Story Public loss of temper

[Kyrok]

My wife and I went out for dinner this evening, deciding to try a new sushi restaurant near our home.
We were hungry, but in no rush.

We sat down at 5:20 and placed our orders by 5:30. An hour later, we got our nigiri, but even after finishing it, the rolls we ordered hadn't arrived.

The restaurant wasn't crowded, but wasn't empty (maybe 1/2 full). Our waitress told us amidst our wait that they received a bunch of grub hub orders right around when we ordered.

Eventually, my wife got up from the table, began to yell at our waitress, came back to tell me to meet her at the bar next door, and stormed out.

I asked for the bill, paid, and went to the bar.

My wife wasn't there.

I called her, and she said she was so mad, she couldn't sit still and was walking home (about 3 miles). I found her a few blocks away and we drove home. She apologized for ruining our evening, was angry with herself for losing her temper, was saying how she hates herself for being this way as well as that she can't understand how I would want to be with her.

My reaction to our restaurant wait, mild irritation that it took so long, but it really wasn't a big deal. My wife, on the other hand, felt personally demeaned that they prioritized grub-hub orders over ours. This certainly was triggering something for her, but nothing really to be that upset about, just bad management.

The up side is that she felt accepted and supported by me as we discussed it at home. I am, though, worried. This is far from the first time she lost her temper for no good reason (a number of road-rage incidents, other cases of being poorly treated by others, and a couple times towards me when I wasn't addressing her needs --e.g. playing Skyrim all day and night over Christmas holiday).

She attempted to ctb, btw, about 5yrs ago (health crisis, which finally was resolved while she was in the hospital for a psych hold).

 

[inconsequential]

Are you married to me?

 

[Kyrok]

Are you married to me?

So, why would you get so angry waiting rather than just shrug it off and casually chat with your husband?

 

[inconsequential]

So, why would you get so angry waiting rather than just shrug it off and casually chat with your husband?

Personally, I have no fuse. I was diagnosed with Intermittent Explosive Disorder as a juvenile. Also, autistic, so if my routine (or expected routine) is thrown off, I go into a tizzy.

 

[not_a_robot]

Sushi is an irrational thing to eat, therefore I always anticipate irrational behavior in sushi restaurants. Like, raw fish, come on, there's no way those people are thinking clearly.
Someone invites me out for sushi, I already know, shit's about to get weird.
Like, "we aren't even gonna cook the fish" weird.

 

[Faraway1990]

Personally, I have no fuse. I was diagnosed with Intermittent Explosive Disorder as a juvenile. Also, autistic, so if my routine (or expected routine) is thrown off, I go into a tizzy.

Yeah my so has high functioning autism and you only really notice it when it comes to her behaviours revolving her routine or perceived being changed (or if you touch her hair) we usually fall out over (to me) the silliest things but always make up for it she says she is trying to change and she's got a lot better at dealing with change but she has sensitivities about things and I wouldn't change a thing in relation to her if she wasn't in my life I would CTB tonight but I love her and I know it would destroy her.

 

[not_a_robot]

Personally, I have no fuse. I was diagnosed with Intermittent Explosive Disorder as a juvenile. Also, autistic, so if my routine (or expected routine) is thrown off, I go into a tizzy.

Sometimes I think I'm pretty good at not having meltdowns. Then I remember, I'm actually just good at avoiding the things that induce meltdowns. Like human contact, going outside, raw fish...

 

[Jumper]

I would be angry too, but I'd just ask to leave with you around 45mins in.

 

[TimeToDie]

At least we know your wife doesn't suffer from social phobia. I'm far too inhibited to make a scene.

 

[Faraway1990]

I would cancel the order after waiting more than 35 minutes because at that point my so would start to get clearly impatient lol to avoid any unnecessary embarrassment she would feel later at causing a scene (it keep her up all night analyzing it over and over) and just go somewhere else.

 

[Rocksandsand]

Sushi is an irrational thing to eat, therefore I always anticipate irrational behavior in sushi restaurants. Like, raw fish, come on, there's no way those people are thinking clearly.
Someone invites me out for sushi, I already know, shit's about to get weird.
Like, "we aren't even gonna cook the fish" weird.

I don't mean to hijack the thread here or seem like a creepy stalker, but god you make me laugh @not_a_robot

 

[Kyrok]

I would cancel the order after waiting more than 35 minutes because at that point my so would start to get clearly impatient lol to avoid any unnecessary embarrassment she would feel later at causing a scene (it keep her up all night analyzing it over and over) and just go somewhere else.

We were on the brink of cancelling, but yea, that decision should have come 20 minutes prior. There were three other restaurants in the same outdoor mall area. Part of it was she was showing no signs of being angry and we were even joking a bit about how ridiculous it was to wait for raw fish to be put on a mound of cold rice.

 

[Faraway1990]

We were on the brink of cancelling, but yea, that decision should have come 20 minutes prior. There were three other restaurants in the same outdoor mall area. Part of it was she was showing no signs of being angry and we were even joking a bit about how ridiculous it was to wait for raw fish to be put on a mound of cold rice.

I understand that, things can go from 0-100 pretty quick lol it happens sometimes and I'm fairly certain she is probably going to feel bad for a while and will be on her mind the next time you 2 go out.