Venting Very tired vent

[Someplace_nice]

I don't get why I don't get the same treatment, I do so much for him but I don't get anything in return but a thanks. When he needs some plantain, (the weed not the fruit), on his sunburns I do it without a thought, when I ask for it he says he will tha doesn't. I reminded him that there was food if he was hungry, he didn't think my noises I make were for hunger pains when I fell asleep on him this morning. I give him massages but I don't get any in return even tho I have tense muscles. I remind him about stuff and when I ask him to remind me about stuff he doesn't. I've stopped expecting the same treatment that I give him, it still hurts tho. I even told him that I don't have to be forced up when he gets up for work every morning and to just let me sleep if I'm plum tuckered, he doesn't do it. Today was one of the morning where I couldn't keep my balance not eyes open. He got me up and let me sit with my starving pains, just to tell me, "Why don't you take your own advice and find something to eat." I still couldn't stand straight so no, I'm not gonna get something to eat. I was expecting him to ask and deliver but that's my fault. It's always my fault to think that I can have the same treatment and expect as much.

 

[theboy]

End your relationship
He doesn't deserve you

 

[LostWay]

Just writing this to let you know you don't have to immediately end your relationship to properly recover, if you don't want to, but it will probably be harder trying to stay in a relationship like that. I dont have a lot of experience with partners but I would try to establish something reciprocal, it could anything, but just something to get used to the idea of give and take. After enough time if he reciprocates add more things on top, if he doesn't then it might be time to include outside help or have a more direct talk. Most of all, mutual communication and emotional honesty is your end goal towards having a good relationship so if you think there's something emotional thats sabatoging the relationship that should be talked about too. Recovery in relationships isn't easy, so I'm sorry I don't have a lot of advice.

 

[attheend13]

I don't get why I don't get the same treatment, I do so much for him but I don't get anything in return but a thanks. When he needs some plantain, (the weed not the fruit), on his sunburns I do it without a thought, when I ask for it he says he will tha doesn't. I reminded him that there was food if he was hungry, he didn't think my noises I make were for hunger pains when I fell asleep on him this morning. I give him massages but I don't get any in return even tho I have tense muscles. I remind him about stuff and when I ask him to remind me about stuff he doesn't. I've stopped expecting the same treatment that I give him, it still hurts tho. I even told him that I don't have to be forced up when he gets up for work every morning and to just let me sleep if I'm plum tuckered, he doesn't do it. Today was one of the morning where I couldn't keep my balance not eyes open. He got me up and let me sit with my starving pains, just to tell me, "Why don't you take your own advice and find something to eat." I still couldn't stand straight so no, I'm not gonna get something to eat. I was expecting him to ask and deliver but that's my fault. It's always my fault to think that I can have the same treatment and expect as much.

I relate to your words. It's taken a long time and a lot of tears to start looking at reality. Giving constantly and not being able to count on anything. Love makes the truth hard to take. I have no advice, just wanted to say I heard you.