Volo vent
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- Sep 20, 2021
- 52
Despite not being the only reason i hate my gender and all involved with it and it makes me want to die a lot constantly
jodes2
Hello people ❤️
- Aug 28, 2022
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nosurpries
Member
- Jul 3, 2022
- 98
being a woman is one of the main reasons i am so miserable. i wouldn't wish XX chromosomes on anyone.
Volo vent
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- Sep 20, 2021
- 52
Maybe one day
Human condition is very miserable regarless gender race religion or country but for me being a man is a huge pain and source of depression
My point of view is that at least 80% of people of both genders are pretty happy, people with worse luck end up in worse situations, but in a healthy body of either gender a person can be happy- I know it's not the same for everyone.
ojinzo
Specialist
- Feb 21, 2022
- 304
I hear you. I wish I was a woman. This has a lot to do with my ctb motives.
Volo vent
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- Sep 20, 2021
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y'ffre
My English could be bad :)
- Aug 15, 2022
- 180
For me, beauty/handsomeness is more important than gender. I'm ok with my gender but not sure about the other criteria 
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rabid_aspie_yokai
fluffy nonhuman
- Mar 23, 2023
- 39
Due to gender? Nah
Do to gender dysphoria? Oh fuck yes...
I mean patriarchy sucks for all genders anyway, but feeling uncomfortable even as a shut-in, in my own body? (Sry if it's selfish) it feels like a personal hell sometimes
Do to gender dysphoria? Oh fuck yes...
I mean patriarchy sucks for all genders anyway, but feeling uncomfortable even as a shut-in, in my own body? (Sry if it's selfish) it feels like a personal hell sometimes
glitterypearls
sing me to sleep
- Mar 23, 2023
- 166
being a girl is what caused me to have the childhood trauma I had. most male abusers/rapists pick the girl instead of the boys (I say most but It's not ALL) so to me if I was a boy then I wouldn't face that trauma, but I also have a lot of empathy for people who struggle with gender dysphoria or during transitioning. It must be hard. I feel like most of us aren't happy with ourselves/gender for multiple reasons and this is why we are here.
SpiderLink
they/them
- Apr 3, 2023
- 255
As a non binary person, idk where I stand. Gender is stupid imo
BornTheWrongSex
I have no empathy for privileged people.
- Apr 19, 2022
- 2,296
Yes. I am AMAB and wish I was cis female. I am extremely suicidal because of it.
I was actually trying to hang on for a few more months, but another user on here mocked me for being suicidal due to gender dysphoria and bragged about it in the public chat today... I am back to wanting to slit my throat every minute...
It's fine if you hate being a girl for that reason, but there's no need to turn this into which gender has it worse. A case could also be made that being male is worse (micropenis issues cause intimacy and urinating issues for males) so we could be here all day if one wants to debate which gender has it worse.
I was actually trying to hang on for a few more months, but another user on here mocked me for being suicidal due to gender dysphoria and bragged about it in the public chat today... I am back to wanting to slit my throat every minute...
I don't think saying most pick the girls over the boys is fair. Fact of the matter is, we don't actually know the amount of unreported sexual assault male victims that there are. Most male SA victims may feel a lot of shame from being victimized.
It's fine if you hate being a girl for that reason, but there's no need to turn this into which gender has it worse. A case could also be made that being male is worse (micropenis issues cause intimacy and urinating issues for males) so we could be here all day if one wants to debate which gender has it worse.
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rabid_aspie_yokai
fluffy nonhuman
- Mar 23, 2023
- 39
As a nonbinary, same lol (cool pfp btw)
Wait... Another user mocked you HERE? For being [email protected] (due to whatever reason)?? Being uncomfortable in your body is 100% valid (I think cus I feel the same) and whoever made fun of you... Well... They're ignorant at best. I feel you. (Being in a body 24/7 is almost unbearable TwT
Also comparing gender problems really is meaningless, humans should strive for equality and empathy. Idk i know i didn't help but i felt the need to respond
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shutupanddrive
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- May 3, 2023
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BornTheWrongSex
I have no empathy for privileged people.
- Apr 19, 2022
- 2,296
Yeah, it was Pink Sakura. I'm not going to tag them, but yeah. Said something along the lines oif "aww he's sad because he is not a girl" back in December, and then out of no where came into public chat months later bragging about it.
UsagiDrop
“What a beautiful day to haunt the earth.”
- Apr 27, 2023
- 71
This is an interesting question and something I don’t really get to talk about without people thinking I’m crazy or having gender envy or something. I don’t have gender dysphoria and I know that men face challenges I would never be able to relate to or fully understand as a woman. The purpose of me typing this isn’t to throw a pity party over womanhood or femininity or to imply that men can’t experience the same things I have. I don’t believe the grass is greener on the other side and do not envy men, we all suffer as human beings. But I still really hate being a woman lol. It kind of makes me feel like a target.
Like a lot of other people I unfortunately have my fair share of sexual trauma but I always opt to spare the details. Even before then, I witnessed domestic violence so much growing up that I can’t think of a time where I wasn’t hypersensitive to it and didn’t think of it as normal, as something I would have to go through too when I got older. As I grew up the attempts at harm, the occasional stalking, the times that I’ve been stared at and followed, the times that I’ve been harassed and cursed at and other negative experiences I’ve had with men just make me feel like a victim around them. And it’s still why I blame myself for my assaults when they inevitably happened. I let them happen. I allowed the things that led up to them. Didn’t feel like there was a choice.
I can’t even consume media anymore without running the risk of seeing a woman being harmed or her sexuality being the butt of a distasteful (imo) joke and being triggered, which makes me a “killjoy feminist”. I try to have a normal relationship with my partner but both my misandry and internalized misogyny still has a really big wall between us even after five years. He’s never hurt me but I can’t trust him. He’s let me down as much as anyone else has while being there for and coming through for me more than anyone else has, but I can’t depend on him. I’m always assuming the worst of him. I postpone the wedding all the time because I don’t want him to change and start abusing me once I’m trapped like I’ve seen happen to too many other women. He shouldn’t put up with me. I don’t like to go out. I don’t like to stay in. I don’t like to be seen. I don’t like to be perceived as attractive because that’s where all the abuse and mistreatment will start. I don’t feel safe anywhere, with anybody. I can’t really enjoy anything.
But it wouldn’t be much different if I were a man. I’m sure I would find other things to be depressed about and suicidal over. I’ve been trying to find ways to cope with “being a woman” and even as I type this, it sounds really stupid. I hate being in this body so much sometimes that I’ve tried to ruin it. I made cuts on the most “desirable” parts of me and picked at the scabs until they left marks and scars to ruin my beauty. I always want to get my boobs removed or reduced so I wouldn’t be so obviously a woman. Yet I don’t want to be anything other than a woman. Not only do I not feel that way, but even if I identify outside of that binary and present as neither male or female, it won’t be enough for me, I’ll still feel like a target. I don’t know if I can say being a woman is what makes me suicidal, though. More so the problems that arose due to my gender makes me want to die. I hate living in a world where people will carry preconceived notions of me and treat me as less than because I’m a woman (the country I’m from is far less progressive and more misogynistic than where I live now, so I haven’t really been treated differently recently but all the things that happened to me at home still stick). It’s like I was, and still am, a disposable commodity to everyone.
Like a lot of other people I unfortunately have my fair share of sexual trauma but I always opt to spare the details. Even before then, I witnessed domestic violence so much growing up that I can’t think of a time where I wasn’t hypersensitive to it and didn’t think of it as normal, as something I would have to go through too when I got older. As I grew up the attempts at harm, the occasional stalking, the times that I’ve been stared at and followed, the times that I’ve been harassed and cursed at and other negative experiences I’ve had with men just make me feel like a victim around them. And it’s still why I blame myself for my assaults when they inevitably happened. I let them happen. I allowed the things that led up to them. Didn’t feel like there was a choice.
I can’t even consume media anymore without running the risk of seeing a woman being harmed or her sexuality being the butt of a distasteful (imo) joke and being triggered, which makes me a “killjoy feminist”. I try to have a normal relationship with my partner but both my misandry and internalized misogyny still has a really big wall between us even after five years. He’s never hurt me but I can’t trust him. He’s let me down as much as anyone else has while being there for and coming through for me more than anyone else has, but I can’t depend on him. I’m always assuming the worst of him. I postpone the wedding all the time because I don’t want him to change and start abusing me once I’m trapped like I’ve seen happen to too many other women. He shouldn’t put up with me. I don’t like to go out. I don’t like to stay in. I don’t like to be seen. I don’t like to be perceived as attractive because that’s where all the abuse and mistreatment will start. I don’t feel safe anywhere, with anybody. I can’t really enjoy anything.
But it wouldn’t be much different if I were a man. I’m sure I would find other things to be depressed about and suicidal over. I’ve been trying to find ways to cope with “being a woman” and even as I type this, it sounds really stupid. I hate being in this body so much sometimes that I’ve tried to ruin it. I made cuts on the most “desirable” parts of me and picked at the scabs until they left marks and scars to ruin my beauty. I always want to get my boobs removed or reduced so I wouldn’t be so obviously a woman. Yet I don’t want to be anything other than a woman. Not only do I not feel that way, but even if I identify outside of that binary and present as neither male or female, it won’t be enough for me, I’ll still feel like a target. I don’t know if I can say being a woman is what makes me suicidal, though. More so the problems that arose due to my gender makes me want to die. I hate living in a world where people will carry preconceived notions of me and treat me as less than because I’m a woman (the country I’m from is far less progressive and more misogynistic than where I live now, so I haven’t really been treated differently recently but all the things that happened to me at home still stick). It’s like I was, and still am, a disposable commodity to everyone.
SpiderLink
they/them
- Apr 3, 2023
- 255
Thx, I love legend of Zelda lol
rabid_aspie_yokai
fluffy nonhuman
- Mar 23, 2023
- 39
Damn that's a new low, commenting on someone's feeling like that.
Bragging about what, being rude? I don't even get it...
waii6211111
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- May 7, 2023
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unnormal9
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- Apr 12, 2023
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It's a community, expect the unexpected.
rabid_aspie_yokai
fluffy nonhuman
- Mar 23, 2023
- 39
Lol I've never been part of any social stuff so this is new. But you're right. Humans are just as horrible as they're fascinating
avaruus
Member
- Aug 17, 2022
- 22
I think all the gender wars are stupid. It's very easy to say that the other gender has it better or worse when only cherry-picking certain groups from that gender. I fall into this a lot myself, but I try to do better because I understand the annoying feeling when the opposite gender tries to undermine all my problems just because they think they have it worse somehow. Im just saying, being a man isn't just about dancing on flowers like some women seem to think, somehow
Edit: some women*, "many" is maybe a bit of an exaggeration
Edit: some women*, "many" is maybe a bit of an exaggeration
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kaixxnai
Member
- May 5, 2023
- 20
If i was born a man, 50% of my problems would be gone. No gender dysphoria... no pain when hearing my deadname... i wish...
BornTheWrongSex
I have no empathy for privileged people.
- Apr 19, 2022
- 2,296
Agreed. Saying one's gender/sex has it worse isn't a dysphoria cure like many seem to want it to be, nor does it mitigate the uncomfortableness of being the sex you don't wish to be.
If only body swapping technology existed. It would solve 2 cases of dysphoria per application.
rabid_aspie_yokai
fluffy nonhuman
- Mar 23, 2023
- 39
Well, something similar is happening. As far as I know scientists are experimenting with giving trans women uteruses
"In early 2022, it was reported that a New Delhi-based surgeon would soon attempt a uterine transplant in a transgender woman. The operation has never been performed successfully yet in people assigned male at birth, and the announcement prompted a series of reactions on the implications of such procedures." It's still complicated tho, but it kinda feeds two birds with one roll.
BornTheWrongSex
I have no empathy for privileged people.
- Apr 19, 2022
- 2,296
Eh, well for me it still doesn't replace lost girlhood and it doesn't change the fact that the body will be all scarred :/
However, if that is good enough for other people, then that is good.
MakeItEnd
Specialist
- Mar 14, 2023
- 327
Muh oppressed sex.
Woman reveals she went on dates so she didn't have to buy groceries
Vivian Tu, an ex-Wall Street trader who has gained millions of followers for often sharing finance tips, admitted she couldn't help but enjoy the perks of receiving free dinners from potential suitors.
rabid_aspie_yokai
fluffy nonhuman
- Mar 23, 2023
- 39
I understand... Growing up as trans literally takes away so much. I like scars, but surgery is still scary so i kinda understand that too. But science is evolving exponentially so who know what the future holds
BornTheWrongSex
I have no empathy for privileged people.
- Apr 19, 2022
- 2,296
More proof that being a female (especially average/attractive looking) is better than being male, despite the creeps you attract.Muh oppressed sex.
Woman reveals she went on dates so she didn't have to buy groceries
Vivian Tu, an ex-Wall Street trader who has gained millions of followers for often sharing finance tips, admitted she couldn't help but enjoy the perks of receiving free dinners from potential suitors.www.dailymail.co.uk
Cld th/ gendr wars stp pls -- thse happn on evry thred whn sme1 struggls wth thr own gendr
Cld w/ pls jst agree tht neithr mn nr womn hve lfe bettr or wrse thn th/ othr
Thse cnversatns jst turn pointlss & d-rail threds ovr & ovr agn
Cld w/ pls jst agree tht neithr mn nr womn hve lfe bettr or wrse thn th/ othr
Thse cnversatns jst turn pointlss & d-rail threds ovr & ovr agn