Discussion What would you like to know through suicide notes?

[Solek]

Suicidal people tend to avoid share their feeling and thoughts with others, and the reasons as to why are many. Some that I can think of are: fear of being stopped from their attemp, fear of people changing their behaviours towards you, etc. Because of this it is common to see notes being left before their death, or through other forms like forums, social media, etc. So my question is: what kind of questions you would like to be answered in this "note" if you were to know this person, kinda like a interview but they're already gone.

I will give some of own my suggetions:

• How are you feeling before the attemp?
• What made you go foward with it?
• Have you talked about it with anyone before doing it? If no, why did you choose to not do so?
• Have you considered any alternatives or options?

What about you?

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that writing suicide notes are a personal thing where people can share as little/ as much as they want, it's up to them but I guess for me the point of a suicide note would be so those left behind are less likely to be left with as many unanswered questions, and in a note I would explain what brought me to that point and say things like this is what I wanted and nothing could had made me feel differently.

 

[Solek]

I think that writing suicide notes are a personal thing where people can share as little/ as much as they want, it's up to them but I guess for me the point of a suicide note would be so those left behind are less likely to be left with as many unanswered questions, and in a note I would explain what brought me to that point and say things like this is what I wanted and nothing could had made me feel differently.

I've noticed you've been around this site for a long time, you don't need to answer me if you don't want to, but may I ask what has been keeping you here? I mean this world.

 

[LateForTheBus]

My note to my parents basically says why I'm doing it. (I have 2 previous attempts, so they are well aware of my battles with depression and other health issues.) I explain that I've held on for others' sake but am now putting myself first. And I tell them that I wish I could've left without causing them pain, and I am sorry about that. And that I love them.

 

[Solek]

My note to my parents basically says why I'm doing it. (I have 2 previous attempts, so they are well aware of my battles with depression and other health issues.) I explain that I've held on for others' sake but am now putting myself first. And I tell them that I wish I could've left without causing them pain, and I am sorry about that. And that I love them.

Them being aware of your previous attemps has made it harder to try again?

 

[WorthlessTrash]

My note will be what led me to decide to take my own life, why I decided not to try recovery, and to assure anyone who reads it that it is not their fault and it could not have been prevented. It's more or less what I would want to get out of someone else's note.

 

[Methuselah Fallen]

In years past when I've attempted, I always left super long, super wordy notes about all this and that. This most recent episode, I didn't even want to leave one at first. If I left one it was going to be short. A quick epithet to sum up my life; think the briefness of a period at the end of a sentence. At a certain point, I confided in the wrong person, and folks close to me found out how I was feeling. I told them the truth about what caused it, but the issue is that if I went through with it now, them knowing the reason - more specifically, folks knowing who was on my mind that led me down this path - I'm afraid they might want to blame that person. I love that person more than anything, and I would hate to know that blame might fall on them as a result. So now I've accepted that I have to leave some kind of note, in order to ensure that they are spared my family's wrath.

I'm over the theatrics, though. The stageplay of long wordy notes, the gruesomeness of a gunshot. Wish it didn't cost so much to set up a last will & testament with a lawyer, else I would do that and have them disseminate the information after my death - that my family can have my bank accounts, that I don't want a big fancy funeral, all of it. A shame, but it's not my choice, and it certainly won't be my problem any more.

 

[SpiderLink]

Suicidal people tend to avoid share their feeling and thoughts with others, and the reasons as to why are many. Some that I can think of are: fear of being stopped from their attemp, fear of people changing their behaviours towards you, etc. Because of this it is common to see notes being left before their death, or through other forms like forums, social media, etc. So my question is: what kind of questions you would like to be answered in this "note" if you were to know this person, kinda like a interview but they're already gone.

I will give some of own my suggetions:

• How are you feeling before the attemp?
• What made you go foward with it?
• Have you talked about it with anyone before doing it? If no, why did you choose to not do so?
• Have you considered any alternatives or options?

What about you?

Not exactly sure, I'd kinda know the reason in some way, because I deal with it. But for me, I'd want to make sure to explain as much as I can in my suicide notes because yeah, I don't want people left with unanswered questions and I'd do my best to let them know that it was never their fault and to tell them to read some parts whenever they r in doubt if they did anything wrong.

Them being aware of your previous attemps has made it harder to try again?

Well think about it, they will check in with u more and don't want u to carry through

My note will be what led me to decide to take my own life, why I decided not to try recovery, and to assure anyone who reads it that it is not their fault and it could not have been prevented. It's more or less what I would want to get out of someone else's note.

If u haven't tried recovery, then u should at least give it a shot. U never know until u try. Ik reaching out for help is hard, trust me I KNOW, I messaged my best friend about a lot of dark stuff and she called authorities and 3 police officers came to my house, if she wouldn't have done that, I wouldn't be here. And although I still don't want to live, im glad I got to hold on for a couple years.

 

[FuneralCry]

I've noticed you've been around this site for a long time, you don't need to answer me if you don't want to, but may I ask what has been keeping you here? I mean this world.

You do know that suicide isn't exactly straightforward in this anti choice society, maybe you live somewhere where you easily access an reliable method but that's not the case for everyone. I know that my account is old but suicide really is so unnecessarily difficult and complicated in this world.

 

[Disaster]

I want to tell the people know irl whom it may concern that I intentionally avoided giving any hints, and I wish we lived in a world where it could been discussed openly, but well, we don't. It's not their fault.
I want to say that I'm sorry and that I love them.
I want to say that I don't want a fancy funeral and basically do whatever works for you and helps you get through it, but if you want some hints/ideas/inspirations, here's a list of the stuff that could be nice. Feel free to skip any of them if it's inconvenient.
Then technical stuff regarding the belongings etc. Also basically "whatever works for you, don't make it too hard for you".
I would like to include something like "Protect my privacy and dignity if possible, unless doing something that would make me cringe would make you feel better." - but I have no clue how to word it right
Basically, "please do whatever will help you cope, grief is a bitch and I'm sorry for causing that in anyone".
I would prefer the people close to me to not share the info that I ctb with more distant acquaintances, but I also don't want anyone to be troubled with a "dark secret" thing I guess, so I haven't decided yet. I haven't decided yet, and I would appreciate some hints how to word it.

 

[Janine]

I myself wouldn't share a lot of information if any at all, it wouldn't hurt for my death to be classified an accident. If I ever took the decision to go through with it, I'd let people know that there was nothing they could've done and should just keep on living as they didn't care when I was alive anyways. Apologies are definetly an important part, I wouldn't want anyone to feel guilt or depression because of me.

 

[LateForTheBus]

Them being aware of your previous attemps has made it harder to try again?

Yes, because I saw the pain that my last attempt caused them. I do love them and hate to put them through that, so I've been hanging on longer than I've wanted so as not to do that to them. But it'll be my time very soon.