There is this discussion in Germany. I think in some Scandinavian there is this rule that there is a need for saying yes to a mutal agreement on having sex.
By the way rape in marriage was legal in Germany until 1997. And the current chancellor voted against the criminalization of rape in marriages.
I think there are valid point to both sides. It could sensitize men ro prevent them from crossing boundaries. I think studies show that more women report sexual violence where this law was implemented.
On the other hand side, does this really deter men from raping women? The ones who want to do could make it anyway. Maybe it is the wrong approach. Maybe the more urgent change would be to give more trust victimes who report sexual violence. And make the reporting process easier.
I can say pressuring women on anything makes me very uncomfortable. Or to make women in general uncomfortable. I would not approach a woman on the street. (despite the fact it is s a different issue)I think some men are also insecure how to approach a woman in real life. On the other hand there are many men who act like complete assholes. And I think they are the louder ones. I think about a second date with a woman that I am texting with. And she signaled me to do the next steps. I asked her for a date. She sent me a song that says kiss a girl at the right moment instead of regretting it for the end of your life. Honestly, I don't like this message. I rather would like to ask for consent in anything also in kissing or hugging. Mabye the second date never will happen anyway. I think before trying to kiss her I would wait for the right moment, consider the situation and maybe ask her something like "What is your opinion how literal should one take the lyrics of a song?" We are both on the autism spectrum she should be used to me being weird. We have a really nerdy humor.
More remarks: it doesn't solve problems like he said/she said in court
There is this stupid argument this would kill the mood between partners. Or the question is codifying human intimacy really a good approach for handling human relations?
By the way rape in marriage was legal in Germany until 1997. And the current chancellor voted against the criminalization of rape in marriages.
I think there are valid point to both sides. It could sensitize men ro prevent them from crossing boundaries. I think studies show that more women report sexual violence where this law was implemented.
On the other hand side, does this really deter men from raping women? The ones who want to do could make it anyway. Maybe it is the wrong approach. Maybe the more urgent change would be to give more trust victimes who report sexual violence. And make the reporting process easier.
I can say pressuring women on anything makes me very uncomfortable. Or to make women in general uncomfortable. I would not approach a woman on the street. (despite the fact it is s a different issue)I think some men are also insecure how to approach a woman in real life. On the other hand there are many men who act like complete assholes. And I think they are the louder ones. I think about a second date with a woman that I am texting with. And she signaled me to do the next steps. I asked her for a date. She sent me a song that says kiss a girl at the right moment instead of regretting it for the end of your life. Honestly, I don't like this message. I rather would like to ask for consent in anything also in kissing or hugging. Mabye the second date never will happen anyway. I think before trying to kiss her I would wait for the right moment, consider the situation and maybe ask her something like "What is your opinion how literal should one take the lyrics of a song?" We are both on the autism spectrum she should be used to me being weird. We have a really nerdy humor.
More remarks: it doesn't solve problems like he said/she said in court
There is this stupid argument this would kill the mood between partners. Or the question is codifying human intimacy really a good approach for handling human relations?
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