GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
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I would like to request of the mods that posts announcing the ctbs of other members not be allowed, only allowing goodbye threads posted by the members themselves or none at all.
Why?
- The choices to ctb and to participate on this forum are personal and private.
- If someone wants their ctb known to the forum, they have the option of posting. If they want it known only to individual members, they have the option of sending PMs. (However, if they announce it in chat and are okay with the information being publicly shared, such as for documenting SN, then there are multiple witnesses as to whether or not the member approved.)
- Some people bury the announcement of their ctb in an existing thread, such as in Offtopic, rather than create a goodbye thread. That is how they choose to leave the forum and I think their personal choice should be honored the same as their personal choices of how when, and whether or not to ctb.
- Unless the member posting about another's ctb screenshots the approval of the one who ctb'd, there is no way of knowing if they're being outed against their will, and they no longer have the power to defend themselves. Unless mods have prior access to the PM, there is no way of knowing if the screenshot is legitimate or photoshopped.
Most importantly:
- Even if someone does allow another member to publicly post the disclosure, it seems to me that it's more aligned with the pro-choice platform of the forum to announce it for oneself, or not at all. No one can ctb for another, encourage another to ctb, or research or plan their ctb for them; it is their own responsibility, and it is by their own self-determination that all these acts are carried out. Should not how they leave the forum also be their own responsibility and a self-determined act?
- SS posts are public. What happens on the forum does not stay on the forum. If someone is being cyberstalked and their ctb is announced, that makes the information public not only to members, but to non-members.
Why?
- The choices to ctb and to participate on this forum are personal and private.
- If someone wants their ctb known to the forum, they have the option of posting. If they want it known only to individual members, they have the option of sending PMs. (However, if they announce it in chat and are okay with the information being publicly shared, such as for documenting SN, then there are multiple witnesses as to whether or not the member approved.)
- Some people bury the announcement of their ctb in an existing thread, such as in Offtopic, rather than create a goodbye thread. That is how they choose to leave the forum and I think their personal choice should be honored the same as their personal choices of how when, and whether or not to ctb.
- Unless the member posting about another's ctb screenshots the approval of the one who ctb'd, there is no way of knowing if they're being outed against their will, and they no longer have the power to defend themselves. Unless mods have prior access to the PM, there is no way of knowing if the screenshot is legitimate or photoshopped.
Most importantly:
- Even if someone does allow another member to publicly post the disclosure, it seems to me that it's more aligned with the pro-choice platform of the forum to announce it for oneself, or not at all. No one can ctb for another, encourage another to ctb, or research or plan their ctb for them; it is their own responsibility, and it is by their own self-determination that all these acts are carried out. Should not how they leave the forum also be their own responsibility and a self-determined act?
- SS posts are public. What happens on the forum does not stay on the forum. If someone is being cyberstalked and their ctb is announced, that makes the information public not only to members, but to non-members.
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