Saying good bye

[Dosentmatter903]

This is a tough one...I'm planning on ctb soon...I'm far away from my family but I may have the opportunity to surprise them and go see them...the thing is it will be the last time they ever see me. I want to so bad because how many people even get the chance to say good bye? But a part of me is just thinking that it may be more traumatic that way. That I should just stay away and do what I got to do and just say good bye in a letter...but i would love to see my family. It's not like we don't keep in touch I tell my mom I love here every day...with that said I don't know what to do...I'm stuck...I feel like it may be less of a blow if I'm away and stay away

 

[Darkover]

i've never told any of my family i love because i don't i actually hate them for bring me alive here to live out my misery

 

[catfleshflour]

I don't really know, but I think the trauma your family would face is inevitable. Maybe talk to them about your feelings? Though there's gonna be a large chance they would stop you from doing that.

 

[Dosentmatter903]

I don't really know, but I think the trauma your family would face is inevitable. Maybe talk to them about your feelings? Though there's gonna be a large chance they would stop you from doing that.

That's the thing though I'm not telling them anything. So far I've been doing a good job of carrying on like everything is ok. Im going to do it regardless but I'm just wondering if I should see them one last time

 

[catfleshflour]

That's the thing though I'm not telling them anything. So far I've been doing a good job of carrying on like everything is ok. Im going to do it regardless but I'm just wondering if I should see them one last time

I think having more memories with you will definitely make them feel better even it's so sad. And maybe leave something to tell them it's not their fault could help too.

 

[MrDarkness]

This is a tough one...I'm planning on ctb soon...I'm far away from my family but I may have the opportunity to surprise them and go see them...the thing is it will be the last time they ever see me. I want to so bad because how many people even get the chance to say good bye? But a part of me is just thinking that it may be more traumatic that way. That I should just stay away and do what I got to do and just say good bye in a letter...but i would love to see my family. It's not like we don't keep in touch I tell my mom I love here every day...with that said I don't know what to do...I'm stuck...I feel like it may be less of a blow if I'm away and stay away

Give 'em a goodbye, it's good to let things end on a good note

 

[leavingsoon99]

I mean, if you feel the need to say goodbye... do it. In a subtle way. Not a direct way. Let them know you love them. Let them know that what you're about to do is not their fault in subtle ways. Your soul will find peace, and it will help them come to closure a lot sooner.

 

[Dosentmatter903]

I think having more memories with you will definitely make them feel better even it's so sad. And maybe leave something to tell them it's not their fault could help too.

That was my exact plan

"Let them know that what you're about to do is not their fault in subtle ways"

I like that udea

"Let them know that what you're about to do is not their fault in subtle ways"

I like that udea

 

[FuneralCry]

After all it's up to you deciding what to do, it's a personal decision. But anyway I wish you the best with your plans.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

It's your personal decision in any case but I also understand your thoughts about family and "saying goodbye"to them. It's certainly not so easy but I hope you can peace!

 

[ToTheTwillight]

Couple months ago I got to meet them, they were all in one same place, and I knew to myself it would be the last time they see me, so this was my moment. Of course I could not hint at all on CTB

 

[The anhedonic one]

It could be tricky because the meeting may be too emotional for you and therefore they will know that something's wrong.

 

[dory]

In my opinion I think its a good idea to say goodbye, it may give you a feeling that it was the right thing to do, and being relaxed is probably the best way to go, just do things that would make you feel at peace when you do go, if you go through with it i wish you the best

 

[Valky]

It 100% is up to you so these are just my 2 cents:

It seems like you really love them and have a good bond. Both has it advantages and disadvantages. In my honest opinion, you should go. Tell them the things you want to say and what comes after doesn't matter for now. Don't let the dark thoughts keep you away from being surrounded by the people you love - even if it is for the last time <3

 

[sixcigssix]

It definitely is your decision and yours only. If I were to CTB and wanted to see my family one last time and say goodbye, I would. It could possibly give your family some closure and a bit less pain instead of them regretting that they didn't see you at all. It could also help you depart from the world more peacefully and without leaving you with unfinished business. Might help your soul rest in peace. Either way In whichever decision you decide to take, I hope everything goes smoothly and I wish you the best