My friend won't stop asking about what SS is. What should I tell him?

[notherenotnow]

My friend saw me when I was checking some stuff on here. I was on my phone and just looking at my pms, so he only saw the letters SS. It's been like a fucking month and he just wont stop asking me to tell him what this site is. I told him numerous times that he wont understand, that it's not for him and that I cant tell him.
Do any of you have some good lies about what this site might be? I thought of telling him that it's some soundcloud wannabe or something but I feel like he wont believe that

 

[hikikomorizombie]

i'd just say 'holy shit dude. plz mind ur business', lol. but seriously u don't owe him an explanation, whether it's lies or the truth. like u said he prob won't believe u anyways nor be satisfied until u show him.

thx for not giving him the site though. i really hope we can keep it to just ppl that really need to be here, & understand.

 

[casual_existence]

Tell him it's a neonazi website. It's not about the racism. It's about the memes.

 

[Suicidebydeath]

Tell him it's a neonazi website. It's not about the racism. It's about the memes.

Every time people write SS it brings back memories.

OP, maybe try to think of the most boring and mundane thing you can think of and tell them it's that. Or that it's a fiction forum, or something.

 

[Adûnâi]

Is he banned on Google?

 

[Sylveon]

Sylveon Supremacy― a forum where all the Sylveon fans express their love for the objectively best Pokémon.

 

[Little_Suzy]

Your girl's Only Fans. Sexy Sarah

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Say it's kind of a support group and that you don't want to address it anymore. That's a firm boundary you are allowed to set.

 

[penguinl0v3s]

My friend saw me when I was checking some stuff on here. I was on my phone and just looking at my pms, so he only saw the letters SS. It's been like a fucking month and he just wont stop asking me to tell him what this site is. I told him numerous times that he wont understand, that it's not for him and that I cant tell him.
Do any of you have some good lies about what this site might be? I thought of telling him that it's some soundcloud wannabe or something but I feel like he wont believe that

It means he knows... Given that you've already said he wouldn't understand, you should probably make it something tabboo like "Self-harm Support."

 

[Aergia]

Tell him it's sausage-strategies.net, a lesser-known culinary advice forum (this is why we're always discussing meat preservatives).

 

[absolutelyyou]

If you say anything other than "It's personal and I would like you to stop asking me" you should definitely avoid referring to it as a forum as if you google "ss forum" this site will show up on the first page of results. Just a heads up.

 

[AllCatsAreGrey]

Btw OP, did you know there are options in the preferences to remove the banner text. This may help avoid similar situations in the future.

 

[hikikomorizombie]

did you know there are options in the preferences to remove the banner text.

i tried that & it didn't work :( u just select hide banner right?

 

[absolutelyyou]

i tried that & it didn't work :( u just select hide banner right?

If you go to your preferences it is this option near the middle of the page https://sanctioned-suicide.net/account/preferences

 

[hikikomorizombie]

If you go to your preferences it is this option near the middle of the page https://sanctioned-suicide.net/account/preferences
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oops!!! i meant to type hide logo, not banneri checked it a bunch but it still won't go away :( maybe it's bc im using the 2020 Dark Pink version of the site & not the most recent 1??

 

[absolutelyyou]

Oh yeah that could absolutely be causing issues. Sometimes forum features dont work between versions. I used Dark 2022 and its nice, just purple accents instead of pink (and some of the light purple is close to pink!) I really liked the pink version more too lol

 

[AllCatsAreGrey]

oops!!! i meant to type hide logo, not banneri checked it a bunch but it still won't go away :( maybe it's bc im using the 2020 Dark Pink version of the site & not the most recent 1??

That totally may be the case. I'm unsure of what version I'm using (too lazy to look lol), but it makes sense that different versions may vary with this feature.

 

[Dysgenic Pup]

I'd post a Nazi meme but I'd prefer not to get banned.

 

[Deadfrogwalking]

Yoda answer,
Mmm business of yours it is not....

 

[nozomu]

My partner knows I use this website but not the name nor my username here. He doesn't ask, and surprisingly doesn't Google it.

I don't understand why some people need to know so badly about this place. It's like, if you actually need to be here, you'd find it with ease.

 

[nozomu]

I'd post a Nazi meme but I'd prefer not to get banned.

Good call, lol

 

[Morte]

tell him it's savage sex and it was recently banned from net because its too fucked up

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

Just tell your friend the truth. Being suicidal shouldn't be anything to ashamed of anymore. If your friend familiarizes himself with this site and can't understand why it exists or why you're here, he doesn't need to be your friend.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I tell my friends this is an incel forum (they themselves are not incels) and it works wonders in getting them to stop bothering me about it.

 

[IchijouRirika]

Tell him it's a neonazi website. It's not about the racism. It's about the memes.

I'm honestly surprised this was not the first thing the friend assumed honestly ngl (a bit of me deeply thinks he is assuming that tho and he wants confirmation on it)

 

[Thanksforeverything]

Just tell your friend the truth. Being suicidal shouldn't be anything to ashamed of anymore. If your friend familiarizes himself with this site and can't understand why it exists or why you're here, he doesn't need to be your friend.

This would depend on what your relationship with your friend is like. For example, I had told my best friend about my suicidal ideation and he understood. Of course, he tried his best to make me feel better about myself but he never downplayed it. We would even joke about how he checked his emails every day because he dreaded how one day he'll find a scheduled email from me that I sent before I died. I had to cut him off from my life after a point because I saw how my mental health problems were taking a toll on him because he genuinely cared. So, approach this with caution.

Also, unlike my friend, yours might not be particularly understanding. So depending on his personality, maybe refrain from explaining how you feel about suicide because the last thing you want to do is end up in a psych ward.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

This would depend on what your relationship with your friend is like. For example, I had told my best friend about my suicidal ideation and he understood. Of course, he tried his best to make me feel better about myself but he never downplayed it. We would even joke about how he checked his emails every day because he dreaded how one day he'll find a scheduled email from me that I sent before I died. I had to cut him off from my life after a point because I saw how my mental health problems were taking a toll on him because he genuinely cared. So, approach this with caution.

Also, unlike my friend, yours might not be particularly understanding. So depending on his personality, maybe refrain from explaining how you feel about suicide because the last thing you want to do is end up in a psych ward.

Anyone who has a friend that cares enough about them to take the effort snitch on them for their own good should consider themselves lucky. However, I can't imagine many scenarios where a true friend would do this. Especially if both are adults that respect each other's adult decisions. But you couldn't really blame them if they did. Ultimately if having a friend get you commited to the ward is a concern, then you'd tell your friend verbally, leaving no paper trail in the form of text as proof. It'd be his word against yours.

 

[Thanksforeverything]

Anyone who has a friend that cares enough about them to take the effort snitch on them for their own good should consider themselves lucky. However, I can't imagine many scenarios where a true friend would do this. Especially if both are adults that respect each other's adult decisions. But you couldn't really blame them if they did. Ultimately if having a friend get you commited to the ward is a concern, then you'd tell your friend verbally, leaving no paper trail in the form of text as proof. It'd be his word against yours.

Not a fan of the snitch aspect. There are a lot of people here who have suicidal ideation but have not gotten to a point where they are willing to act on it. But bring suicide up to anyone who doesn't understand the concept and all of a sudden you have people overreacting or telling you that you're begging for attention. And trust me, going to the psych ward will make your suicidal ideation ten times worse. I interact with people working in the field of psychology every day and trust me, it is an extremely underdeveloped branch of science that requires decades until it'll get remotely close to being effective for dealing with cases like this. It's effective in terms of internalizing a lot of things, getting into a routine and being mindful of yourself, but those hardly apply to someone who is thinking about taking their own lives and potentially already has plans for it. The kneejerk reaction to such cases is essentially lock that person up and pour meds down their throat and when our fucked medical infrastructure is no longer able to support it financially, let them out regardless of whether they get better or not.

The only way I'd tell my friends about my suicidal thoughts is if I know that they'll support me. I don't mean encourage me to do it, but that they'll maybe just be by my side. Also, this his word against your word thing is a slippery slope. This isn't a legal battle in court, and that logic often doesn't apply.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Say it's kind of a support group and that you don't want to address it anymore. That's a firm boundary you are allowed to set.

I think this is the best answer out of all of the answers given here. It isn't technically lying as this place is interpreted as a support group for some or most people here and your answer doesn't reveal the suicidal aspect of it

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

Not a fan of the snitch aspect. There are a lot of people here who have suicidal ideation but have not gotten to a point where they are willing to act on it. But bring suicide up to anyone who doesn't understand the concept and all of a sudden you have people overreacting or telling you that you're begging for attention. And trust me, going to the psych ward will make your suicidal ideation ten times worse. I interact with people working in the field of psychology every day and trust me, it is an extremely underdeveloped branch of science that requires decades until it'll get remotely close to being effective for dealing with cases like this. It's effective in terms of internalizing a lot of things, getting into a routine and being mindful of yourself, but those hardly apply to someone who is thinking about taking their own lives and potentially already has plans for it. The kneejerk reaction to such cases is essentially lock that person up and pour meds down their throat and when our fucked medical infrastructure is no longer able to support it financially, let them out regardless of whether they get better or not.

The only way I'd tell my friends about my suicidal thoughts is if I know that they'll support me. I don't mean encourage me to do it, but that they'll maybe just be by my side. Also, this his word against your word thing is a slippery slope. This isn't a legal battle in court, and that logic often doesn't apply.

It isn't a legal battle in court, but you can't get committed merely because a non-family member claims that you are suicidal without ironclad proof. Even then, the verbalization of intent really explicitly has to come from your own mouth, unless you have prior history of not being able to make your own decisions. At least that's how it works in my state, from my experience.

If you're confronted without proof and you don't want to be taken in, you simply project the aura that you're not suicidal and deny it. And if one doesn't have the capacity to do this in a specific scenario, then maybe the psych ward isn't all that bad of a destination. I've been in twice. And if anything, it woke me up. Sat in some support groups, became stabilized and actually made me temporarily appreciate life a little more after getting out.

Typically, the only medicine they "pour down your throat" are ones that you were already being prescribed prior to being admitted. If you weren't on any meds, then you can simply get out with satisfactory demeanor or clear experience of epiphany. Worst case scenario, you may be started on an SSRI or something, which you can simply choose to not continue taking after you get out. Even then, from my understanding, you can refuse the med completely based on a number of grounds, i.e. religious, personal credence, etc. If you're presenting the aforementioned satisfactory demeanor, they let you out. If you're wildin' out, then they may be forced to administer heavier meds. And quite frankly it'd be justified IMO. The last thing they want is for anyone getting discharged to be a danger to the public.

But all this really isn't my point. Of course, ideally you don't want it end up there. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm sick of suicide discussion being perceived as taboo. The fact that we feel that we need to hide it, just makes us look that much weirder. The expansion of legalized euthanasia stands no chance whatsoever of being accepted as long the shame and stigma of suicide remains.