it act as an echo chamber and i think its dangerous for people who are impulsive/can't fully think out their decisions.

 

[thelostautistic]

Absolutely not

 

[rawr]

If people search deep enough they will eventually find it. I'd never share it if they don't know about it. This is kind of a hell hole where if you once visit it you can't forget it, I'm way more willing to share info from it like which methods to not do.

 

[ipmanwc0]

I would and have

 

[Chronical_Suicidal]

Yes, if someone told me that was ready to end things.

 

[Wolff603]

not without getting a few odd stares and "I knew it" moments

 

[isthisit?]

I have, Ill get back to you on how good of a decision that was.

Disclaimer:
Tsau dami

 

[anorexiakilledme]

Besides the legal trouble you could get yourself into for showing this site to someone and they end up killing themselves, I feel the mere mention of this site irl is taboo. If you're determined enough you're bound to find this place, took me like 2 days of looking around for methods and forums to come across it.

 

[Eriktf]

Absolutely not

 

[MephiticShadow]

Nope

 

[Passenger4224]

Imagine your friend is already on the site

But yea no, bad idea

 

[Cauliflour]

jesus christ No!

 

[raineen]

well, i found this website through a friend, and i only ever lurked without an account, which sometimes made me wish i had never been shown it, but what is done is already done, but no! do not show them this site, no. i wish i hadn't, but now it's too late

 

[DoomedDarkCircles]

No. I wouldn't support my friend to commit suicide just because I'm suicidal too, I would help them (in the way I could) to get better

 

[Forever Sleep]

I started to once but then, immediately regretted it. As it turned out, they didn't like the sound of online forums anyway. It wasn't so much to instruct them how best to kill themselves. It was more that they vented about stuff a lot and I thought they might benefit from having a wider community to vent too. When I started considering though that they could also use it to find a method to die- I regretted having mentioned it. I think ideally, it's best if a person finds their way here organically.

I suppose if you are sure they won't get better and want out, you could casually mention the place- if you're discussing suicide anyway. I imagine then- it's more up to them on whether they press you for the details.

That said- if they are found to be eligible for MAiD- I would think that would be the better option anyway.

 

[SoLowHollow48]

And get the feds on my door? Not a chance.

 

[Macedonian1987]

Since I never had a true friend in my life in a hypothetical scenario I would share this website ONLY if I knew for certain that my friend is suicidal and he's planning to ctb by some violent method. This forum offers many advices for a less violent methods.

 

[fishperson]

Absolutely !
This website did much more good than harm to my mental state.
I actually wish i found it much earlier on.
It even made me wish I could try again.
But now its too late.

 

[Tautochrome]

Obviously, I'd advertise it to everyone like a desperate street vendor

 

[madmanbadman]

Nope
But i knkw like its probably for both a selfish and selfless reason

 

[Slipknot_XV]

No.
Coincido con otros en que no se puede compartir esto con todo el mundo, y si lo buscan, probablemente lo encontrarán.

 

[owo]

obv no

 

[cluefixphantom]

Have no friends lol. But once, I wrote in a german forum that the site exists because a user there had asked about CTB, but the post was censored by the site owner soon. Many online platforms don't allow direct mentions that CO or SN are methods that might help to die. They always come with "go to a therapist". It's very sad that this harmful system has so much money to push their agenda everywhere. Psychotherapism is a big rich cult, even worse then Scientology, Jehova. The people who support this system are mostly Nazis, come from rich households or at least middle-class, imo. And the whole medical industry is a big scam.
For example, I currently need ear drops for wet earwax. I probably have frequent infections because I genetically have wet earwax, and the moist environment can promote infections. Then you're just stuck alone at home with it. You need a prescription, but I can't get to a doctor and the doctors in my area are discriminating towards poor and disabled humans. The system constantly obstructs people like me because wealthier people have decided that certain medications require a prescription. So I can't access anything, I also got no care assistance I'm still onky alone and can do nothing, also because of poverty. And there is no compensation for that. Two irresponsible people are simply allowed to have children, and then the child is left to fight for itself until death.

 

[SASU-KE]

I would. I have a very close friend who's in a very good job and earns well. However, he's miserable as all hell, works almost all the time, and somehow got himself into a lot of debt.

He recently messaged me on WhatsApp and asked me hey I just can't do this much longer. Do you know what's the easiest way to take myself out?

I thought this was just one of these 'God just kill me already' kind of exclamation statements that people make when they're stressed.However, he was genuinely considering this for quite some time. I opened up about myself feeling the same way for a long time as well. We had a discussion but I never brought up this site.

If he keeps broaching the subject, I will eventually mention this resource. I feel the site is important for people to better understand depression and suicidal tendencies. I consider this place a haven for recovery as well, not just a repository of information to end one's suffering.

 

[elenaboo25]

I have found this site because somebody shared it with me. But I don't think I'll pass it on. It can be dangerous, and I can't take that kind of responsibility.

 

[leoneliona]

I would only mention it vaguely, and I wouldn't send it in any messages/phone calls just because I'm paranoid about legal liability.

 

[vinicuit]

i'm in a similar situation, i have a suicidal friend (one of my closest friends tbh) and his life is kind of miserable, he has no desire to keep on living, and he talks about that for years now, he tried to ctb as a teenager and now as a grown adult he still thinks about it...

i don't think i can share this site because even if i respect his decision (and want him to find peace) i wouldn't be able to live my life knowing i encouraged his death, it would eventually kill me with him