Discussion Will you leave a goodbye note?

[flank]

no, i hate my whole family and i have no friends.

 

[zoyam]

Originally planned to in the past, then deliberated between yes, no, maybe, and then recently, back to no. I don't plan on leaving a note because of the extra effort, time, and energy expended to do so would not likely change what others' think of me. They already have their preconceived (inaccurate and oftenly wrong) opinions about me and my reasons so my note isn't likely going to change it. They will be mourning and grieving no matter what so regardless of what I say, it's likely they will either dismiss or misinterpret it, thus no point in doing so.

Totally agree

 

[sasshimi]

I learned the hard way and it got me institutionalized for the majority of this past month. Leaving note(s) I find just alerts everyone to stop you from ctb. As a result, my ctb was delayed and nowadays I have to be careful of the things I do and say to people. It's best not to leave any closure if you decide to go through with it. Ensure that it is ultimately your decision and there arw simply no other prospects to change your choice.

 

[xLosthopex]

I had a big one written out in a notebook but recently binned it and rewrote a much shorter one because there's no amount of words that can actually accurately convey and articulate everything I'd want to say in order for others to fully understand my reasoning for ctb, so there was no point
So I just wrote a short one for my parents to let them know how much I love them and to not blame themselves for anything, as well as a few funeral/general post-ctb instructions

 

[FuneralCry]

Yes, I plan to, but only for close family members. It will say 'theres nothing you could have done and 'now I am free from suffering and I am at peace'. It will act as closure and it will give them some understanding as to why I have done this. I think without the note, they would be left with unanswered questions.

 

[Chockles]

I've written a fairly lengthy note for my elderly parents I mostly blamed my physical health as don't want mum in particular feeling guilty for adding to my anxiety over the years. Said it's not their fault, they can see how badly I'm suffering etc etc.
I keep changing it but that's my final one now. I'm done in can't write anymore. Hopefully my ctb method will arrive next couple days & I'm out of here.

 

[Ch92921]

No I give a fuck about this existence.

 

[Idontmatter]

I am going to write one to my husband to say goodbye and I'm sorry.

 

[gayscal3xo]

it feels weird to not say some things to people before i go, without doing it right before, a note or letter is fitting in a sense.

 

[Brayu]

I... could, yes could

but I won't

 

[blueclover_.]

I will. My mom is abusive and i'm toxic, so i want her to feel the same amount of trauma she gave to me. Whatever.

 

[Ren Elsie Jewelria]

Not leaving any note, no way. Perhaps some ominous drawing on the wall of my room signed "Fu*ck this sh*t".

 

[Josuyo]

Probably not. I wouldn't know what to say. I don't really want people blaming themselves for it but I can't lie and say I don't feel like I haven't been bullied and fucked around so much that I've been driven to it

 

[Death is your gift]

This is a question I ask myself a lot. I think that as the fear of dying itself, the impact on your relatives may be one of the strongest thing that keep you away from ctb. I know for sure it already dissuaded me in the past. In some way it is not fair... If we consider that we should live for ourself first, but I guess it is a natural feeling.

I decided to let my relatives know about what I will do when the time comes, so that they are not being left in uncertainty about my fate.

Regarding the content of the note itself, I thought about explaining a lot of things, but now I am thinking that most of my relatives know about my depression and my suicidal thoughts, so what is the point in explaining. They do not fully understand now (and I do not blame them for that), and it will not change when I'm gone... And somehow I think it must be hard enough to learn that a son/cousin/friend/coworker has passed away, so maybe leaving a long message with explanation of things they already know would be absurd.

A short message to explain that it was supposed to happen someday, and that I love them and thank them for loving me and being supportive all these years should be enough.

 

[Ch92921]

No