Unfulfilled sexual desires ruined my life

[woknows]

yeah i feel super flattered when a guy prioritizes his own sexual pleasure over my personal safety & health

No one is forcings you to have sex with that particular guy. But not sure why he should just cater to your needs only. If sex with condoms is rubish to a guy, he had a right to refuse it, period.

Overpopulation is the world's problem. Don't deny yourself something you want to save humanity. Let those who have too many kids solve the balancing problem, if they wish.

It is a problem exactly because no one cares to take some responsibility and do what they wish, no matter the consequneces.

 

[turningoveranewleaf]

I really regret not being sexually active when I was a young teen, now it feels like a burden and I haven't even hit 20 yet. Probably would've found out I was a lesbian much sooner that way as well lol.

 

[Ethereal Knight]

It's true sex is fleeting, but love is fleeting too. And when love ends there is a lot of pain associated with that sometimes enough to make CTB.

so true. it may take weeks, months or years, but the person will probably leave you or they will stay but the love will fade away, and the sex will probably become boring or even non-existent. relationships die. they basically have an expiring date, although it's unkown until the break-up comes.

there's some other threads (like this: link) talking about that. humans are probably not monogamous.

putting all your eggs in one basket by betting a human is gonna be "the one" is just too unrelistic, almost delusional, considering the harsh reality we refuse to see. that's oneitis.

it's sad to think I'm hungry for love, sex, touch and companionship, yet I know I'm destined to be alone - whici is a whole another story for another day, but sadly I am.

 

[Whale_bones]

I am not sure if 'unlimited, on-demand sex' could be considered a basic human need as I have sexual anhedonia alongside other types of anhedonia and I am barely able enjoy it. You simply get used to this even if it's depressing, just like with other things in your life. I wonder if I wouldn't want to kill myself if I didn't have anhendonia... I will never know. Also, the goverment in my country is actively trying to make prostitution illegal, so having money to spend wouldn't matter either.

And yes, even if you have little money you still can spend a small amount of it on recreational activities as a homeless person. I had a gaming laptop the whole time and I played with it on public libraries (free electricity) to attempt to make the whole ordeal less depressive, and it did make my life better. The laptop costs money, but it's a one time thing and it stays with you as long as it doesn't break, so it's not the same thing at all.

Honestly, I don't really think people would had enough money to do what you suggested even if they weren't poor, specially on SS where most people struggle financially. Your solution is not very realistic, that's what I am saying.

You're expanding my statements to apply to many different situations that they don't apply to, when I've stated over and over that the situation I'm addressing is when someone proclaims that sex is their number one goal in life and the most important thing to them. If my posts were vague and unclear, then sure, you could just come up with hypotheticals for various situations, but I'm extremely clear that this is the only situation I'm addressing. If someone says that sex (just sex, not deep intimacy, love, or a relationship in any way, but just sex) is the absolute MOST important goal to them, the thing they want most to achieve above all other things, it is illogical that they would then be willing to pursue and spend money on various recreational activities *before* sex. They're clearly prioritizing those other activities first. That's obviously fine, but if they continue to state that sex is their number one goal and claim they can't achieve it, it means there's some other reason, *besides* the aspect of cost, that they aren't going to a sex worker.

There are plenty of other reasons, such as stigma, nerves about the first interaction, simply wanting it to be someone they meet by chance, etc, but this conversation goes nowhere when none of that is acknowledged. If someone doesn't want to go to a sex worker, that's obviously completely fine. But over and over, this conversation happens and the person who's claiming they can't access sex *isn't* saying they don't want to see a sex worker; they're just proclaiming that access to sex is impossible for them. This is the entire premise of my posts; my posts obviously DON'T apply to extreme situations like homelessness, I'm responding to the people who say that sex is their absolute highest desire, that they have no way to achieve it, and are at the same time pursuing other desires first. I'm saying that in that situation, seeing a sex worker is a way to achieve sex that bypasses the issues of physical appearance, social status, etc. that can be barriers to achieving sex otherwise.

It's not completely devoid of all barriers, because yes, it costs money. But anyone who is deeply impoverished already likely doesn't have money for dates, transportation, clothes, or many things that are helpful or necessary to achieve sex otherwise. The common statement with this conversation is that things like physical appearance and social status are what stop people from being able to get sex; I've never seen anyone say that their number one goal is to get sex, they have a great physique, are great in social situations, and have everything else they need, but the one thing that is stopping them is lack of money. Seeing a sex worker bypasses nearly everything you need in regular social situations, and the single thing you need to do is pay.

 

[woknows]

It is funny how people make all sorts of arguments, but in the end, sex and procreation are be all end all. The number one objective of all life is to multiply and pass on genes to another generation, everything else is there just to support this one objective. It is no wonder that sex drive is so ingrained into our being. Of course, you are free to find other meanings in life, but evolution made sure that this is the number one priority for any normal member of any species.

 

[whatevs]

soon I will be 30 as a virgin.

Beat you to it.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

It is funny how people make all sorts of arguments, but in the end, sex and procreation are be all end all. The number one objective of all life is to multiply and pass on genes to another generation, everything else is there just to support this one objective. It is no wonder that sex drive is so ingrained into our being. Of course, you are free to find other meanings in life, but evolution made sure that this is the number one priority for any normal member of any species.

Now we face an interesting dilemma

If most of us follow this instinct it increases the odds of our species dying in a literal lake of fire

 

[SuicideBoys93]

The multiple funerals of friends I've attended who killed themselves. The last one hurt the worst. He was my gym buddy. Odd, working with him on a Friday and the next day around 11am in the gym parking lot I get a call that he took own his life after finding out his fiancé was cheating on him. That's why I never got the text back if he was meeting me at the gym that morning.

The anxiety/ptsd/insomnia from the military.

My ex-wife cheating on me while I was away on military business. I wanted to get out the military and start a family, and be around more. Now I'm out, and no family.

The monotonous cycle that is life.

I went into the military fine, and left fucked up in the head with a few injuries that required surgeries. Life is beautiful.

 

[Ethereal Knight]

And yours?

yes. I almost went completely mad because of sexual frustration.

I'm a nymphocel and honestly, I don't know how I'm still alive after all these years of constant deep frustration. when I think about sex and my painful lack of it, I instantly remember: I SHOULD HAVE KILLED MYSELF ALREADY.

 

[PressEnterToExit]

And yours?

I have the same fantasy since I'm a child, for me it's the only thing that makes life worth living. Love, passion and sex together. If you can't achieve this for your life, your life doesn't worth ir. Humans are made for what they are made. Everything else, is not necessary, but having the essential things is.

 

[makethepainstop]

No matter who you are, no matter how kinky you are, with 8 billion people on the planet, there is someone out there as kinky or even more so than you are. You just have to find him or her.

 

[eldiablo666]

No matter who you are, no matter how kinky you are, with 8 billion people on the planet, there is someone out there as kinky or even more so than you are. You just have to find him or her.

Wtf? What does this even mean lol
You value kinkyness over all? What's your definition of kink

 

[BlackWednesday]

Lack of sex and a fundamental inability to form or keep relationships of any kind have probably been the two biggest drivers for me.

No matter who you are, no matter how kinky you are, with 8 billion people on the planet, there is someone out there as kinky or even more so than you are. You just have to find him or her.

But how many of those 8 billion people are you likely to meet in my life? How many of those don't already have relationships? How many of those would not be too young/old to persue. How many of those would I find attractive? How many of those would find me attractive? The number quickly dwindles to zero

 

[makethepainstop]

Wtf? What does this even mean lol
You value kinkyness over all? What's your definition of kink

Some pious Christian types say gay is kinky, every one has their own definition of what is acceptable and what kind of relationship they want. My point was no matter what or who you like, there is someone on the planet who feels just like you. Some seek sex, some want love, some like romantic encounters.

Lack of sex and a fundamental inability to form or keep relationships of any kind have probably been the two biggest drivers for me.

But how many of those 8 billion people are you likely to meet in my life? How many of those don't already have relationships? How many of those would not be too young/old to persue. How many of those would I find attractive? How many of those would find me attractive? The number quickly dwindles to zero

I can speak from experience a few alcoholic beverages and or a few THC gummies can make the ugliest individual or look hot. Trust and believe, when I tell you this. As for older people a lot of them are a horny as double peckered Billy goats!

 

[Disappointered]

For males the absence of or failure to succeed in a suitable career essentially means they never became an adult male, so they're not men. It is extremely unlikely that someone in that position will be able to make a relationship go well even if they're in one. They exist as humiliated sub-human failures who are still haunting the world like hungry ghosts but without as much dignity. If they're lucky, their self-awareness will result in such an intense feeling of loss and worthlessness that their physical and emotional needs will start to dissipate. This process at least has the merit of minimizing any potential frustration by increasing the beaten down male's depression. That sad, cruel reality however, is that they may linger for years before finally being delivered from their miserable existence.