New year resolution: get laid or CTB

[Capsicum_Corral]

If your objective is to repel women, sure

I've found it's pretty effective (and cheap!) to just have zero contact. When females aren't aware you exist, there's no need to repel them.

I was evidently not whining, it's clearly sound advice to conceal those views on women if you want to attract them.

Fwiw the tolerance to this kind of low-key misogyny is way too high on this website imho and it's quite telling that you feel able to use that language freely, when you even describe it as "crude / off colour" yourself, then bristle at the tiniest objection to it.

Why are the new people so eager to take offense?

 

[PeacefulTonic]

I've found it's pretty effective (and cheap!) to just have zero contact. When females aren't aware you exist, there's no need to repel them.

Why are the new people so eager to take offense?

Yeah but OP has a high libido and really needs sex, we're honestly trying to help

 

[eternalpeace]

It's not the objection itself, it's the fact that it's the only thing you even had to say about my post. And i didn't even state my sex, you had to go through my post history in order to get a whiff of my "low-key misogyny". If i was a female talking about male slam-pieces you wouldn't have anything to complain about.

If that is not whining then i don't know what is.


Who said that i did?

Gotcha, i didn't think literally stinking.

I think any person (male, female, gender fluid, non-binary, or otherwise gender non-conforming) who describes a sexual partner of any gender as a "slam piece" would face some criticism. I'm not saying sex has to always "mean" something to be good, but recognizing that you are dealing with a human being and treating them as such (starting with language) should be the starting point, in my opinion. Actually it should be the starting point for human interaction of any kind. If it were, the world would be a lot less miserable.

 

[goldenvirginia]

While this post is written in a less than ideal tone, there is no rule violation.

So it's perfectly ok to call a woman "a slam piece"? Maybe it's time I left this site. I have no desire to be part of something that allows misogynistic statements to be so casually thrown around. Maybe the incel influence has finally reached the point of no return.

 

[Meretlein]

So it's perfectly ok to call a woman "a slam piece"? Maybe it's time I left this site. I have no desire to be part of something that allows misogynistic statements to be so casually thrown around. Maybe the incel influence has finally reached the point of no return.

The world is constantly using object oriented language to refer to sex. "Smash, screw, hit" are examples.

Banning language such as "slam piece" would lead to updated rules for not just tone policing around sex but tone policing in general.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

So it's perfectly ok to call a woman "a slam piece"?

If he called a specific member that, it would be rule-breaking.

• Be respectful of others, and their opinions.
  • Disrespect will not be tolerated on this forum. Try to have constructive conversations without resorting to name-calling or insults.

Do NOT:

• Harass, bully, attack or insult other members.

 

[NasiGoreng]

Jesus christ, youre so sensitive

By the way, calling OP an incel is far more offensive than anything he has said.

You have also hijacked and derailed his thread for no reason

I disagree, im a woman and I dont want to be referred to as a slam piece its offensive and insulting. @goldenvirginia Did also not call a spesific person an incel, so its clearly not against any rules.

 

[goldenvirginia]

The world is constantly using object oriented language to refer to sex. "Smash, screw, hit" are examples.

Banning language such as "slam piece" would lead to updated rules for not just tone policing around sex but tone policing in general.

Nobody in my world calls women that and it is offensive. My point was maybe it is time for an update on rules. These incidents are becoming more frequent and I'm not the only female on here to take issue with it. So unless you want this to become an all boys club, maybe something should be said about tone.

Jesus christ, youre so sensitive

By the way, calling OP an incel is far more offensive than anything he has said.

You hijacked and derailed his thread for no reason

Funny that a man would say this…

 

[AreWeWinning]

Have you considered going no-porn, and beating it just like that? The key is zero tolerance and quitting once and for all. If you do it long enough (the no-porn thing), you'll notice the benefits. Your focus shifts to more productive activities, and your sex drive will shift from a pure "I want sex" attitude towards "I want to interact with women". As a result, you may even get laid, but it won't happen overnight. You can even try no-fap, but in my opinion what's most important is to ditch the porn.

I know there are a lot of assumptions in this post, and I can already imagine what your response will be. I understand it's not for everyone, but if you are that 1 person out of the many who gets it, and who finds this post helpful, then you are welcome. If not, I'm sorry, but I felt it was worth to mention it.

 

[RainAndSadness]

Meretlein ist absolutely correct. I don't believe we should tone police other members or judge them for the causes of their suicide ideation. I think lack of intimacy and affection is a valid reason to feel suicidal. And when you're a moderator it's very difficult to find a fine line in which you enforce the rules. We want to give people a safe space to talk about their issues but we also want people to give the ability to express themselves and their struggles openly. The word slam piece describes a sexual partner without emotional attachement, you can look it up for yourself. It is in no means a misogynist term in this particular context. [1]

 

[Dot]

Am srry tht O.P = strgglng s/ mch. Snds lke hrrble thng 2 b goin thrgh & o.p snds vry hrt & frstr8d.

@ sme tme also d/ nt lke th trm 'slam piece' b-ing spportd b/ mods eithr. Whlst appreci8 o.p gt it frm tv shw & it amusng in tht contxt it is offnsnve 2 mny womn incldng slf who hs bn usd as a 'slam piece' by mn wh C wmn tht wy.

Syng u wn2 scrw or slam sm1 = 1 thng bt dscrbng th othr persn as 'slam piece' is a mysognistc & @ vry least d-humanisng trm whthr lke it or nt.

Am nt askng fr o.p 2 b reprimandd hrshly or n.e.thng lke tht bt a gntle remndr 2 avoid mysognstc trms or langug in a forum whre thre r mny wmn also presnt wld b apprci8d. Wld nt expct 2 c wrds lke 'f*g' or th 'N' wrd 2 b usd abt othr demogrphcs in forum s is hrtfl 2 C othr d-humnsng trms usd abt wmn.

As fr wht @fizi22 sd - srry bt men d nt hve a rght 2 tll wmn wht thy r allwd 2 b offendd by jst bcse thr feelngs r unpalatbl 4 u.

Dd nt C RaS repsnse b4 pstng ths & appreci8 challngs as mod bt opinn stll stnds.

 

[NasiGoreng]

And it's funny how you compared OP's comment's as being as offensive as racist comments. You also call him an incel and see nothing wrong with that.

But go ahead and carry on. Fight for your rights as a woman. Don't mind me

Anything that is remotely offensive must be outlawed

Many men self identify as incels an even has a whole web page called incel with their own community, whats the problem? I don't see women making up a community called "slam piece" to describe themself.
Why does multiple women on this site find the term offensive then? Our voice does not matter.

 

[Bat 17]

Slam pieces seems to be deliberately provocative and misogynistic. I agree it should have no place here and would ask the mods to reconsider their position on this

 

[RainAndSadness]

The term in question doesn't describe women and @idiotstillwantstodie never used this term to describe women in general. It describes a sexual partner regardless of gender. That's my final comment on this debate.

EDIT:

Our voice does not matter.

Your opinions do matter but I have looked up the definition of said term and it's not derogatory. If you can explain to me in PM in what way this is an offensive term, I'm willing to listen to your case. Otherwise I'm gonna end this discussion right here.

 

[Chinaski]

So it's perfectly ok to call a woman "a slam piece"? Maybe it's time I left this site. I have no desire to be part of something that allows misogynistic statements to be so casually thrown around. Maybe the incel influence has finally reached the point of no return.

I don't wish to ignite any beef here and the discussion around use of this kind of objectifying language was done at some length recently but l felt it important to state that in my view this poster is absolutely correct and staff have very much made a wrong call on this one imo.

 

[goldenvirginia]

The term in question doesn't describe women and @idiotstillwantstodie never used this term to describe women in general. It describes a sexual partner regardless of gender. That's my final comment on this debate.

EDIT:


Your opinions do matter but I have looked up the definition of said term and it's not derogatory. If you can explain to me in PM in what way this is an offensive term, I'm willing to listen to your case. Otherwise I'm gonna end this discussion right here.

The OP clearly references women. So to say the term isn't being used to describe them is idiotic. So it may be your final comment, but it won't be for many.

 

[4eyebiped]

The OP did not target any specific person with what they said or I am sure the mods would had stepped in. He said he got it from a Rick and Morty episode, which a brief search seems to verify, so perhaps you can go protest the show. That show is mainstream so crucifying the guy over something mainstream is a bit off as you are not targeting the root of the problem. He probably thought he was being clever and funny. Once again, it comes from a show with a large following and the youth is heavily influenced by such things.

With that said, perhaps the better tactic would be to educate someone. Let them know why a phrase or word bothers you or why you think it is wrong. Do so in a manner that doesn't look like an attack or overly aggressive. All you do when you attack someone is risk them attacking back and then you have a thread war. That gets nowhere and isn't product beyond everyone now calling each other names.

Let us try to work together a little bit better.