Discussion What do you do when you miss someone so much you just want to die?

[FadingSnowFake]

As per title. Just when I think it's impossible to miss a person more, I wake up this morning, and I do. How do you get through another day knowing tomorrow is going to be worse without this person? How is it possible to just get emptier inside when you are already empty inside?

 

[FadingSnowFake]

I appreciate it. And I want to say likewise with yourself, but it sounds like with moving so far away it could be difficult. So, I hope you find your happiness in whatever medium you find it.

I'm very much an "it is what it is" person annoyingly, but this hit differently. It's always refreshing to hear when someone else experiences the same thing - doesn't make you feel like such an idiot I guess.. I was advised by my therapist today to speak with my GP to get some sort of "help" such as anti-depressants etc. I've never taken anything like it before (if they offer it), but I'm unsure if diluting my feelings is the right thing to do. It's the same reason I don't take pain medication - if it hurts, it's hurting for a reason and I should feel the pain to know whether I'm doing too much.

But it's an option.

I think it's good be cautious of starting meds, as for me I don't think I would. Every case is different, but I think once in that cycle it may just get worse and/or be hard to get out of it. I already feel as if things are spirally but don't want to give the control I have left over to meds. I feel as if I need to stay focused, and don't want meds to interfere, if that makes sense. If the spirally gets worse or I lose more control, then I'd have to re-assess if there is anything left to hold onto. Scrolled upon this one right after I read your post:

 

[death over slavery]

Distraction. Bury them in my memory. Because I am able to not think about it, but cannot fully forget about her.

 

[outrider567]

Think about the things you appreciate about them and let that comfort you. Time will do the rest.

Time does nothing!

 

[NeoN0va]

You see, this happens to me quite often actually. I often have a very strong will to live (2 years and im still alive, yikes), but at those moments that i remember how much life wouldve been different for me if she was still here with me, playing games until the late night, fooling around and just living our stories, it does get really hard at times. In order to not CTB, I make up that perhaps she still is waiting for me somewhere, its just not the time yet. Perhaps we will be reunited? It really helps me deal with these episodes of nostalgia and emptiness.

 

[FadingSnowFake]

You see, this happens to me quite often actually. I often have a very strong will to live (2 years and im still alive, yikes), but at those moments that i remember how much life wouldve been different for me if she was still here with me, playing games until the late night, fooling around and just living our stories, it does get really hard at times. In order to not CTB, I make up that perhaps she still is waiting for me somewhere, its just not the time yet. Perhaps we will be reunited? It really helps me deal with these episodes of nostalgia and emptiness.

Thanks for sharing, I'm sorry for what happened and feel your pain. I also focus on a thread of hope we have to reunite, denying the current reality. It's better to daydream, better to remember and imagine a future than to forget, because he is still my lifeline in all the emptiness. I won't let him leave my mind, just the darkness gets very dark sometimes. I hope your story with her will still be continued.

Time does nothing!

Same here, I think it can even make it worse

 

[FadingSnowFake]

I think this is what happens. The day comes when we simply cannot function anymore without this person. It becomes too much to even imagine another day without them, because the emptiness inside has taken over, and with nothing remaining we have to end the torture.

 

[knowledgeseeking]

I'm sorry for your pain. May ask if this is a loss due to death or a breakup?

I woke up next to the love of my life dead in bed with me at the age of 43. No health conditions that we knew of. I woke up one night to pee around two in the morning and brushed up against their cold skin. I immediately knew something was wrong and I tried to get them up and called 911. I preformed cpr but there was no use, they were dead.

That was last January and I have wanted to die ever since. I don't sleep well and find little to no enjoyment or distraction from anything. I have tried both talk, psychiatric, and K therapy. The K therapy is the best, I have at least one hour I might find peace or relaxation.

Previous to them dying I have never had any mental illness. I can't say I was always the happiest but never had suicidal thoughts and at worst, short depression I couldn't pull myself out of. I am now a broken human.

For the first time in my life I was at my happiest and most optimistic. Not just because I had a partner I liked. I had those before and left because they just were not the one. I had found the one my soul belonged to in every healthy and loving way and they were taken from me.

I don't know if things will get better for you, but they haven't for me. I would encourage you to seek some therapy, because sometimes grief can become manageable. You owe it to yourself to find out, and you truly can not know until you try.

If this wasn't a death but a breakup, I would seriously encourage you to try to move forward. I believe that there is a match out there for all of us and it is a love that is not one sided. Do what you have to and find your match. It will be worth it and this heartache will be nothing more than memory.

My heart feels for you. Best of luck.

 

[FadingSnowFake]

I woke up next to the love of my life dead in bed with me at the age of 43. No health conditions that we knew of.

I'm truly sorry for your loss, there really are no words that can even begin to make it better. What happened is just terrible and the pain you must be in, unbearable.

Previous to them dying I have never had any mental illness. I can't say I was always the happiest but never had suicidal thoughts and at worst, short depression I couldn't pull myself out of. I am now a broken human

Same here, just it wasn't death, although it feels like it was. It also wasn't a breakup and it's not one sided love. It's an impossible situation we are in, and it's hard to hold onto hope or anything for that matter, as everything feels unreal, like it shouldn't have happened. I'm thankful that he is still alive, but our physical separation and ripple effects thereof has simply been too much for me.

Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate it. I can't grieve, because it's not over, but at the same time I'm grieving every lost moment. I guess I'll be in this dark pit of limbo until either my mind gives, or we can find a way forward.

I believe there is only one soulmate for us, and we will know this when we found them. I think this is what really gets to me too, is that one of us may pass without us being together.

Best of luck to you too, you are in my thoughts.