What would you do in this situation

[fantastic_unicorn]

If you're very chronically sick with physical disabilities that you think are not worth continuing your life for, allows no joy, no ability to do the things you love, confines you to the house unless you exert yourself thru agonizing pain, no medical professional can help, no meds help, can't find new meaning, making you a bitter jerk, a very helpless situation, etc. leading to severe depression..

Would you tell your loved ones what you are doing or hide it to the end? Is it person dependent? I don't even know how to get a read on the person and what their point of view could possibly be. I have read several books that say to disclose it to loved ones and the ones that are close to you.. but this is more elderly people terminally ill. What if you're young but helplessly sick? I can't see how I can do that gracefully.

 

[Little_Suzy]

Who is your support system?

 

[halleyscomet]

If you do have loved ones who genuinely care and support you, I would tell them. There's always the risk of being forced into treatment, but I wouldn't want to blindsight them with my death yk? But that's just me personally.

 

[fantastic_unicorn]

If you do have loved ones who genuinely care and support you, I would tell them. There's always the risk of being forced into treatment, but I wouldn't want to blindsight them with my death yk? But that's just me personally.

Yeah this is how I feel too but it's a very conflicting feeling

Who is your support system?

I have a huge support system with family and a ton of people behind me and here for me. But my situation is unbearable for me to tolerate physically let alone mentally as well

 

[rozeske]

It depends. Telling can be beneficial to you or even them if you believe they would support your decision and help you end your suffering, if you believe it can help them prepare psychologically for what comes next. But if this disclosure is only going to upset and worry them with no idea how to handle the news or if it's going to endup further adding stress to you or endup in a psych ward, better keep it to your self.

 

[fantastic_unicorn]

It depends. Telling can be beneficial to you or even them if you believe they would support your decision and help you end your suffering, if you believe it can help them prepare psychologically for what comes next. But if this disclosure is only going to upset and worry them with no idea how to handle the news or if it's going to endup further adding stress to you or endup in a psych ward, better keep it to your self.

Very true

 

[Oliver]

If I was in a similar situation to the guy in "me before you", I would definitely tell my family, because even though they might not agree and be very sad with my decision, they would at least be able to sympathize with me. However, if it's a psychological issue, it's a whole other story. I think most people would not be able to understand you, and they would most likely do everything in their power to change your mind, so I really don't see the point in that.

 

[Raindancer]

I have a huge support system with family and a ton of people behind me and here for me. But my situation is unbearable for me to tolerate physically let alone mentally as well

Do they know the degree that you are suffering? Have they said anything along the lines of I do not know how you do it with all you have to deal with? What is your personality like, the type that struggles through anything? I guess I am asking to see if they have any idea how bad it is for you. If not it might blindside them. If they do and can relate or understand that kind of suffering it may not.

 

[fantastic_unicorn]

Do they know the degree that you are suffering? Have they said anything along the lines of I do not know how you do it with all you have to deal with? What is your personality like, the type that struggles through anything? I guess I am asking to see if they have any idea how bad it is for you. If not it might blindside them. If they do and can relate or understand that kind of suffering it may not.

Yes. I feel like one particular person, very very close to me, has halfway given me the green light without directly saying it after seeing how badly I've been struggling. I usually overcome any challenge I'm faced with since I've always been physically able to but I just can't do anything about this because it's out of my control

 

[TheGoodGuy]

I´m in a similar position suffering from chronical physical and mental illnesses that have confined me to my apartment for 10 years, this is mostly due to my physical illness which makes so I can´t live life as I want to and no I wouldn´t tell it or rather I would love to but I know I will get no blessing to off myself mostly because of my age because if I was a senior citizen I think I would be met with more understand. But I do think about it a lot that if I told my parents about it then even if they didn´t give me their blessing to ctb then I am sure they can see how much I suffer and have suffered for so many years while no doctors can cure or even treat my illness and that isn´t a life for a person I feel like I am just a shell of the person I once was.

 

[strangelife]

I think that it is not necessary to talk seriously about suicide, but to say that it is not possible to live in such a state. The main thing is that all your loved ones understand that their fault will not be in your act, otherwise it will be even harder for them. To say that you are worthy to make your choice sometime.

 

[AkitoSad]

I've had a friend CTB without saying anything to me, all I got was a call after he had already left. He was suicidal and depressed, I did all that I could to help him with his thoughts without forcing any decision onto him. He never said anything to me even at his last moments, I thought I was one of the closest to him, he couldn't confide in with his parents or his older sister. For the longest time, I blamed myself for his death. Maybe if I forced him onto some program or perhaps something I could have done ( I still sometimes think about it ), he would still be alive. That was one of the few events that sent me spiraling into depression. The thought you could have saved someone very close to you is shattering. Although, I believe that a person should be allowed to choose his end, a lot of people don't. It's torture to not tell your loved ones. I'd rather have him tell me what he was going to because atleast then, I would be content.

 

[fantastic_unicorn]

I've had a friend CTB without saying anything to me, all I got was a call after he had already left. He was suicidal and depressed, I did all that I could to help him with his thoughts without forcing any decision onto him. He never said anything to me even at his last moments, I thought I was one of the closest to him, he couldn't confide in with his parents or his older sister. For the longest time, I blamed myself for his death. Maybe if I forced him onto some program or perhaps something I could have done ( I still sometimes think about it ), he would still be alive. That was one of the few events that sent me spiraling into depression. The thought you could have saved someone very close to you is shattering. Although, I believe that a person should be allowed to choose his end, a lot of people don't. It's torture to not tell your loved ones. I'd rather have him tell me what he was going to because atleast then, I would be content.

So sorry

I think that it is not necessary to talk seriously about suicide, but to say that it is not possible to live in such a state. The main thing is that all your loved ones understand that their fault will not be in your act, otherwise it will be even harder for them. To say that you are worthy to make your choice sometime.

Yes I definitely agree with this

 

[Raindancer]

Yes. I feel like one particular person, very very close to me, has halfway given me the green light without directly saying it after seeing how badly I've been struggling. I usually overcome any challenge I'm faced with since I've always been physically able to but I just can't do anything about this because it's out of my control

That is good you do have someone who understands and also goes as far as to put your feelings first. I am in a similar situation regarding health issues and pain. I have actually spoken about CTB with my father and got a very measured and controlled response. I can't go as far as to say if I did it while he is alive that it would not crust him. But he very much understands. He opened the door when we were putting my dog down, he came to be with me for support and it was so quick, painless and peaceful, literally was over in about 5 seconds and he said why can they not do that to us. So I knew he felt that way and felt it was OK to broach the subject.

I too have the personality that I will fight tooth and nail to get through or finish something, but this health stuff has broken me so I understand where you are.