Discussion Whats the worst thing someone said to you?

[Baskol1]

Platitudes are often useless, but most of the time well intentioned. But then there are people who treat people with depression or similar illnesses like shit. What is the worst thing someone said to you, because of your problems in life? What was the most hurtful comment youve ever heard?

 

[eve2004]

After my husband died of cancer when I was 37, a « friend » called and offered condolences and all and asked if I regretted not having kids or freezing his sperm to have them after he died... WTF?!?!?!?!?!?! Seriously?

 

[Pistolero114]

After twenty years together; "I don't love you anymore".

 

[Zer0]

Few years back the only person I could trust called me toxic. It hurt me because I'm sure he was being 100% honest.

 

[deflagrat]

The worst stuff is imaginary (voices), but it has happened many times. Before that, I was bullied when I was a teenager (I don't even remember anymore).

 

[Oblivion Lover]

"You can be anything you want to be"
One thousand crushed dreams and hopes later I realized this was a lie. It would've spared me from a lot of suffering if they were honest with me when I was a kid and told me to not have any expectations from this life.

 

[coma-baby]

My parents have been miserably living together since they were first introduced to each other as step siblings in the 80's.
My mother has BPD and knows what to say to cut people deep when she sees fit. (Obviously not everyone with BPD is manipulative or mean, but due to her cycle of acting out versus acting in, she's gotten a real hang of shit talk and insults.)
She was upset with my dad in this moment. They were fighting and she wanted to say something to hurt him, but used me as a part of her insult.
I was playing a video game. I was eight years old and I was just sharing a fun moment with my dad. I made some smart ass remark in the way that kids do because they hear adults talk like that and think it's cool.
So she looks at my dad and said, "She sounds so much like Pat, it's disgusting."
Pat is my dad's father. At this point in my life, I was still another seven years away from even meeting that man. I had no idea what she meant. I just knew in that moment that my mother thought I was disgusting because she said so herself.

I think about this moment fairly often. Not all of my problems stem from this one moment, of course. But it's one of those moments that echo inside of your skull when you're trying to sleep. Someone that's supposed to love you unconditionally uses your existence as fodder for an argument. Someone that's supposed to adore you calls you disgusting to your face, pretending that you aren't even able to hear it.
It was a split second, less than ten words, but it still shatters me when I remember it at direly low points.

 

[?Death?]

You have a small dick.

 

[eve2004]

My parents have been miserably living together since they were first introduced to each other as step siblings in the 80's.
My mother has BPD and knows what to say to cut people deep when she sees fit. (Obviously not everyone with BPD is manipulative or mean, but due to her cycle of acting out versus acting in, she's gotten a real hang of shit talk and insults.)
She was upset with my dad in this moment. They were fighting and she wanted to say something to hurt him, but used me as a part of her insult.
I was playing a video game. I was eight years old and I was just sharing a fun moment with my dad. I made some smart ass remark in the way that kids do because they hear adults talk like that and think it's cool.
So she looks at my dad and said, "She sounds so much like Pat, it's disgusting."
Pat is my dad's father. At this point in my life, I was still another seven years away from even meeting that man. I had no idea what she meant. I just knew in that moment that my mother thought I was disgusting because she said so herself.

I think about this moment fairly often. Not all of my problems stem from this one moment, of course. But it's one of those moments that echo inside of your skull when you're trying to sleep. Someone that's supposed to love you unconditionally uses your existence as fodder for an argument. Someone that's supposed to adore you calls you disgusting to your face, pretending that you aren't even able to hear it.
It was a split second, less than ten words, but it still shatters me when I remember it at direly low points.

As Winnie-the-pooh said: « sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart ». In this case in a bad way...

 

[HGL91]

I can't remember every horrible thing someone has said to me, but as of late, my 2 female cousins that I grew up with, that were like older sisters to me, told my (ex-boyfriend/long distance boyfriend/it's complicated) behind my back that they didn't want to hear from him and that they weren't close with me anyway. :( :( My heart was in my stomach when he told me that!!

Spending holidays, birthdays, family vacations, deep discussions and support for about 27 years isn't being close?!?

 

[blanketyblk]

over heading people calling me weird and strange at work. still hurts :-(

 

[Slate128]

"Don't say anything about suicide if you don't know what you're talking about"

After a 10-year history of suicide attempts...

 

[Mr2005]

"MorbidAngel never liked you"

 

[EmptySteph62]

After telling my mom how I was feeling and that I needed to go to a hospital on Christmas day when I was 13, her bf responded with "why don't you keep it to yourself and not make the rest of us upset about it. Just go do it then" talking about suicide.

 

[eve2004]

After telling my mom how I was feeling and that I needed to go to a hospital on Christmas day when I was 13, her bf responded with "why don't you keep it to yourself and not make the rest of us upset about it. Just go do it then" talking about suicide.

Wow.

 

[ScorpiusDragon]

"I care about you" *then ghosts me*
^said by a bunch of IRL "friends" after they found out I was suicidal

 

[iiii5555]

"You're Crhisthian now, son. Oh, and stop behaving that way, people could think you're one of those disgusting homosexual."

 

[Morphinekiss]

"You make it impossible for people to love you long term."

 

[PDAnnie2610]

"Please go ahead and die"
"Go fuck your friend"
"Why do I even bother to give birth to you"
"You deserve to be bullied"
"There she goes (crazy) again, just ignore her"

Plenty more, these are just some off my head that I heard over the years. And all from family.

"Whore, pig," - childhood bullying in school from school mates.

"Look at all these women here, do you think they behave like you did?" When I made the mistake of sharing about being intimate with a guy to a church senior

"There's only so many times we will save a cat that's stubbornly trapped in the tree" - from my high school teacher.

Someone wishing me happy birthday on my birthday, and then ghosting me and blocking me on WhatsApp 12 hours later.

 

[MeltingHeart]

'don't ever have children they f**k up your life' ...to me as that child & 'your father doesnt give a shit about you' ... which I didnt want to believe...but had to admit was in the end pretty much true...

& one thing I didnt hear once in a 5 year relationship 'i love you' ....I know i was stupid - I should have left them- im not the sort of person that needs or would want to hear that daily or all the time, but retrospectively not being told that once over that length of time..is kinda not ok and should of rang alarms bells really...

 

[trynacbt]

"All I want is to see my daughters happy. That's all I ask for. Is that really so much? How is it that my life has ended up here?"

My 70 year old, widowed (to suicide) father, on his two depressed daughters. He truly expects nothing of me but serenity, and I cannot even give him that.

 

[deadalready1969]

My father told me he hoped I ended up living in the streets when I left my abusive ex-husband.

My father told me to stay and deal with it because my ex was a good provider for our family. Never mind my or our children's safety. I was then disinherited because I wouldn't reconcile my relationship with my father after he said that and other terrible things to me.

He's a cause of my severe PTSD. I've been no contact with him for years.

 

[Spock87]

Get over yourself and grow the fuck up

 

[Santiago]

They told me they loved me

 

[BrokenAngel8]

"You are trash. I dated you because I was pity you, but then my friends keep making fun of me for having such a low standard."
-an ex bf in highschool, around 2 yrs after breaking up, but still in touch with him at that time for helping him make any romantic progress with my chairmate-

I've forgiven him long ago. We even started hanging out again as friends, he got a longterm gf, I did had a longterm bf around the time we started hanging out again, but I can never forget the hurts and damage he caused back then. He knews he was wrong, he tried to apologize many times and he still guilty until now (from what he said), but I also told him that I need time to heal. I loved him genuinely back then, and what he said crushed my heart so bad. I broke up with my bf of 5 years earlier this year, and god it hurts so bad, but word wise, nothing top that literal trash talk from that ex. My mom also verbally abuse me during my childhood but I've come to peace with her, the damage is under conciousness so I cannot recall what she said that hurts me most.

"All I want is to see my daughters happy. That's all I ask for. Is that really so much? How is it that my life has ended up here?"

My 70 year old, widowed (to suicide) father, on his two depressed daughters. He truly expects nothing of me but serenity, and I cannot even give him that.

Your answer hits me home, but in my case it is my mom. Wish I could talked back to her, that my existance is just a prolonged misery for both of us. I wish you well, mate.

 

[RealLostSoul]

I honestly don't even want to talk about it because this one phrase still echoes in my head to this day... the worst thing in my life...

 

[metalchic_74]

I dated this guy last year. He texted me to kill myself nobody would care

 

[wiIIow]

before my first psychiatric hospitalization in high school, I had confided in my ex best friend (though he was romantically obsessed with me for years) my plan to end my life, in great detail. A few months later, we had had a falling out and I reached out at some point trying to make amends. Mind you, at this point I was harboring much guilt and was far from realizing how manipulative and abusive he was. Anyway, his response was along the lines of:

"I don't want to hear from you. This world would benefit from being rid of your poison. I wish, last year, that you had drawn up that hot bath; grabbed that razor; cut into your skin and felt the coldness overcome your body as you bleed out into the water.

Do not ever contact me again."

anyway, it took me years to finally escape this person. even then, a year after ghosting this dude, he made sure to send me a message just as I was beginning to get over the first phase of post-abuse trauma. I had even moved to a new town to escape the stalking and reminders. anyway - it read, approximately:

"hey, I just wanted to reach out and remind you that you really are terrible, and I hope that I never run into you or see your face again."

not as terrible as the former, but still enough to re-expose all of the right wounds and remind me that he was still there.

 

[MeltingHeart]

"All I want is to see my daughters happy. That's all I ask for. Is that really so much? How is it that my life has ended up here?"

My 70 year old, widowed (to suicide) father, on his two depressed daughters. He truly expects nothing of me but serenity, and I cannot even give him that.

to me that seems like the most beautiful and warm thing to say in the whole world...but I can see how to hear that given how you feel could be v.painful! was it yr mother that passed to suicide?

 

[LiftedOut]

"I've lost interest in you"