Discussion What if you met someone like you?

[dogemn]

What do you think would happen if you met someone who is very similar to you with the same kinds of struggles and experiences and you could talk openly with them about difficult topics like mental health and suicidal thoughts? Do you think it would help?

 

[ImpairedLowlife]

If we became good friends that would definitely be a good thing for my mental health. Probably could share some experience and useful tips learned through the years as well.
But having a good friend who you trust and could openly talk to/hang around with would definitely be the biggest positive.

 

[aphasiaabandoned]

If they somehow had the exact injury as me and lived close I think we'd probably still end up just making a pact to leave together. Complex medical problems don't just disappear, unfortunately.

 

[fadedghost]

 

[never mind me]

I had this experience when I was younger (late teens to early 20s). I was even lucky enough to have 2 different friends who had had very similar experiences and at least one of them dealt with them in a similar way as I did. It really helped me with recovering to be able to talk openly about what was going on in my head without being judged and without being worried that someone would get me sent away into psych ward.

 

[Grasp of darkness]

I think it would be great. I would even go as far that I'd like someone who thinks and is exactly like me, like a clone. Nobody truly understands you like you understand yourself, but with a clone that would be different. It would be someone you can be 100% sure of that you could count on. I think that is priceless.

 

[Kokonoe]

i did. she ended up absuing me and leaving.

 

[telekon]

A lot of religious people didn't choose to be religious and have experienced some type of psychosis that made them believe in the Bible. I just wanted to tell you that while you are allowed to be offended if someone says a gay person should be killed, outright advocating for hate and calling a mass subset of the population evil isn't cool. I used to be very religious and personally don't believe in gay or straight. I have studied psychology for many years and have a degree and all I can say is after some extensive research, we know that no person is born with a fixed sexuality. Sexuality is fluid. Religiosity also isn't something people choose just like you didn't choose to be gay. Advocating for the hatred or calling either thing evil isn't cool. When you boil it down, everything is evil. I can think of a reason why literally every single thing is evil, including humans. It's one of the reasons I want to kill myself.

 

[Give Up The Ghost]

I've met a few people who've been through stuff and had suicidal inclinations. Everyone's different, so firstly there is a fundamental way in which I feel I'm still misunderstood. Secondly, it's not healthy to create the foundations of a friendship purely on trauma-bonding. It can be tempting at first, but sooner or later you need something other than pure pain as a way of connecting with someone, otherwise you just bring each other down instead of raising each other up.

However, I went through a lot of my life feeling like no one else had felt this way. To meet people who have and to hear their stories can be a great comfort. For as unhealthy as trauma-bonding can be in the long term, in the short term it's weirdly healing. I'm glad for all the deep and meaningful convos I've had drunk at 3am with some similarly suicidal person. When I finally do go, it'll be one of the things I try to take with me, those moments of beautiful connection

i did. she ended up absuing me and leaving.

That's awful. I'm sorry that happened to you

I think it would be great. I would even go as far that I'd like someone who thinks and is exactly like me, like a clone. Nobody truly understands you like you understand yourself, but with a clone that would be different. It would be someone you can be 100% sure of that you could count on. I think that is priceless.

This is the thing. No one can be a complete clone of you. Everyone has their own story, and listening can be a window into another soul. As much as it's cathartic to hear about someone who's gone through the same experience as you, it can be quite healing to look beyond your own pain and recognise someone else's. That's why I'm glad places like this exist. When we share our experiences, we make the world a less lonely place

 

[fadedghost]

calling a mass subset of the population evil isn't cool

good thing i'm not trying to be cool

When you boil it down, everything is evil.

There's a term for this, and it's called moral equivalency. Religious people hating gays and trans based on imaginary religious stuff is not the same as my hating religious people for making life hell for many LGBT people, just like KKK members hating black people is not the same as black people hating the KKK.

 

[telekon]

good thing i'm not trying to be cool

There's a term for this, and it's called moral equivalency. Religious people hating gays and trans based on imaginary religious stuff is not the same as my hating religious people for making life hell for many LGBT people, just like KKK members hating black people is not the same as black people hating the KKK.

It's just that we're on a suicide website and some people believe in the Bible. Saying to all of them "you are evil and I hate you" could be the push people are looking for to blow their brains out. I just wanted to say to anyone religious or who believes in Jesus that you are not an inherently evil person.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Pro choice website.

Keep ontopic please. OP asked a question that hasn't got anything to do with religion.

 

[violetforever]

i have that right now with my one online best friend. we can talk about anything and our situations are similar but its not helping much. we ultimately still want and plan to die.

 

[thousandislandstare]

Man, there is a chance I would cry

 

[delinquentsandwich]

I've always wondered about what would happen
it'd probably feel very uncanny but then I'd maybe feel really sad for them

I'd like to be able to talk about things and have an understanding
I don't think anything would improve in the end considering I can't maintain any sort of friendship
might be nice? maybe not

 

[Ilfryth]

I already hate myself as is so from an outsider's perspective it should be 1000x worse

 

[hurts2b]

I met someone like that on here. And. Yes. It does matter.

 

[Passenger4224]

If it was someone struggling with similar experiences (not exact) I'd be friends but it really wouldn't have much of an impact on my mental health. As long as they are a different person than me it would be a decent friendship I guess.

If it was an exact clone of me, I would not be friends with him. I would cup my hands around my mouth and shout "LOSER!" I'd be the biggest bully he ever met.

 

[CleanGopher]

i did. she ended up absuing me and leaving.

Sorry to hear that, here's a kitty mwah

 

[dogemn]

i did. she ended up absuing me and leaving.

I'm really sorry you went through that, I can't imagine how terrible it must feel.