Should i tell family and friends

[Beachygirl]

Should I tell my family and friends that I want to ctb if so how should I tell them all?

 

[Anonymous_A]

No. What good comes out of it?
Don't say you want to die. Just mention the stuff that's getting you down

 

[Beachygirl]

I guess nothing good would come of it but I just thought they would like to know.

 

[aviation]

I understand the impulse of wishing to let people know, saying goodbye, instead of vanishing abruptly, but the problem is that you will most likely be met with fear, threats, or other such attempts to stop you, as it is very difficult for people to accept the choice of others in these matters, no matter how clear or rational it is. I would recommend cherishing your time with them, and thus letting them know your feelings like this, without outright saying the reason - as sad as it is that this is necessary.

 

[Anonymous_A]

I guess nothing good would come of it but I just thought they would like to know.

Just talk to them about the reasonings why you wanna go. If they react bad to that, then they're not exactly gonna react well to you actually wanting to die.

Literally just walk up to parents and say eg; "I've been depressed about so and so" - If the reactions good, then get help. If not, then idk.

But most parent aren't gonna be like "okok, you can ctb"

 

[FuneralCry]

Personally, I would never do that, but that is my situation. If I told them that I wanted to ctb they would constantly watch me and do everything to try and stop me. They would not accept my choice. It would make it really difficult to actually ctb. I plan to just write a note.

 

[upthedownescalatorr]

I guess nothing good would come of it but I just thought they would like to know.

Unless they're sociopathic, narcissists they are not going to be okay with you having suicidal intentions. If you have any desire for recovery or are uncertain about whether you really want to ctb it might be worth talking to them about your thoughts if you think they'll be supportive. What are your reasons for ctb if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Beachygirl]

Struggling with mental health dont fit in to this world so I would rather just go

 

[YourNeighbor]

Yes, tell them. You may get help. The vast majority of people who are suicidal do not ctb and are able to get better, and getting help for that is critical.

Ctb can always be an option, but try everything else first.

 

[Beachygirl]

What about if I don't want the help and just want to ctb

 

[upthedownescalatorr]

Struggling with mental health dont fit in to this world so I would rather just go

If your mind is made up then that's entirely your choice but if you're thinking of discussing your plans with your family it kind of sounds like you might be hesitant. I hope I don't sound patronising but have you tried mental health treatment? I'm aware it's very difficult to access decent therapy at least where I am in the UK.

 

[Sebuet]

Do not under any circumstances accept "help" from the mental health industry. It'll make everything worse. You will become a guinea pig for medication.

Ever look at mental health services from say, the 1920s? Those people got "help" too. In s hundred years, people will look at our mental health services the same way we look at asylums of old today.

 

[upthedownescalatorr]

Do not under any circumstances accept "help" from the mental health industry. It'll make everything worse. You will become a guinea pig for medication.

Ever look at mental health services from say, the 1920s? Those people got "help" too. In s hundred years, people will look at our mental health services the same way we look at asylums of old today.

Treatment doesn't always have to involve pills. When I was younger I had suicidal depression but getting the right therapy greatly helped me and I was relatively happy for several years after. My reasons for ctb now are irreversible neurological symptoms but I'm not in a position to be telling anyone what they should or shouldn't do. I'm just letting op know that things can be improved in some circumstances.

 

[Sebuet]

Treatment doesn't always have to involve pills. When I was younger I had suicidal depression but getting the right therapy greatly helped me and I was relatively happy for several years after. My reasons for ctb now are irreversible neurological symptoms but I'm not in a position to be telling anyone what they should or shouldn't do. I'm just letting op know that things can be improved in some circumstances.

You're right, it doesn't have to involve pills. Just my own experience that made me think this way. When I got into therapy for suicidal thoughts, they pumped me full of all kinds of pills. Misdiagnosed me too. Personally have no faith in mental health services anymore, but if you or others do, can't say anything but good for you, and I don't mean that in a bad way.

 

[upthedownescalatorr]

You're right, it doesn't have to involve pills. Just my own experience that made me think this way. When I got into therapy for suicidal thoughts, they pumped me full of all kinds of pills. Misdiagnosed me too. Personally have no faith in mental health services anymore, but if you or others do, can't say anything but good for you, and I don't mean that in a bad way.

I've had plenty of terrible experiences with meds too, in fact I'm planning to ctb now because of the consequences prescription stimulants and benzos have had for me. At least though the only way they can force medication on you is if you get involuntarily sectioned and telling your family you're planning on ending it is one way of making this happen.

 

[ryaan]

i've tried giving my family and partner a heads up. they just call me manipulative and leave and it makes it worse.

when someone tells me i am only talking about suicidality as a means of attention it motivates me to do it to prove i am not seeking attention. i don't want attention, i want understanding and maybe some help sometimes and a chance to be happy.

 

[leaf4]

Telling someone you are considering to ctb is giving up a lot of control. Maybe that's what you want, but I would not advise it.

 

[jusbug]

What about if I don't want the help and just want to ctb

do not tell anyone you want to ctb and you cant just vanish either

the best thing to do imo is tell them how you feeling or leave a note explaining why you did it

 

[LeGuitarist]

Should I tell my family and friends that I want to ctb if so how should I tell them all?

Personally, I think it's best to let them know. You don't have to do it in person, just send an email or write a letter to them, wait for their initial shock to wear down, and confront them when they're calmer

 

[LittleJem]

I told my family that I am suffering every day (mental illness) and while I'm trying yet another medication atm (Prozac, bst so far for me) that I am not going to suffer indefinitely and they should say goodbye to me. Erm. Results. They don't call me often!! One or two of them have accepted it as they know how much I am suffering. I don't know about the others - they have just found it painful. I did it because I don't want anyone to be surprised when I do it. I also still have enough independence to CTB at the moment- e.g. pills that get me out of bed. I am ordering pills to CTB and will feel relief when I have them safely. It's the staying alive that is the worst.
If there is any way they would watch/stop you then don't tell them
I even sent them a booklet on what to do after someone commits suicide!!

I think some of them don't believe me. But I've done my bit - and suffered for years trying to get better.

 

[YourNeighbor]

What about if I don't want the help and just want to ctb

You asked for opinions, I only shared mine. Even if you aren't looking for help, it would be good to tell your loved ones of your plans, at least the ones you think would want to know.

 

[Deepjoy]

I have told mine and as you can imagine it's now not a good environment. So in hindsight I wish I hadn't.