Discussion What is the most meaningful physical contact you've ever made?

[Toxinebulaic]

What is the most meaningful physical contact that you've ever made with another person?

For me, it was the first time that I slept with me ex. It's really cliche and I kind of hate myself for that, but for a second there I felt like an entire human being. For the hours that I was in that bed I actually felt as though I had somebody who cared. Doesn't matter, though.

She doesn't love me anymore.

Eventually I found out that she never did.

 

[AInilam]

None. I often dream about being someone else, just to experience what it's like to love someone in a body I'm genuinely comfortable in. I wish I were model or superstar worthy, as superficial as it sounds, so that I can love with all my heart, be passionate and affectionate.

I hope the afterlife will grant me these things, it's a comfort and huge motivator to think that it will. I cannot stand the mediocrity, pain and failure of this body.

I'm sorry your experience with your ex led you to so much pain. I hope you find true love and will be able to heal in time, life is full of red herrings--it takes a lot of trial and error before you find the right one.

 

[passivethought121]

Leaning on a friend. When I was younger, I was close enough with some friends to lean on them when relaxing. Nowadays, I still have friends, but they have partners and/or we're not close.

 

[certified_idiot]

I'm autistic and touch averse, so I don't find physical touch to be that great. Whenever someone touches me, even if I like them, I just want to escape.

 

[koipu1337]

I've never been too fond of physical contact - poor libido contributed to my recent divorce. Just need to man up and end this

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I don't think I even made physical contact in my life yet.. which is kinda concerning I guess

 

[princejohnny]

I got a hug from my favorite person in the world. She is a musician and I flew to see her in concert about 3 months ago. During her show, she sometimes interacts with the crowd during a certain song. This time, she hopped off stage and came right over to me and hugged me. I had never felt so much love from someone. Best moment of my life. Not sure how I got so lucky.

In my normal life, I am extremely lonely and touchstarved, and I rely on this memory to get me through the tough days.

 

[depthss]

When I was a kid I had the flu and my mom lid down with me. I haven't had anything from anyone recently

 

[oddetoad]

Yep that's the cold harsh truth about this place .
Women don't give a shit about us .
They would throw us under the bus at first chance

It's one of the main reasons I want to ctb because I. Know I'll never be able to trust a woman in this hell

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Yep that's the cold harsh truth about this place .
Women don't give a shit about us .
They would throw us under the bus at first chance

In my case, it isn't even just women. It's everybody. I can't really blame anybody for throwing or wanting to throw me under the bus as immediately as they could as it's justified since I don't really have anything good going on for me to begin with

 

[oddetoad]

In my case, it isn't even just women. It's everybody. I can't really blame anybody for throwing or wanting to throw me under the bus as immediately as they could as it's justified since I don't really have anything good going on for me to begin with

So what you're saying is you think the women in this reality are above you?

I don't think I even made physical contact in my life yet.. which is kinda concerning I guess

Not in this reality

 

[LaVieEnRose]

When I finally stopped being more virgin than olive oil.

 

[doneforlife]

I am a germophobe. Touch averse.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

So what you're saying is you think the women in this reality are above you?

I'm saying a lot of people are above me, men and women included

 

[oddetoad]

I'm saying a lot of people are above me, men and women included

You need to work on your self worth

 

[Soc]

It's hard to remember but it must be with my ex wife. I've had a lot of physical contact with people but now it has ended. I don't really feel close to anyone now. I remember a time when things were different though.

 

[Leavesfromthevine]

I almost never get physical contact with people, I usually hate it unless it's a deep connection which I don't have with people.

I got hugged by some random girl a few weeks ago though and it was nice

 

[until death]

When I slept with my ex and got pregnant

 

[Stardustheaven]

I dont really know if meaningful is the word because nobody ive made a physical connection with is around now, but the few times ive taken psychedelics and made love to people are one that have stuck out in my mind. its funny because the more ive made love in my life, the less and less meaningful its became to me. now i get excited when someone just wants to sit down and share a coffee with me.

 

[リンさん]

I had a romantic partner that I was physically close with, but we didn't have much chemistry or love, ever. So things we did felt nice, but not amazing.

The most I've ever felt from another human touching me were hugs from my ex best friend. Somehow just hugging her was the best thing in the world. I also loved holding hands and touching her hair.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

You need to work on your self worth

It isn't to do with self worth. There are winners and losers and I'm a loser. I don't understand those who act like every person who speaks badly about themselves are being irrational and that they're actually better than what they say they are. That may be true in some cases but it certainly isn't true in all cases and those who say they are incompetent are.. truly incompetent. That's just life. Not everybody is special

 

[oddetoad]

It isn't to do with self worth. There are winners and losers and I'm a loser. I don't understand those who act like every person who speaks badly about themselves are being irrational and that they're actually better than what they say they are. That may be true in some cases but it certainly isn't true in all cases and those who say they are incompetent are.. truly incompetent. That's just life. Not everybody is special

I'm just saying you have a self defeatist attitude and if the afterlife is real like the NDEs testify on , then you're gonna let yourself get walked on by demons that may very well put you back here on earth reincarnating for an eternity

But I'm sure you would still defend your beliefs to the end it's just sad

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I'm just saying you have a self defeatist attitude and if the afterlife is real like the NDEs testify on , then you're gonna let yourself get walked on by demons that may very well put you back here on earth reincarnating for an eternity

But I'm sure you would still defend your beliefs to the end it's just sad

A self defeatist attitude? All I'm doing is bringing the fact that I'm incompetent to light. I will always lose and that's true regardless of my mindset so if acknowledging this makes me have a self defeatist attitude, all I can say is sure.

Me being incompetent to thrive as a human and always being a loser isn't really a belief. It's an empirical fact using the criteria of humans that were imposed on me since day 1. However, if you're referring to the whole afterlife thing as a belief, sure, what I believe happens after death (i.e. nothing except permanent non existence) is a belief and one I'll defend to the very end. That said, your version of an afterlife is just a belief like my version is and no amount of NDE anecdotes can change that

 

[oddetoad]

A self defeatist attitude? All I'm doing is bringing the fact that I'm incompetent to light. I will always lose and that's true regardless of my mindset so if acknowledging this makes me have a self defeatist attitude, all I can say is sure.

Me being incompetent to thrive as a human and always being a loser isn't really a belief. It's an empirical fact using the criteria of humans that were imposed on me since day 1. However, if you're referring to the whole afterlife thing as a belief, sure, what I believe happens after death (i.e. nothing except permanent non existence) is a belief and one I'll defend to the very end. That said, your version of an afterlife is just a belief like my version is and no amount of NDE anecdotes can change that

Reincarnation is real it's been proven without a doubt. I suggest you go read some studies that have already been done on the subject.

You clearly haven't done any research on this very important matter.

I recommend this video by Brett Stuart as well that further cements the idea of reincarnation

 

[carac]

A self defeatist attitude? All I'm doing is bringing the fact that I'm incompetent to light. I will always lose and that's true regardless of my mindset so if acknowledging this makes me have a self defeatist attitude, all I can say is sure.

Me being incompetent to thrive as a human and always being a loser isn't really a belief. It's an empirical fact using the criteria of humans that were imposed on me since day 1. However, if you're referring to the whole afterlife thing as a belief, sure, what I believe happens after death (i.e. nothing except permanent non existence) is a belief and one I'll defend to the very end. That said, your version of an afterlife is just a belief like my version is and no amount of NDE anecdotes can change that

Maybe you are a bit down on yourself but I get it, I am the same. I call it realism. When you try and try and get nowhere you have to accept your place. It's better than being dissapointed all the time.

The most meaningful contact I get is when a nurse touches my arm.

 

[Toxinebulaic]

I got a hug from my favorite person in the world. She is a musician and I flew to see her in concert about 3 months ago. During her show, she sometimes interacts with the crowd during a certain song. This time, she hopped off stage and came right over to me and hugged me. I had never felt so much love from someone. Best moment of my life. Not sure how I got so lucky.

In my normal life, I am extremely lonely and touchstarved, and I rely on this memory to get me through the tough days.

This is why I want to have the strength to be positive and nice to people no matter what.

Just one act of sincere kindness can get people through the toughest of times. I would know.

 

[Raindancer]

This is why I want to have the strength to be positive and nice to people no matter what.

Just one act of sincere kindness can get people through the toughest of times. I would know.

I agree. I understand how hard things can be and maybe I can do something small to make someone's day a bit better.

From certain circumstances, touch is very difficult for me. I remember when I first met my ex, I couldn't handle being touched. It took a very long time. But even then it was difficult and uncomfortable.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

My most meaningful physical contact hasn't happened yet. It will happen the second fresh carbon monoxide touches my lungs.

 

[Levia@than]

Probably the first time I kissed my partner. They are the most important person in my life and helped me get through a lot of shit. One day I was at his house and some demon came over me and I pecked their lips. It felt amazing and ever sense then we have been together. They are honestly the only thing keeping me alive rn.

 

[tvoisluga]

Hugging my mom, actually. I never could feel as connected to potential partners and felt nothing during kissing and shit because my ability to trust was severely damaged in early childhood. Hugging my mom after spending months of isolation felt so healing.