self harm

[annxietty]

Ive been self harm clean for some time, fortunately while its very addictive I was able to stop without much problem. Main reason I stopped was getting a job where I have to wear short sleeves all year, my arms have many scars, specially two big ones, one in each arm, but ive never been asked about it, tho I often catch my sister looking at them probably checking if there are more... I dont know what I would say if a coworker or costumer asked about my scars, most likely I would just laugh it off saying it was an accident of some sorts... i really dont know, but I really really dont want that to happen so I stopped self harming. Aside from cutting I would hit myself very hard until my arms were a mix of green, blue and purple, I quickly changed to my legs but its been a while since I had a fit of rage, im very apathetic, i just dont care... while i care a lot.

Im making this post because recently Ive been wanting to cut myself a lot, my scars are fading a bit and it gives me mixed feelings, while its a relief im not gonna get asked about it if they fade... I want them to stay... im sure many people can relate. The thing is, where I enjoy the most self harming is on my arms, cutting on my legs is not the same, it can still be effective but the arms are just perfect, BUT i cant cut there because I have to go to work... my therapist says is very good i care so much about work and not self harming cuz of it, but I still want to self harm...

How do you guys deal with this? I wish i could use my arms for sh and only me could see it, believe it or not this is one of the reasons I want to quit my job, I hate the short sleeves so much...

Ty for reading this.

 

[Spider Lilies]

I do relate to this a lot. I'm not sure i have any way to deal with this other than i just do? It feels miserable though, not being able to go where you want.

And the fading is definitely a conflicting comfort. The apathy yet still caring is like wanting to do something about it but you dont have the emotions to trigger it.

Also not sure if you live in an area where is just warm all year, but short sleeves year round would drive me nuts personally.

 

[annxietty]

I do relate to this a lot. I'm not sure i have any way to deal with this other than i just do? It feels miserable though, not being able to go where you want.

And the fading is definitely a conflicting comfort. The apathy yet still caring is like wanting to do something about it but you dont have the emotions to trigger it.

Also not sure if you live in an area where is just warm all year, but short sleeves year round would drive me nuts personally.

Ty for the reply.

I work in a kitchen, is a fast food place, so not cold at all, everyone in fast food places here work with short sleeves, then you change to winter clothes in the locker room when you leave. It does drive me crazy having to show my arms all year, the less skin I show the better.

You described my apathy conflict quite well, my close relatives always ask me to feel things because many times emotions dont trigger in me, most likely because i have been told how to feel for the longest time.

Thanks again for your answer, Im sad people also struggle with this but it also kinda comforts me knowing im not alone, at least I can handle the impulse to sh because I know many people cant...

 

[Spider Lilies]

Ooh yeah that sucks. Kitchen would definitely make long sleeves hard between sanitation and temperature. I work in a night warehouse and there is no temp regulations so it feels like im putting on a sweater and taking it off every 5 minutes; from bare arms to sleeves. Long sleeves can be so comfy and if you get cold easily then it sucks to be stuck with only that option

emotions dont trigger in me

Either they arent triggered, are blunted, or just expressed in a non-normal way. Told to smile, dont look miserable, blah blah, even id you're feeling completely neutral or even a bit happy ends up blunting things more or actually putting you in the bad mood they claimed you already were in

 

[Eschar]

A few months ago I started burning myself
The first one was on my wrist and I regretted it since it was so visible so I've strictly been doing it on my thighs since I always have them covered up

 

[ShatteredJarOfStars]

Ive been self harm clean for some time, fortunately while its very addictive I was able to stop without much problem. Main reason I stopped was getting a job where I have to wear short sleeves all year, my arms have many scars, specially two big ones, one in each arm, but ive never been asked about it, tho I often catch my sister looking at them probably checking if there are more... I dont know what I would say if a coworker or costumer asked about my scars, most likely I would just laugh it off saying it was an accident of some sorts... i really dont know, but I really really dont want that to happen so I stopped self harming. Aside from cutting I would hit myself very hard until my arms were a mix of green, blue and purple, I quickly changed to my legs but its been a while since I had a fit of rage, im very apathetic, i just dont care... while i care a lot.

Im making this post because recently Ive been wanting to cut myself a lot, my scars are fading a bit and it gives me mixed feelings, while its a relief im not gonna get asked about it if they fade... I want them to stay... im sure many people can relate. The thing is, where I enjoy the most self harming is on my arms, cutting on my legs is not the same, it can still be effective but the arms are just perfect, BUT i cant cut there because I have to go to work... my therapist says is very good i care so much about work and not self harming cuz of it, but I still want to self harm...

How do you guys deal with this? I wish i could use my arms for sh and only me could see it, believe it or not this is one of the reasons I want to quit my job, I hate the short sleeves so much...

Ty for reading this.

Personally I always do it on my upper arms/biceps + shoulder areas because I have more muscle there and it tends to bleed more but it depends on how short your sleeves are or how easy they can fall up. I dont know if its restricted but using arm covers from your shoulders to your elbows might be another option as well.

 

[underairpressure]

I feel VERY similar, I haven't cut in a long time even though I really, really want to, because I'm worried about being caught or confronted. I resent having to hold back because of work and other people, I wish I could make my cutting/scars invisible to everyone but me. I also only get satisfaction from cutting on my arms, so I can't make the switch to legs either.

Sorry I don't have advice on how to deal, I'm also struggling......... I think about cutting A Lot