Saying NO is ok!

[hoppybunny]

This is mostly for myself but if there are any others who have horrible anxiety and/or are people pleasers then this message can apply to you.

Saying no is ok. You're not a bad person for putting yourself first.
Not wanting to do something is a good reason to say no.
You don't have to force yourself to do things you don't like.
Your happiness is the most important thing to you and you're not a criminal for prioritizing your happiness.
It's your life and you were born without your consent so love the way that brings you joy.


Reminding myself of this cause I graduate in 3 semesters and I don't want to go to my graduation or have a graduation party cause they're a waste of time and I'd rather sleep.

 

[AbsentMindedHuman]

I struggle with this alot. I'm never even heard of boundaries until a few months ago. I have spent me whole life being the "nice" kid and being a total pushover because I'm afraid of conflict and anti-social. I have recently begun to put my foot down and it feels so good. So much less pressure on me. I deserve to be selfish.

 

[hoppybunny]

I struggle with this alot. I'm never even heard of boundaries until a few months ago. I have spent me whole life being the "nice" kid and being a total pushover because I'm afraid of conflict and anti-social. I have recently begun to put my foot down and it feels so good. So much less pressure on me. I deserve to be selfish.

Happy for you mate. Happiness is you're right and I'm proud of you for choosing it. Selfishness is not inherently bad.